A womens perspective

[MrSpoc]

Hi All,

Just looking for some advice if possible.

got two DS one is 2.5 and the other is 8m.

Wife and I have not had proper intimacy for a while (i mean real intimacy) we do have sex once a week on a Sat night (not making love more a chore for her)

I thought I would be honest with her last night and said that I miss us having real kisses. this was taken completely the wrong way and ended up being that she is scared of showing me affection and that she has deliberately distanced herself from me because in her eyes, I always want to take it further.

I realise that she has changed but im really confused in what I should do. Do i leave her alone until she initiates any sort of holding hands, cuddles kisses etc.

At the moment I just feel that she does not want me.

Any advice would be appreciated. thanks,

I'm only asking the obvious question about why a happily married MAN is on a site for MUMS! I do see why the OP is on here, he was looking for a female's perspective. Bit different in his case, I think.

I didn't ask the questions of Larry because I disagreed with his viewpoint (I didn't, entirely.) I didn't like the way he expressed it, though, or that he was so dismissive of the people on here, saying so many are separated/divorced etc.

Maybe Mumsnet is a misleading name, and most people on here are simply parents?

I can't imagine, though, wondering about what chat forums to look at and thinking 'I know, I'll go on Dadsnet!' It just doesn't add up.

Matilda - Have you ever read the line underneath? By parents for parents There is a section for Dad's and they are welcome all over the boards!! Not only 'to ask a question' but to contribute as well. How sexist and narrow minded are you to think only Mums are allowed an opinion on issues that relate to being a parent.

Liking or disliking Larry's viewpoint doesn't entitle you to question why he posts here.

I think most people either are told about Mumsnet by friends or google a question and a relevant thread comes up. Quite a high number of posters aren't parents either - should they not be allowed to post?

Just for the record... I NEVER mentioned the word affair in my post. I would never class a bit of flirting as an affair.

I gave him advice which is what he asked for and TBH I thought it was quite good I tried to make him understand things form his wifes point of view.

If my DH had done what the OP had done (yes I am happily married) I would not be impressed and I think I would start to have trust issues too!

Think what you like, ChippingIn. If he's entitled to his opinion, so am I.

Matilda - Mumsnet isnt only for mums. Its for parents. Also there are people on here without children. I am one of them. Doesnt mean im not allowed to post here. You dont know the reasons why I, or anyone else for that matter, come to this site and post.

"How sexist and narrow minded are you to think only Mums are allowed an opinion on issues that relate to being a parent"

Read what I said, both of you. I said he was entitled to his opinion (aren't we all?), I just didn't like the way he expressed it. Nor do I think it's appropriate to resort to name-calling - I'm neither sexist nor narrow-minded. Anyone who knows anything about me personally or the kind of life I've led so far would be laughing out loud at this, it's very wide of the mark.

It's completely obvious that anyone on earth is entitled to be on here. I would have thought that goes without saying.. I'm simply saying I don't understand his degree of interest in a place like this. He doesn't need to explain himself to me, I'm just saying.. and - as you've both said - it would seem I'm entitled to.

Oh I did read what you said

Larrygrylls... who on earth is this person? And what is a 'happily married man' doing surfing a chat forum on Mumsnet, ffs?