Can anyone talk to me about sub/dom relationships?

[CuriousSub]

Right, well, I have been here a loooong time but have name changed for this.

I came to these boards when I found out about my stbxh's affair and the advice here was great and really helped. I went through hell for 3 years but I am now in the process of divorcing him.

So now I am testing the water and have frequented some dating sites and have been speaking to a gorgeous guy who is far too young for me and we got to talking about what we like. It turns out I love being dominated and he was looking for a sub.

Sooo, we have been texting, emailing and now speaking to each other and the whole idea is driving me mad with desire. I am actually short of breath when he suggests things.

This is something I hadn't even thought about before but I definitely want to see this through. He wants to meet and I would love to.

But I wanted to ask here is anyone has been/is a sub? What is expected of you? Where is the best place to look for advice/ideas?

Sorry, I know it isn't Friday yet - but nearly!!

Dittany, I don't really agree with your POV on this thread but I always find your posts thought-provoking and extremely valuable. I wish I knew you in real life.

CS, glad to see you feeling better

Same BalloonSlayer, Dittany definately has challenging, insightful views. Just don't really see eye to eye with her on this

SurreyAmazon - Thank you for your kind words and I think your description of the after effects of the endorphin rush is so apt.

This place is a hoot.

After only two postings, I have been told that I was the subject of sexual harassment; have been "hit"; told that it is good I no longer work in HR; told that with my attitude I would not help women to achieve equal pay (HELLO!!!!); that I sound "trapped" and not "very happy"; advised to stay off the wine; and that alcohol is used as a form of self-medication for pain.

Hubby and myself are just back after getting the Christmas Tree. Apart from holiday time, buying the Christmas Tree (and some presents) is the only bit of shopping we do together. When I'm shopping, he is usually playing golf. Bold boy - I think I should spank him.

I regard myself as one of the luckiest people on this planet - so, how I could be throwing off vibes of discontentment is a source of mystery to me. This thread was a bit of an eye opener for me, in the sense that I discovered that I was not in a minority of one in having a longing to repeat a most pleasurable experience.

What this has done for me, is made me realise that I tend to be too passive in initiating fresh approaches in the bedroom. I am too conscious of Hubby's natural disposition to conservatism - although, we do have a lovely time together. It is up to me to bring him along - over time.

Although he is suffering a bit today - from a good evening out and a few more glasses when he got home. I must check with him that he not self-medicating for pain.

Give him some spunk on toast for breakfast in the morning, that should bring his mojo back up to speed

Can I just make it all kick off again. I am a slave not just a sub. I trust my master implicitly. I feel the most loved I ever have done. I am a former victim of domestic violence and there are no imilarities what so ever.

cripes, this is all a bit much for me now
hippymummy I have to ask, who's your master? Is it your DP/DH. Are these roles you play. My mind is boggling!!

My master ia also someone I met online, who turned out to be very handsome and a gentleman(well when it matters)It's partially a role but for both of us it comes naturally. With a master slave relationship there are no safe words so trust is extremely important.

What happens if you say no or disagree with him?

Where's the fun in blindly obeying someone (or being blindly obeyed) - what happens when you are ill, or have raging pmt, for example?

bovvered ?

Hippymummy, would this be the very same man that you wanted advice about because he was looking for sex online?

I was going to stay off this thread but I now want to know how and why someone thinks a mythical figure consumed jizz?

nope, I went onto some sites too to get my own back and ended up meeting someone (blush) I know it's double standards but I am very happy now.

oops meant this one

Malificence: I generally find myself a bit about 24/7 D/s relationships, as a lot of the people who favour them are nuts or arseholes, but I have met one or two couples who manage both to enjoy it and not take it too seriously.
Though, perhaps tellingly, the couple I know who are the most together, entertaining and nice people who happen to have a full-time dom-sub relatinship - the dominant partner is her, not him.

Ooooh you're a brave woman discussing this on MN, hippy. I've met one or two couples in M/s rel.ships and they do seem very happy. Do you have DC though? I'm not sure anything 24/7 is really compatible with that ... or have things not progressed that far yet?

dittany, that is precisely why I love Mumsnet

So hippymummy, you've known this man for all of oooh, about a fortnight then?

How can he be your master when you barely know each other? - please be careful.

Mmmm, spunk on toast, full of spunky goodness. The only way to start the day.

(Faints clean away)

I almost thought for a moment there, dittany, that you didn't realise I was on a pisstake about Surrey's quite ridiculous post about Jesus scoffing the Elixir of Life

"I swear Mumsnet is pretty much the only place you're going to see mentions of spunk in toast for breakfast in a discussion."

Mumsnet, and Eton, surely?