Can anyone talk to me about sub/dom relationships?

[CuriousSub]

Right, well, I have been here a loooong time but have name changed for this.

I came to these boards when I found out about my stbxh's affair and the advice here was great and really helped. I went through hell for 3 years but I am now in the process of divorcing him.

So now I am testing the water and have frequented some dating sites and have been speaking to a gorgeous guy who is far too young for me and we got to talking about what we like. It turns out I love being dominated and he was looking for a sub.

Sooo, we have been texting, emailing and now speaking to each other and the whole idea is driving me mad with desire. I am actually short of breath when he suggests things.

This is something I hadn't even thought about before but I definitely want to see this through. He wants to meet and I would love to.

But I wanted to ask here is anyone has been/is a sub? What is expected of you? Where is the best place to look for advice/ideas?

Sorry, I know it isn't Friday yet - but nearly!!

He so isn't the man I am meeting!!

Talk about jumping to conclusions

We have just PM'd each other. Not properly talked. I am not giving out my bloody phone number to everyone. I know you all think I am loopy but I am not.

I have talked lots to the man I am meeting, but I think I will ask for an armed guard to attend just in case

No need to get arsey

I didn't think he was the man you are meeting, bh

But Ido think he has an unhealthy interest in you, CS, sparked by your obvious vulnerability displayed for the whole world to see on his thread

This "unsolicited contact" you say you have received...did it start after you posted this thread and what form has it taken ?

Hi AF, it has stopped now. Honestly, BM has been fine. We are miles apart anyway so please dont worry. He has just suggested visiting websites which others on here already have.

ok, be careful

AF is the frosting on you pie melting(hmm)

batman, you are virtually illiterate

perhaps you should spend more time on an educational website, rather than talking about kinky sex on a parenting website

just a thought

Do you think your stalker is back AF?

What a sad loser he must be, if this is how he has to get his kicks.

girls come on
just stick to advise on the thread

I have bm, I have advised OP that you are dodgy and should be given the swerve

that is excellent advice

mal, perhaps, he was a swinging cock too

"girls"???? ffs. semi literate, pervy and a patronising arse....

add idiotic to that too

idiotic enough to use the same username all over the internet

oooh. is it worth a google then?

CS, i see you havent changed your mind.

Can i ask, why you want to do this?

What is the reason?

am i the only one DYING to know what happened @ the meet and greet?

Well, not DYING. But certainly curious.

I've just read through this entire thread...wow!!!!

A classic MN job if ever I saw.

I too want to know how it all went!

I have just read it all too and want to know how the big meet went.
Where are you CuriousSub??

fetlife.com is good too. lots of help and advice.

I am a collared slave by the way...pm me if you like. The big rule for me is don't be rushed. Don't neglect your safety, both physical and mental. Submitting to another is a mental thing and can leave you terribly vulnerable.

Hugs

I am not exactly dying just holding my breath to here how the meet and greet went.

Can't help feeling the silence from OP is a bad sign. As I read through it all, I was agreeing with AF all the way. Am I being overly cynical in thinking this bloke could say anything you would want to hear up until the point where you are too vulnerable to stop him doing whatever he wanted? This game sounds like one that needs a lot of trust.

However, I could be wrong and OP is too busy having a wildly fun time to bother with us!!!

OK, didn't realise anyone was that interested but, here is an update.

Never met the guy in the end. I did want to but, to be honest, I think he just loved the build up but then didn't want to go through with it.

Part of me was relieved, part of me was bloody annoyed. It was fun for a while.

I have now joined one of the websites recommended and have been "chatting" to another guy who has said he feels this sort of sex is better within the confines of a proper relationship. He has asked to meet me for coffee to see if we like each other. We shall hopefully meet in the next week or so (in a public place!).

I am also embarrassed to say this new guy is 29

And, not to be nasty, but the chance of you having a proper relationship with a 29 year old you've met on a fetish site is what, exactly?

Oh, CuriousSub, did you see the original guy on webcam or just photos? If so, he may well not have been as described on the packet.

Oh, CuriousSub, did you see the original guy on webcam or just photos? If so, he may well not have been as described on the packet.