I don't fancy him anymore because he farts ALL THE TIME

[CaroJo]

I'm sorry. I know how ridiculous this title sounds and I have thought long and hard whether to post in the first place...but I really don't know what else to do.

DP and I have only been together for 5 years (getting married in 6 months), we are only in our 20s and already our sex life has dwindled to almost nothing. The reason for this is me not fancying him anymore - physically that is. I know how shallow and selfish this sounds but to me love and sex have always been two separate things. While I love DP as a person and find his personality attractive, I can't get over the fact that he farts all the time. ALL THE TIME, every day. Proper loud trumps, on average 3 times an hour, often more. The first thing I hear of him in the morning, is a massive fart. The last thing I hear before I go to sleep, is a massive fart.

I have reached the point where all I associate with the physical side of our relationship is FART! I feel like such a cow. Surely at this point in our relationship I should fancy the pants off him, no?

When I tell him how I feel, he doesn't seem to get the message how big of a deal his issue is to me. How can I get married like this? I seriously don't know what to do...I know how trivial this sounds compared to the problems other people have on here but I'm really questioning this relationship and myself :(

do not marry this repulsive trumpeter

gingerwig I am crying with laughter over this comment of yours.

Marantha,One of my more succinct contributions, then?

Oh yes. This thread has me laughing all the way but, by goodness, your comment is the icing on the cake! A big, full -of- air, puffed-up souffle of a cake!

I suspect that I am still single because I love a good fart!

Another vote for do not marry him til this is sorted. If it's true that the GP did nothing - get another GP.
He should be tested for coeliac in the first place. As others have said, it's a blood test in the first place.

and to the IBS person who posted earlier who uses Actimel - you would be much much much better to get yourself good quality probiotics.

You can't possible marry this man!

He just doesn't care enough about you to go and fart in the bathroom! For god's sake, that is disrespectful behaviour.

Of course you don't fancy him - why would you? And he's obviously happier with you sleeping in another room - BEFORE YOU MARRY!!! - than he is tackling the very real problem he has.

Arrghhh I can't believe you're even THINKING of marrying him!

possibly, of course!

Most kids go through a phase of doing loud loud stinky farts that they find hilarious , many parents dont like it and stamp it out , im one of them .

This is the behaviour of a silly little boy , not an adult man and i couldnt respect a man who does that all the time . My young dd came and sat next to me the other week , did a stinky fart then moved away quickly laughing . I was incensed , i dont want to smell anybodys fart .

I presume he doesn't do this as a demonstration of lack of respect towards you, on purpose?

I have experience of the above. It is like someone telling you 'p... off, not listening, don't respect you.'

Having read the whole thread, but I see you have told him all this. Tell him that quite frankly it's become a big turn-off towards him now and in order for your sex life to happen/get back to normal - he will have to respect how you feel and a pop out of the room he's in with you to fart etc...

I think I would get p....d with it in the end, and it would make me feel - you just don't listen at all to what I say/doesn't matter/not willing to take on board any adjustments whatsoever to my behaviour.

dignified, I have had this with my dc - but they are CHILDREN.

Let's face it - in the end, it's not very sexy is it. Doesn't make you want to be 'very intimate' if you take my point. God knows what may happen!

You could end up thinking when he comes home - 'farter's back'.

How long has been farting so much? Has he always done this much farting during your five years together, or has it increased recently?

Hmm - sorry but I also suspect that if you don't physically fancy him any more then that's a REALLY hard thing to get back from, farts or no farts.

Not your fault, clearly, but sadly that seems to be the reality.

I do however disagree with many posters on here who think farting shows a lack of respect - I'd say it can show intimacy and that you are comfortable with someone. But that's just my opinion, and obviously the factor of just how bad they are plays a big part... Does he think you are being unreasonable to ask him to stop?

HouseofB- my DH wishes to divorce me. When I try to talk to him, he farts instead of talking as a message of shut up, f... off.

iifsn That is the only example I have ever heard of flatulence being used as a weapon of passive/ aggression.

'Farter's back'

ROFL x million!

'Flatulence being used as a weapon' is making me PMSL. :o

Farting and agression in same sentence. :o

'Your aggressive farting is doing my swede in!'

'But, darling, if you didn't feed me swede, I would not fart!'
See what he's done here? Turned the blame back on the woman. Bloody men.

My DH is also a regular farter. He seems to be able to control it when he wants to but thinks it's funny the rest of the time and that I should be able to allow him to relax in his own home!

I love my DH and for me his positive qualities out-weigh his farting negative qualities.

This is a funny thread but OP, you need to decide whether you can be with this man (farts 'n' all) without feeling pissed off about it on a daily basis or whether you can keep it in the perspective of his (hopefully!) many other positive qualities :)