It's all about......ME! :)

[BibiBlocksberg]

Hello to all and a Medal for those of you that stayed over all 16 pages of the 'It's all about him' thread.

Since it has gotten so big and since I will most likely going to be droning on about this for a little while I thought it would be easier to just start a new thread.

Must say I prefer the new title

For those that didn't read the mammoth previous thread, in a nutshell it's about me dithering to leave partner of 8 years. No sex life for a year, he's very self centred and unmotivated etc, no future to speak of, fed up.

Finally told him I want to split up last night so am now using MN as my lifeline to ensure I really do get out of this excuse for a relationship.

Thank you all again for letting me do this and your support :)

Arf!

Maybe this guy fancies you and has his child for Christmas day and thought he would use him as an excuse to get to meet you, and what better way than a carol singing kid!

I reckon he was a burglar and he was sending his kid round to check who was in. I am a cynical old gimmer, though....

I am so painfully full I cannot move, but it was a lovely day.

Very proud of you for making yourself a roast, Bibi. You have learned well

I like the theories apart from you Nora.

That thought had crossed MY mind as well (v. cynical too)

It was just the way they both trotted off altogether without trying any of my neighbours that I thought was odd.

Bit nervous now.......

Throw leftover sprouts at them. It could just be someone spreading christmas cheer. Bit pissed, son says daddy I want to go carol singing he thinks why not....

Well, maybe, it's just the father was so well, lurky is all I can describe it as.

The kid was lovely, very bright and friendly talking to me about his cat etc.

Best try and put it out of my mind now or I'll be lying in bed convinced I can hear burglars.

Meant to say Nora - glad Zibit 'gate' turned out ok in the end :)

My son is a superstar. He was so brave about it and still found it in his heart to be pleased for his brother and sister when they opened their main presents. I shed many tears last night though!

Actually feeling rather smug as both he and his sister have come to me and said their favourite part of christmas is giving each other presents. How lovely is that!

Aaah, little sweeties. As someone said (was it you?) the kids won't remember this but you will :)

Oi Cats!

Strews prawns about the room.

Just in the nick of time again Katisha - immaculate timing.

And tiger prawns too, no expense spares :)

Am being pathetic this afternoon upsetting myself because there isn't anyone in RL now that I'm close to or would give a crap about little old me (sob)

If someone could administer a kicking please to help me snap out of it!!

Hope everyone is having a relaxing boxing day btw!!

spared i mean :(

By this time next year things will be different because you will have launched into a different way of life, and you won't be reliant on Cap'n Stick in the Mud for your social life.

Boxing Day something of a washout here as everyone still languishing with lurgy. DH hopeless at being ill and still feels we should all be rushing about "or else its a waste of the holiday". So he is fretting about suddenly urgent jobs to do around the place...

There are upsides to having your own company!

Yeah, I'll probably look back on this christmas with rose tinted glasses in years to come.

Oh the peace, the quiet, the selfish indulgence, come back all is forgiven Ill more than likely wail (with any luck) :) :)

Sorry to hear your day is something of a washout. I used to live with a guy who couldn't sit still so feel your pain that way.

Perhaps hot 'adult' hot chocolate laced with copious amounts of Brandy would 'calm' him down a little?

He'll have to do with a cup of tea and mince pie!

Perfect Family Christmases don't exist.

Thank you Judge Judy Katisha

hi bibi

all is quiet here, so thought I would pop in

sorry you are feeling a bit low, 'tis to be expected

people give a crap about you, don't be under any illusions about that

what flavour supernoodles have you had for your Boxing Day dinner then ?

Thanks AF, keep trying to shake off the self pity but keeps coming back today, damn it to hell.

I know people give a crap, I've seen that from all the responses on here but am considered a bit weird in RL I think so worried that I'll still be sat here crying into the cats fur next christmas

Scares the crap out of me to think I've now got to build myself a happy life from scratch

Super Noodels - am supposed to be having boiled potatoes, cold sliced turkey and salad I'll have you know but have been major lazy slattern today.

The Cap'n couldn't stand boiled potatoes so was quite looking forward to it but just too lazy atm.

What did you have?

aww, you can't will the self-pity away

have a wallow, you deserve it

we had a late brunch after a long lie in, so not eaten yet, but just having a pizza later

I cannot be arsed to cook

Sounds lovely, brunch and pizza I mean.

I'm sure you run around and cook enough the rest of the year AF so nothing wrong with a break tonight.

Just washed up actually, so talking to you has pushed me into action for some reason.

Boiled pots here I come.... :)

I DID have Super Noodles yesterday at ca 2am though since I'd had dinner so early. Wouldn't want to leave them out of the christmas menu altogether

I have lots of breaks < ahem >

enjoy your boiled spuds

I think you need to remember you are starting a new life from a pretty solid place. You have a house, your cats, a job, colleagues who care about you, friends to eat chilli with, complete strangers online who will always listen. You just get to add the garnishes of lovely hobbies and exciting events to it. Plus an enormous sense of satisfaction from knowing that you have ABSOLUTELY DONE THE RIGHT THING FOR YOU .

Think about how much can happen in a year. Chances are that next Christmas you will be raising a glass to the last twelve months and wondering how you fitted it all in. You can find your own pace now, and I am pretty sure it will be a lot faster and more exciting than Captain Sorry's.

For what it's worth you don't come across as weird, you come across as someone I'd like to have a pint with. And I'm not weird at all. Honest

Frankly I would imagine the only reason you are seen as weird in real life is because you wasted so much time with him. Unless you take your cats to work in a basket and spend all day talking to them

Sorry, epic post to read while you eat your boiled spuds!

aww, BN, you are nice

what a pity we can't all take bibi out for a drink (I can't manage pints though, I am faaaar too refined for that )

"Unless you take your cats to work in a basket and spend all day talking to them"

Yeeeeaaah....(said in pointed drawn out way, not Cowboy like Yeeehaaa)

Thank you for outing me bloomingnora, thank you so much. :)

I AM in fact like the mad cat lady from the Simpsons.

A recent description of me was 'intensen' this from one of my chilli eating friends.

Then again she's so laid back she's bloody horizontal so there (sticks out tongue)

I digress, thank you for the pep talks nora and AF (and the stern look)

Boiled pots ready now, salad made, turkey sliced. Get me from zero to dinner hero :)

P.S - would love to have a half pint with you guys as well. Would have a pint but too much for me :)

Unless I had a pint of Baileys a la Royle family last night of course

I can drink a pint of Baileys, no problem

just not all in one glass