It's all about......ME! :)

[BibiBlocksberg]

Hello to all and a Medal for those of you that stayed over all 16 pages of the 'It's all about him' thread.

Since it has gotten so big and since I will most likely going to be droning on about this for a little while I thought it would be easier to just start a new thread.

Must say I prefer the new title

For those that didn't read the mammoth previous thread, in a nutshell it's about me dithering to leave partner of 8 years. No sex life for a year, he's very self centred and unmotivated etc, no future to speak of, fed up.

Finally told him I want to split up last night so am now using MN as my lifeline to ensure I really do get out of this excuse for a relationship.

Thank you all again for letting me do this and your support :)

Oh yes absolutely. I am certain he thinks he is just "following orders"...

Inert as ever...

I think in time you will be able to see a point to the last ten years. At the moment all you can see is the bitter end to them. And I think its right at this point, and especially at this time of year, to think "out with the old, in with the new". Thank goodness you didn't decide to stick in the confort zone and choose everlasting inertia, however difficult that feels at the moment.

Dammit, cross posted. That is a shitty excuse for being shitty. And you don't even know if it's true. You will never get the answer to why he has behaved like this.

Thanks nora, am going to join the early to bed brigade myself in a minute.

Really behind at work and they're going to insist on kicking us out early again tomorrow.

An indecently early start is the only way to combat it

Thanks for the advice, really need to get over the 'round the mulberry bush' of why hasn't he been in contact and will be ok then I'm sure.

x posted - didn't see the other posts there too

"Now you are free to meet a real man who will be worthy of you"

Mmh, if I'm honest there was a part of me that had thought/hoped that he was that person (I know, totally contradictory)
and me having a total tantrum and kicking him out would finally see him putting up a fight/making a proper effort.

Fantasy again I know - that's probably why I didn't notice two weeks go by. Too busy pretending he'd only just gone and would tell/show me his undying love soon.

Bigheaded? Moi??? Nooooo :)

Good job he didn't then, cos you would have folded.

And then fast forward in a few years to you posting about how he ignores the DCs and prefers the x-box, while expecting you to look after them plus do everything around house etc...

"Good job he didn't then, cos you would have folded."

You could very well be right there - on both counts.

Right, off to bed now (third time I've said that over various threads tonight)

Good night and thanks for comments - invaluable as always right now as will help me stop the 'Magic Roundabout' way of thinking :)

Morning all. Bibi - I was thinking of making a big "2010" out of...well, something flammable tonight, and throwing it into a big bonfire. Might you join me? 2011 is going to be so much better.

Yep, I'll go with the making of the 2010 sign.

What shall I do? A bit of cutting? Gluing on of pictures of bad 2010 things?

Build the bonfire? Buy the firelighters?

Might bring some of my Chilli to the event (veggie for you ElfPants)

just popping my head in to say "a better New Year for you than last year"

Onwards and Upwards !

I am away until Monday eve now, so best warm wishes to Bibi and all the Bibettes < rah rah >

xx

Happy New Year AnyFucker (my fave MN name), have a nice time away.

Bibi & Elfpants - I shall look out for the warm glow of your bonfire tonight. Think of me as you get merry - my plans scuppered by this morning's diagnosis of gallstones or stomach ulcer. Either way, no booze for me tonight .

Happy New Year to you AnyFucker, and all the litte Fuckers Bloody right it's going to be better!

Bibi - love the idea of sticking on pictures of bad 2010 things. Worldwide disasters and private ones equally appropriate.

Yes please to the chilli, and well remembered!

I've got plenty of wood for the bonfire, don't worry.

OH BUGGER Nora, so sorry. Hope you have some nice, er, fruit punch or something. :(

Thanks AF and have a lovely time tonight.

for your diagnosis nora.

At least you will be the smug one tomorrow when you don't have a hang-over!!

"Yes please to the chilli, and well remembered!"

Thoughtful is MY proper christened name you know. Thoughtful Blocksberg. That's what got me into all my trouble in the first place

I've just been out and bought myself some Schloer That'll be just the same as the g & t followed by champagne that I was planning. Never mind, it's a small price to pay if I avoid that pain and I can drive our dinner guests home

No, definitely stick with the no hang-over tomorrow for cheering yourself up nora.

Get up early and go out somewhere nice leaving any kids you may have in the care of tonights drinker :) :)

And nip out to buy said possibly non existent kids a very noisy toy to be played with ALL day tomorrow.

Oh dear, not sure where these evil plans are coming from today :)

Well my personal religious text says "Blessed are the vegetarian chilli-makers, for they shall inherit the earth if I've got anything to do with it which sadly I haven't".

It's the anti-Bibi coming out, the evil part!

Bad luck nora. Hope you get it sorted out soon.
We have a party up the road to go to, including kids, so I don't think we'll be staying until midnight - too fraught. A houseful of boys aged 9-13 will be Just Too Much.

:) ElfPants - that reminds me of that scene from Life of Brian blessed are the Greek. No, the Meek.

Aww - it's nice they're getting somefink

Rather you than me to that party scenario Katisha.

Right, time to check the bank balance to see if I can afford anything stronger than Wine to see me safely into 2011.

Well the main thing to remember tonight, Bibi, is that the rest of the world is NOT having more fun than you!
So much stress for people on NYE, brought on by telly and films where people are always at glam parties, getting proposed to, on cruise liners, blah blah.

If I'd known in advance I would have posted my booze to you, Bibi!

Blessed are the cheesemakers...

"Blessed are the cheesemakers..."

Shut up, BigNose!! :)

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Well the main thing to remember tonight, Bibi, is that the rest of the world is NOT having more fun than you!"

Thanks I will def. be thinking of you all with your various ailments and rowdy parties and think myself lucky.

Oh, booze budgets gone up since the council gave me a reprieve on my last payment until 1st Feb.

Just as well since I've just paid out for car tax today.

Phew, southern comfort here I come..... :)

I read that as "being EXPOSED to" Katisha and was just pondering on the strange things some people find fun/glamorous.

Yum, Southern Comfort. I hate NYE and usually boycott it as being no fun at all.

I'm a bundle of laughs really, honest.

Hey Bibi. You are doing great.

I am going to send you a PM now.

"He's not the Messiah he's a very naughty boy!"

Hey Bibi did you remember to tell the Council you are a single person now and therefore should get a discount on Council Tax? That would give you enough back to plan a very Merry New Year.

Have a happy evening. I have been invited out by a lovely gang of over 70s for the evening. Maybe one will have a visiting gorgeous son!

Roll on 2011...

well there's no accounting for taste Elf...