Can anyone talk to me about sub/dom relationships?

[CuriousSub]

Right, well, I have been here a loooong time but have name changed for this.

I came to these boards when I found out about my stbxh's affair and the advice here was great and really helped. I went through hell for 3 years but I am now in the process of divorcing him.

So now I am testing the water and have frequented some dating sites and have been speaking to a gorgeous guy who is far too young for me and we got to talking about what we like. It turns out I love being dominated and he was looking for a sub.

Sooo, we have been texting, emailing and now speaking to each other and the whole idea is driving me mad with desire. I am actually short of breath when he suggests things.

This is something I hadn't even thought about before but I definitely want to see this through. He wants to meet and I would love to.

But I wanted to ask here is anyone has been/is a sub? What is expected of you? Where is the best place to look for advice/ideas?

Sorry, I know it isn't Friday yet - but nearly!!

I did read CS's post before it was deleted. Also the subsequent post she made the next morning, explaining why she had said what she did.

She explained that she had drunk too much and that she was feeling emotional. I too was concerned about what she had said - about having a death wish and not caring whether she got hurt or not. I am also convinced that she probably was confused and possibly upset, because of all the negative replies she had received on here for the better part of the day (I have personal experience of that).

Up until her concerning post, she sounded like a confidant and mature woman, one who is taking the brave step of being honest with herself about her sexual preferences - one who is bold enough to explore it further and having great fun whilst doing so - someone who is excited about life, probably for the first time in a very long time.

It is only natural to have conflicting emotions when one is experiencing the significant life changes that CS is going through at the moment. And giving her a hard time (notably by only a small number of posters)about what is considered normal and what not, really did not help the doubts she was having.

As long as she takes the necessary safety precautions (as one would in any dating situation), then she will be fine. And if she feels that she is not ready to meet the man, then I think she is mature enough to make the right decision - she is after all not a child anymore.

hahahahahahahahaaaaaaa!

Priceless!

The things men will do to try and get a blow job.

The extract misses out the bit where Jesus explains that "Whoever drinks this water will be thirsty again but whoever drinks the water I will give him will never be thirsty again. The water that I will give him will become in him a spring which will provide him with life-giving water and give him eternal life."

Thus showing that by "Living water" Jesus is referring to something spiritual.

What does the gospel according to Beavis and Butthead sacredsemen.com make of the above verses only referring to males receiving the living water? That Jesus was only talking about gay sex?

When Jesus asks her to call her husband, he does so to point out her so-called immorality, because he knows she has been married five times and is not married to her current partner. This knowledge convinces her of him being a prophet. But this website reckons Jesus was about to show her how to give a blow job? Aye caramba!

Thank you SA, this was even better than I thought.

curiousSub I am also very worried for you. I know you said you were drunk the other night, even so, those are very disturbing feelings and don't just come from nowhere. Would you not consider postponing the meeting with the man?

@ ISMKSClaus - Great post.

@Balloonslayer - I wonder where you got the impression that a blow job was part of the equation. See what happens when you try to process spiritual matters through a limited mind? Still, glad to see you got a laugh out of it.

from this bit: "When the woman asks Jesus where she can get this ?water?, he tells her to fetch her husband, clearly with the intention of instructing her on how to fellate him and swallow his semen. "

or were you joking?

whoops forgot me

Balloon and Surrey - It really is a matter of interpretation - you each interpret that part of the scriptures differently - there is no sin in that.

For what it's worth, I do not agree with either interpretation, but humorous and entertaining as it is, I do not think that this is really the place to have such a discussion?

"I think your statement is debatable, particularly from spanky man's point of view."

You are a spanky man Dittany? I'm quite surprised - I thought you were dead set against that kind of thing, never mind.

Surrey, I totally agree that this is not the place to discuss such matters.

A pity, then, that you brought it up.

"You certainly could do with lining your throat with some spunk given how joyless you sound ."

what a horrible statement

an apology is in order for that, I think

SA, did you mean to sound like a woman-hating man?, 'cos that was a fine example of that mindset

if this is how you spiritually-higher spunk-supping people address one another then I am glad to not be a part of it

there was absolutely no need for that

let's hope shall we, that SA is ok...physically and emotionally after some of you stupid women don't recognize a person on the edge of getting very hurt and continue to encourage her in such risky behaviour

this lady has "abuse me" written all over her, and some idiots are spouting complete bollocks to detract from the real issue here

sorry, I meant that curious sub is ok

bloody hell, that was quick...

dittany, I commented that SA was "not ok" (following my typo above)

she must have really spat the dummy out at that, but is happy to say what she did to you

strange decision to delete my comment by MN Towers, I think, but whatever

< awaits further deletion >

I was pretty bewildered by that deletion too, AF

BS, I wracked my brains to try and remember if I did say summat really horrible

but I didn't...do you remember it that way too ?

absolutely not in the same class as SA's woman-hating, vile post

@ AF ? The only person due an apology from me is CuriousSub for hijacking and derailing her thread. End of.

As for the comment that I ?spat my dummy out? hardly! but it warms my woman-hating heart to see you have a healthy opinion of your ability to get under my skin! For your information, I did not see it before it got deleted and if you are still convinced that a post that would leave Ballonslayer ?bewildered? is worthy of a comment and reaction from me, please PM it. I am quite happy to respond.

@ Balloonslayer - yes, pity WE both took part in it.

SA

Derail away, SA!! I am enjoying reading this thread. It is interesting how it is evolving

I wasn't around last night. Went to works xmas party. Spent the evening being chatted up by a 28yr old - very nice too I will save him for another time though!

Thanks for your messages Isawmommy, and your support.

OP- please don't be offended if i say that this thread is hilarious.