How do you feel about prostitution?

[BillieH]

Hello everyone, I have name changed for this(no sinister reason) but i do post on here from time to time.

Anyway, I would love to know what your thoughts are on prostitution. I don't mean political views and I dont really want to get into a discussion on whether girls are trafficked, pimped, druggies. Just what you think as a whole.

I am talking about girls who willing become escorts or work in massage parlours under the guise of 'masseuses' when really they provide extras.

What do you think of men who see them? Are that losers, sad and lonely, 'sex addicts'or what? Would you think your dp/dh was cheating if he saw a prostitute.

I ask just out of curiosity, I do not think my dp has ever visited a prostitute! Also, apparently 1 in 10 men see prostitutes. Do you agree with this. If this is true what hope do we all have eh?

My take is that i belive some girls use their looks to earn money an 'easy' way. By easy, I mean that they do not have to train for yrs to get a decent paid job, or they do not have to work 9 to 5 in an office when they can earn a wks wages in a day.

I have asked my own dp and he beleives that there is something missing from a relationship if a man sees a prostitute.Obviously its different with a single man. He also thinks that some men have issues sexually with their wives/partners and are inhibited. Therefore, that is why they pay for sex acts that they can't ask for at home. These are exactly my thoughts.Anyone agree or disagree?

I'd like your thoughts or experiences!

When can we expect to see the article?

Matthew Wright again?

Oh no, nothing like that i promise!.

Have any of you ever heard of punternet? Wish I hadnt noe, but there you go.. After foolishly reading some of the stuff on there, this prompted me to start this thread.

Dittany is a big fan of Punternet . She'll be along shortly.....

Gosh I don't think it is an easy way to earn money! Think some women do though. Personally i cannot think of anything worse than having sex with someone who is old, smelly, ugly for cash.

As much as my jobs kills me sometimes, I would sooner earn money the legit way.

Have no problem with prostitution (providing girl has chosen to do it) at all. I think its fine for single men to use prostitutes, its just a transaction really. Married/attached men should not be using these services, of course its cheating and extremely disrespectful to their partner to pay for something which they could get (presumably) at home.

I honestly believe some men do and some men don't simple as that!! I used to think it was something that sad pervy weirdo's had to resort to- then I became a forces wife and had my eyes opened wide!! On an overseas visit to my exDH many soldiers used prostitutes and many felt it wasn't cheating, they convinced themselves that it was a service!! There were litrally around a quarter who did not! I also know of many 'golf weekends' and 'stag weekends' where the use of prostitutes is normal! When DH and I split he went to see a 'high class' prostitute but was adamant she was his first. My current DP says he has used two in his early twenties when on stag do's! It doesn't bother me that it was in the past but if he did it now complete dealbreaker!!

Thank you loopylou. I completely agree. My sentiments exactly. However, if you hear some of the men on punternet, it is absolutely NOT cheating!!

If one in ten men use prostitutes, that means 9 out of 10 don't - that speaks volumes to me that the overwhelming majority of men are decent types who are repulsed by the idea of paying a woman who is not attracted to him to let him masturbate in her body.
There's definitely something major lacking in the personality of a man who enjoys this pastime.

I am starting to feel a bit better! Phew. Was starting to belive some of the bullshit I have been reading.

Someone who says 'phew' and 'gosh' has no place reading a site called 'punternet'

I know! I really am too nice. I have been corrupted.

I'd question the statistic as to whether 1 in 10 men use prostitutes. That sort of implies an ongoing thing, where perhaps it's 1 in 10 men that have at some point used prostitutes

I think it's revolting and only done by men who either loathe women or don't view them as human beings. I've never yet met a man who used prostitutes and would be happy about his own child doing this as a job

I would never go out with a man who had so little regard for women that he had previously used prostituted women.

Yes you are probably right rita.

I would not go out with a man who had seen prostitutes whilst in relationship, however, maybe I would feel different if he had done it as a single man. I suppose it depends on his reasons. Or whether I actually found out. I don't imagine many would be forthcoming with such information.

I have mixed feelings about it, due to the issues you've excluded, but have no moral objection either to prostitution as a trade or the men who use them. I do find Punternet disgusting for its members' overall attitude, however there are some sane & compassionate users on there. Those are the ones I don't object to!

I suggest you get off Punternet

wtf are you reading that shit for ?

those blokes are the dregs of the planet, seriously

FWIW, use of prostitutes, either now or in the past is a complete dealbreaker for me...utterly and without question

Agree with Laurie and AF - men who do are sad pervy weirdos, if I knew anyone who had they would seriously drop in my estimation, to 'scrapping off my shoe' level.

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Personally I feel that if a woman wishes to prostitute herself then all power to her. Men traditionally are the higher wage earners and no one ever put them down for using cut throat business tactics so long as it made a good bonus, no matter who it hurt.

Women are able to earn a very good amount of money via this profession.What is wrong with that, would it be better for them to be on benefits or lower wages?

If you say yes then better for whom?

The men, well what can you say, every type of man from every walk of life and every wage bracket has a percentage that visits prostitutes, I say visits as oppose to "uses" because lets face it, who is really using who. If the lady has sought out such job, started and then continued then how anyone can say she is being used is completely beyond me.

I think there are some very mitigating circumstances regarding men with life partners visiting prostitutes.

I believe in live and let live, after all, no one has a closet totally devoid of even a single skeletal bone.

There have been 16 women respond to this thread, excluding the OP... that means by the percentage given, at least one of your husbands has visited a prostitute and you probably have no idea that he has done so.

How about women who do offer a very good massage and have a diploma in Body Massage, but then offer something extra?

How about women who have trained in a job worked it for years and received pittance? They have had to provide for their child as a single parent, making sure that their child has its every need and the only way she can make ends meet, without claiming benefits from your hard working husbands wages is to work in the world of Prostitution?

As for the men, obviously you know your men better than anyone. Or do you?

I like hedidit, believe in live and let live. This is a real world we live in.

here we go, there is always someone comes on these threads to tell women they don't know their husbands and actually he isn't at work just now, he is shagging a prostitute and being taken up the behind by her Jack Russell (or summat)

it's boring, and it's patronising, so take your sneaky little digs elewhere ie. not on a support forum overwhelmingly populated by women

I see by your username that you are in support of a forum overwhelmingly populated by women. Lovely choice of words !!

A woman started this thread, and others chose to read it, and just like you add there views. I actually find your response the most repulsive on here and the least suportive of women on the whole.

Have a couple of us touched a raw nerve of yours because we do not agree with some of the things said on here regarding husbands.

No one is having a sneaky little dig. Some of us are mothers and are in the know of how the world of prostituion actually works, so we have responded in a respectable fashion to the original post.

As for the remark about a 'Jack Russell' that really is very coarse.. and very unladylike.

How does my username come into it ?

My nerves are fine, thanks anyway