Chin Up and Tits Out for the Recently Ditched No. 10

[googoomama]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Whether you are a new dumpling or a vet, feel free to join us in our quest for serenity
:) :(

I've just posted on your thread Tea

Waves night night to all :)

Reading the waves ggm. Well I would if I had any peace lol x

Oooh The Waves. Deeeeep.

Great - dd's 6th birthday - she's been up since 7am and he has not even bothered to ring and wish her happy birthday.

What a prick :(

Morning Kate. Yes, your ex is a prick. And worse. Just remember what he said last week. At the moment, his new woman is more important than his children. As my American SIL said about my exh "He needs to man up!"
Hope she has a lovely day anyway with her lovely mum and other sisters.
I'm going to the theatre in Newcastle later with my parents and the boys to see Wind in the Willows, followed by Pizza Express. I'm really looking forward to it :)

What I have learnt from my marriage is also that - no, some people do not mean what they say, they can lie to your face and say the opposite behind your back, they can be hypocrites (like the old saying 'the pot calling the kettle black'?), they can manipulate and use your genuine feelings against you and rewrite history to maintain their image to the world, they can have no conscience, no morals, purposely hurt you knowing what they are doing, they can live their life thinking only of themselves and get what they want by whatever means they can.......

Good morning to you all![smile}

And isn't it good that we are ridding ourselves of this type of person in 2011? No matter how painful it may be, we are going to be free of them! :)

Kate - I know it is hard, if he hasn't even phoned yet (he may well later), try your best to put it to the side and concentrate on the here and now of enjoying your dd's birthday. Don't let him ruin the day.

kate - prick doesn't cover it my lovely - if he can't put his child first on her birthday he is a waste of skin - hope you have an amazing day together - be good to yourselves.

deluded - you are so right about the lying and seflishness.

Hi everyone - only had time to read the last few posts. XH is with DD now (downstairs) and I am hiding doing things in my room! Hasn't even asked about her xmas - twunt. He looks like crap again though - why does that help!?!

Send me some strength guys - we're having athe money and access chat when DD goes for nap soon!

Strength sent from the north BOTG. Don't take any crap and rmember - a solicitor knows best! Much love to you fellow dumpling :)
Tea - you ok today? Hope you got lots of strength from your thread - some lovely affirmations on there. You have made such a difference to me on here you know and I think you are doing a great job. Don't beat yourself up - not smacking kids is nothing to beat yourself up about!!!!
Hi to everyone else. Theatre beckons - woo hoo! And that book "It's called a breakup cos it's broken" is so fab, I can't tell you! x

Stay strong and stand firm don't agree to anything UR not 100% happy with.
We have just woken up in the patience household LOL. Missed the morning completely,have a great day out ggm. Df UR awakening is great to read you will break free soon.

BOTG - good luck, stay strong with your 'chat'. It helps you because, let's face it, he has made you suffer, and you don't have to be a martyr.

Thanks goo - needed that, feeling a bit lonely, you know. He swans in from his new relationship and has fun with DD. I was here last night when she was ill (I text him to let him know, he text back 'thanks for letting me know' - whoopee!), I'll be here every time for all the bad (and good) buts. He's just some fuckwit who takes what he likes and ignores the rest.

Thanks urban and df (hate calling you deluded as I did earlier - know it's just a name but maybe the stuff about name change and self esteem is right - you're not deluded to us xx)

Hope you all have good days today - the lay in

Botg. Can't remember last time they slept that long (NEVER LOL )but up till half 12 last night so no time to myself at all yesterday X not been in touch since Sunday ,wot a jerk !

Ps heard UR cheating heart by hank Williams on the radio v good tune

Afternoon everyone!

At the risk of being a demanding leech, if anyone has the time/inclination, please can you look at the end of my thread and give your opinion on what Dittany has been saying.

Just posted on there Where and I think she is vile.

Also I would not be in a hurry to believe you were groomed by your xh or some of the other stuff popping up.

Yes he has been appalling but I think some people are getting carried away and dittany is a bully of the first order.

Back later

ps googoo have a lovely time at the theatre

BOTG be strong in your chat but dont worry if he tries to bully you its what happens in legal terms that counts. Sending you hugs though because some of those chats were the most hurtful and emotionally draining I had with xh.

Where I am so sorry you are having all this to deal with fwiw I think the idea he is sexually abusing your dd is just nonsense . He is just a selfish prat who needed an audience , its revolting but no more than that. Just out of interest at 16 isnt your dd at the point of making her own mind up ? I mean if she felt he was abusing her in some way she knows you wouldnt make her see him ?

Your thread is why I tend to only post on here because it angers me at times how people dish out views/advice without any insight into the other aspects of being left on your own.

Thankyou getting.

Glad goo enjoyed the theatre x

I also am lucky I found this thread and people had similar life experiences to me ,I would never have coped with my own thread ,I would now iyswim where,but it has taken that long ,people in my world did a very good job making me believe I wasn't good enough,well turns out I am good enough and pretty good at making decisions for me and my kids but its tuff having a wanker X ,toughest job I've ever done x

Where...please don't call yourself a demanding leech. It's not true and it does your selfesteem no good. It's a really horrid thing to say about yourself.

off to read your thread.

Hey everyone

Dongle not working am able to read but not comment grr

Keep strong everyone we are all doing fantastic and will continue to do so

take care

Just to say just watched ET and that mom had to deal with a space alien and govt intervention while her X was off with OW in Mexico Ffs !

Thanks for the strength guys - have to say i folded like a cheap towel! Let him hug and kiss me on the cheek, asked if he missed me, would ever ove anyone like he loved me, did he still find me attractive.

I know I'm an idiot! Why does it matter? He's not here, he left and treated/treats me like shit!?! Thing is, I know he's ill (depression, on AD's) and a part of me clings to thinks he's acting badly due to this.

I text him earlier to say all this talk of divorce and seeing him looking ill just seems so pointless. he said he's made no commitment there but he lives there. he said he hasn't told her he loves her YET but he text me when he left saying he did. there's so much I want to get out and I don;t want this post to be epic and take up all your time lovely dumplings but I feel like I'm drowning here. I miss him, his touch, his presence, being kissed. It's lonely, crap and hard

where - I tried to read ur thread - am struggling today so hard to take in and post there - but from what I saw Dittany was going too far. You're not a failure as a mum or wife. Don't lay this on you but don't excuse him. I disagree about the sexual abuse but he is emotionally abusing your daughter. If you are concerned you have every right to restrict his access. if you see a sol you can lay it all out and if he wants unsupervised access you can ask for a CAFCASS (sp?) report to assess his ability.