I've decided to have a proper read back through this thread and I have realised it's the 15th November since I last commented on anything properely 
I should be studying and writing my next TMA though but it's high time I actually got acquanted with all the new lovely ladies on this thread and catched up with some older faces too 
It has taken me since 8pm to work my way through it all, now there are so many of us on here, it's so sad that our ex's have treated us this way but really great all us ladies are here supporting each other too.
At the risk in my mammouth catch up of missing something Or asking something that has already been answered, here's my effort at a catch up:
Maybee - link to pom bear and how it began. Your hol in the lake district with your 3 yr old sounded lovely. I've been recommended this book on divorce and children but it's been sitting on my Amazon wish list for weeks since, as there's always something else I need to spend money on but I would also like to read it. Or any other suggestions people have. I think the way your H behaved and upset your DS was awful. It's almost like he was angry as he was almost having his cake and eating it, whilst he could continue to live with you and pretend everything was dandy. Do you think he thought everything would fade into the background in the end and you wouldn't end things? I also want to redecorate my bedroom as mine is distinctly male, I want it to look like a boudoir 
We can compare ideas when you move 
Where is your H living now? If things escalate again, please speak to Womens Aid Also visit Citizens Advice to find out where you stand as well on living arrangements if needed ((hugs))
Getting - That's really great news about passing the computer course. I'm loving how positive you sound at the moment. I agree the next step on amicable co parenting is the way forward, although very hard at first. How's things progressing on selling the house? Is the New Year still the best time. It's also just over a year since my H and I split too. Agree you need to talk to STBXH about DD feeling left out, maybe a well worded e-mail? Or I suppose as one step towards amicable co-parenting you could arrange a good time to talk with him and prepare some notes in readiness for a clear mind and go for it over the phone?
WQ - I honestly thought it was last weekend you were meant to meet this man. Hope things come together for this weekend. Did you tell him you have DCs in the end? How are you feeling? Is it Glandular Fever? Sorry to hear your 4 yr old DS is feeling angry, great advice from Starting on here.
Urban - is the 14th feb weekend away still going ahead? Loving how positive you sound as ever.
Sov - I cannot blame you at all for the other day and the texts. I think you need to be clearer on boundaries and detach as best as you can. But he does sound so childish and frustrating. Are you having counseling? I found it a big help in the early days.
Romney - How are you? I certainly felt better on ADs a lot quicker than the doctor said I would. Try and be patient as things are so raw and hearing rumours at work can bring all the pain to the surface again and then your H saying "I Love you" must be very confusing at times as well. Great advice from fellow dumplings on here.
Doris - How are you? Glad to hear about ADs. Have you told DCs and family yet?
Minminlight - Your story is so sad and also similar to Startings. How is the preparation for the move going back to sunnier climes? Sounds like the job prospects and social plans underway will be a boost to your self esteem at this painful time. I would let a solcitor deal with your H if possible, I think these rages of his will make it hard for you to agree anything face to face amicably and perhaps your interests would be better served with a mediator of some form?
Mumfun - How did the meeting go at school for your DC?
Queencat - How did the meeting go with the mental health nurse? Are you ok?
Midnights child - I think the plan to move in with your family for a short while to sort finances sounds perfect. How are things?
LC - Your H's OW sounds totally unstable and quite quite mad, sounds like she wants to look like you with her red hair and boob job due to be done today. I'm sorry for her loss but I cannot blame you for texting her from your H's phone at all or why you feel as you do. However you've had some very wise words from Getting et al ((hugs))
Starting - 2010 for me has also been my year to let go and move on from my H. I have to repeat your fab paragraph from the other day again as it's so true: "If we had stayed with our x's or tried to struggle on I believe we'd have never really known true happiness. Life would have been a struggle & these men would never have come close to meeting our emotional needs as they were fundamentally emotionally immature & selfish. I think if we can come out the other side of this learning to love ourselves & be independant then we will be in a better place to live our lives well & hopefully attract more suitable partners if we so decide"
I'm sorry this is a painful time of the year with memories of loss of loved ones. However please try and not feel guilty about loosing it a little with your friend. She was out of order ((hugs)) lovely.
Ecumenist - welcome to our lovely thread. How are you? here's a link to Citydoll's thread for you to read