How do you feel about prostitution?

[BillieH]

Hello everyone, I have name changed for this(no sinister reason) but i do post on here from time to time.

Anyway, I would love to know what your thoughts are on prostitution. I don't mean political views and I dont really want to get into a discussion on whether girls are trafficked, pimped, druggies. Just what you think as a whole.

I am talking about girls who willing become escorts or work in massage parlours under the guise of 'masseuses' when really they provide extras.

What do you think of men who see them? Are that losers, sad and lonely, 'sex addicts'or what? Would you think your dp/dh was cheating if he saw a prostitute.

I ask just out of curiosity, I do not think my dp has ever visited a prostitute! Also, apparently 1 in 10 men see prostitutes. Do you agree with this. If this is true what hope do we all have eh?

My take is that i belive some girls use their looks to earn money an 'easy' way. By easy, I mean that they do not have to train for yrs to get a decent paid job, or they do not have to work 9 to 5 in an office when they can earn a wks wages in a day.

I have asked my own dp and he beleives that there is something missing from a relationship if a man sees a prostitute.Obviously its different with a single man. He also thinks that some men have issues sexually with their wives/partners and are inhibited. Therefore, that is why they pay for sex acts that they can't ask for at home. These are exactly my thoughts.Anyone agree or disagree?

I'd like your thoughts or experiences!

Mali if you think "I find the continual insidious inference that our husbands are the customers of prostitutes very tiresome - it smacks of going on the offensive because you are losing the arguement." is offensive, then perhaps its time you started to read your own postings.

If I have been reading the posts correctly and I believe I have been, do the ante-prostitute ladies actually believe that the prostitutes believe all they are told is true. I think not. They are probably humouring them and not ridiculing them like many others may do.

There is a recurring theme on this thread that Mumsnet posters who happen to be members and work in the sex industry should simply go away. Besides some charitable Bakewell Tart contest in the most gratuitous patronisation of ?poor fallen women?, there is thankfully only small but vociferous group who eagerly away the 1000th post so this thread will end. But while this may feel like a relief that you can retire back to your bastions of moral smugness, we still be here. We won?t be silenced and locked up out of site in some Ghetto.

Thank you so much to those posters who were civil and interested in having a free debate. Thanks for the kind PMs

Prostitution hurts women and children - end of. The vast majority of women who work as prostitutes are forced into it by pimps/violence, drug addiction, and/or poverty. It is not consensual sex they are having. Men who use prostitutes are well aware of this, yet use them anyway. It is an act of rape and should be prosecuted as such.

For women who insist that it is merely a career choice and that they have other options, well I don't know what to say to that really. You are in such a tiny minority, and policy on prostitution needs to cater to and help the vast majority of women for whom the 'sex industry' is a living nightmare.

MN has it's own acronyms and I refuse to enter into new ones that may or may not appear on Twatternet. So either conform to rules set here or bugger off.

Solidarity? lmao. Prostitutes coming here talking about fucking people's husbands and then talking about female solidarity....solidarity would be to fight the injustice of unequal pay and working conditions for people with real jobs, or to ensure society allows women to have decent baby year career breaks without her whole career being ruined.

Power is money, who has it and what they buy., If you are the person purchasing you have the power if you are bought to serve you are not in power...however you try to put it. And I don't think there's unwarranted nastiness on this thread there is heated debate and high emotion from those of us who can see the exploitation and the lies and nasty little posts from some of the prostitutes...THIS IS MUMSNET, not anyone want to come and have a go net. If you want to show solidarity why don't you try the 'false rape society' you may find some of you misogynist punters on there looking for tips.

Miss Scummy....I am going to show your posts to One25 and tell them that the manipulative prostitute(misogynist) thinks showing these women, who are beaten, raped and addicted to herion/crack, kindness and giving them a slice of cake and a little time is not worth my effort. These women are victims of prostitution, so sorry you have no compassion for them too busy peddling the 'happy hooker' myth to accept for many it is a hard hard and dangerous life.

And why 'our' husbands? Grouping all wives together but not all prostitutes. You distance yourselves from the grim reality but not from 'our' husbands.

KerryMumbles erm, you are wrong, very wrong.

"Besides some charitable Bakewell Tart contest in the most gratuitous patronisation of ?poor fallen women?, " Miss Scummy.

This really sums you up.

[looks down from the happy land of moral smugness, wow you are very far down.]

Charity that helps prostitutes.

Of those still working on the streets...
99% are addicted to one or more Class A drugs and/or alcohol
In 2009 the women reported 173 violent attacks to us including domestic violence, rape and GBH
In the UK only 1% of violent incidents against street based sex workers
results in a conviction**
All suffer from chronic ill health and half suffer from acute ill health (requiring immediate medical attention)*
66% are homeless *

Of all the women we support...
62% have reported childhood abuse*
38% have been through fostering or children?s homes*
32% left school at 14 or younger *
Their age range is 18-53

Very glad to hear it.

MYODD, do you really believe this? I suggest you go back over the whole topic and read the other postings.

When I first came onto MN I am sure that prostitution was not illegal but perhaps the law has changed since I came on.

As I said in my first posting, the 'Ladies of the Night' 'Prostitutes' 'Whores' 'Prossies' 'Working Girls' 'Courtesans' or whatever you want to call them, have all responded to posts in a very ladylike way which is more than can be said for the ante prostitute females who can only seem to respond with maledictions. There is no getting away from it, the females who do choose to live the life they do as Working Girls do so of their own volition but it makes them no less of a lady.

But I know of someone who does it 1 day a week, in order to drive a flash car.
Her choice tho!

Posie

"..solidarity would be to fight the injustice of unequal pay and working conditions for people with real jobs".

Being a sex worker IS a real job. We are entitled to recognition and to work without fear of intimidation or stigma. We are entitled to the same working conditions as every other woman in this country.

I can honestly say i have never had one std in all the years I have been working. I always practice safe sex and would not dream of doing anything else.

I wish to stay alive as long as I can.

Lets help this shite on it's way shall we?
Perhaps they'll fuck off back to sadwankernet with any luck.

And in response to would I allow certain things be done to me, no i wouldnt. I am a very dominant lady and not submissive.