All New Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 9

[WarriorQueen]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Whether you are a new dumpling or a vet, feel free to join us in our quest for serenity

It's not urgent urgent but when this thread gets to 1000 no one will be able to post anymore.

I just thought for a change it would be nice to leave a link for everyone to follow and fun to include some of our motos. But it's always in Relationships and is generally entitled "All New Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No.10" But thought we could add Chin up Tits out or something funny somewhere or talk about pampering. I don't know I have a rubbish imagination. LOL

WQ started this one, I began the one before and Starting begun the one before that.

No special person has to begin it really Googoo, go on have a go if you fancy it and are up for it The first post can be as welcoming and friendly or funny as you like, as long as it invites women who've been ditched in some such way.

Off to clean my teeth and get ready for bed. Exciting life I lead

Sorry to disappear. I was whisked away by mman unexpectedly to an alternative world of crazy music which has just ended. Thanks for the music posts.

A link to the new thread is a great idea Tea.

And changing the words a bit also cool.

Morning all.

Yes Patience you are right that was the direction my life took back then and now it has changed. I cant have had the pleasure of the years of being a SAHM and then when the dc are older morph into someone with a career ! In "normal" times there are no regrets for the path I chose and I consider myself fortunate to have been able to have so much time with them. The onus is on me to now shape up and find what I would like to do and start a new kind of life, sometimes that feels like a mountain I cant climb but I know once the move is over I will regroup and get it together.

Just been looking at a thread where the dh has told the op he resents her not being a big earner and that all the pressure is on him. My xh had a problem with that too and took full advantage of me being at home but constantly made snipey remarks about what I did all day etc. He went out out drinking every night and took a full day and night as his at the weekend all on the premise that he was at work all week so had earnt that right. I sooo dont miss all that. The stupid thing for us was that we had plenty of money so there was no need for me to provide an income anyway, just another stick to beat me with I suppose. Twunt.

I am looking forward to the weekend. Got a lovely MNer coming today and then later on I will decorate the leaning Christmas tree of Pisa with the dc .

Tomorrow have a huge traipse for ds football which will be ok if its not too cold. How are you Northern girls doing ? Is it still snowy?

Happy mm sounds like a gem and a real antidote to everything going on with you atm. Is BE coming to the funeral ?

googoo start a new thread - I did it once so you def can ! I think I forgot half the wording as I remember ha ha

Hope everyone is ok and if you are low come and post thats what I have been doing all week and its helped so much and thanks for everyones support

ooo jealous of your visit with a fellow MNer today Enjoy.

Off to a Christmas Craft Fair. Hope the DCs behave.

Morning all :)
Funny that getting - I have always worked full time and yet my exh behaved just like yours, as he said my job was shit and he worked so much harder than me. When my second son was about 3 months old, I was back at work (awful, I didn't want to be) and we had an Ofsted. The night before the Ofsted, my baby was up from 11pm to 5am and altho exh knew that I had to go to work for 8am and be observed by Ofsted, he didn't get out of bed all night. I will always remember that.
I will start a new thread - gulp! When should I do it? I'm off to my mum's tonight (just told her that I'm coming overnight to watch Xfactor - think she's a bit scared!!!) so I would either have to do it today or tomorrow when I get back. What do you girls think?
Have a good day everyone. I'll be on here on and off x

googoo if you know how cut and paste or otherwise do what I did copy it on a piece of paper and then do the same or freshen it up as per Teas ideas ?

Thats an awful story about your xh. Makes me sad to remember but my xh was never like that until his MLC crisis set in. In fact he was the opposite very very domesticated and helpful with the dc. Always thoughtful and really of the attitude that I did a wonderful job at home that he would never want to do that. Its quite extrordinary really how much a person can change but I dont think I am alone in having had one person as a partner for years and then ending up with a very different version

Enjoy the fair Tea I love those kind of things is it children orientated ? Have you taken your dc to see Santa yet ? Younger dc are definitely lots of fun at this time of year.

OK everyone I have created the new thread for when this runs out or perhaps we can just go to it today? This is [www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1102853-Chin-Up-and-Tits-Out-for-the-Recently-Ditched-No-10 the link to it]]
Minor dumpling award for trying this and (hopefully!) succeeding...:)

Sorry! Not quite right - I will do this post again.
*Ok everyone I have created a new thread for us all when this runs out or if you want to go onto it today. This is the new thread link

Bloody hell - third time lucky - SORRY!
Ok everyone I have started a new thread for when this one runs out. I guess we could use it now if you want. Here is the new thread

Feeling a bit weepy this morn that I married such a low life piece of humanity & that his is father to my dc's. I am now certain he will never disappear to Thailand. His plan is to try "create doubt & fear" & "get other party" to settle for a 6 figure sum. To clarify that means ME to settle with him!! I have always said he has mental health issues & that used to make me justify his behaviour. Now I am wondering is he just an evil bd devoid of emotion. I prob made an awful mistake in not having him jailed . He will think nothing of destroying my life if he doesn't get his own way .

In case that wasn't clear he wants me to pay him !!

I'll vote just move to the new thread.

Starting my love I've replied on the new thread. Big ((hugs))

Thanks Tea, just read your reply . I know this too shall pass just feel sad. Have to rush out to collect dd but will post again when I get back.

Starting that sounds awful . Deep breaths. I'm sure that your solicitor will not allow that to happen though. And horrible though he is I expect that he is not in a fit state either to try and follow that through.

GooGoo and Getting, your Xhs sound horrible.You are well shot of them for sure.

Tea, enjoy the fair.

Getting, BE is coming to the funeral as the DCs would like him to come.

Right, I think it's about time I rented a piano.

Happy look at the new thread link above:)

Anyone got any words of encouragement? Feeling very scared about future and very upset and hurt/often angry - but hate that too. H pressurising me to become a 'dumpling' to sign first papers to start divorce.

Apparently he hasn't loved me for years, and yes, he did tell me that years ago, have dc; feel so stupid.

Finally we've just moved onto a new thread as this one is almost full. click here lovely

And, everything is all my fault, and he told me he didn't want all the 'lovey-dovey' stuff, and it was my fault if I couldn't accept that. I know I had low self-esteem even back then. Have n/c and posted before about 'could you accept your DH doesn't love you'. Feel really stupid, naive, a fool, and I am not even a young woman.

Have 2 dc from this marriage, both under 12.

Not in a good place with myself - been a SAHM, no friends, just not a good place to become a dumpling, not even youth on my side (older mum).

Not first marriage,was really important this worked.

Hi - can I be in your gang? googoomama very kindly pointed me this way when I posted a week ago.
I haven't had time (or energy at mo tbh) to do more than peruse but I will I promise! Just want to come and plonk myself in the corner if I may?