How do you feel about prostitution?

[BillieH]

Hello everyone, I have name changed for this(no sinister reason) but i do post on here from time to time.

Anyway, I would love to know what your thoughts are on prostitution. I don't mean political views and I dont really want to get into a discussion on whether girls are trafficked, pimped, druggies. Just what you think as a whole.

I am talking about girls who willing become escorts or work in massage parlours under the guise of 'masseuses' when really they provide extras.

What do you think of men who see them? Are that losers, sad and lonely, 'sex addicts'or what? Would you think your dp/dh was cheating if he saw a prostitute.

I ask just out of curiosity, I do not think my dp has ever visited a prostitute! Also, apparently 1 in 10 men see prostitutes. Do you agree with this. If this is true what hope do we all have eh?

My take is that i belive some girls use their looks to earn money an 'easy' way. By easy, I mean that they do not have to train for yrs to get a decent paid job, or they do not have to work 9 to 5 in an office when they can earn a wks wages in a day.

I have asked my own dp and he beleives that there is something missing from a relationship if a man sees a prostitute.Obviously its different with a single man. He also thinks that some men have issues sexually with their wives/partners and are inhibited. Therefore, that is why they pay for sex acts that they can't ask for at home. These are exactly my thoughts.Anyone agree or disagree?

I'd like your thoughts or experiences!

Now, now that is not how we talk in front of the children is it. Very Ladylike !!

Ummmm, okay I have no idea what you are talking about

TheOleDragon, you don't have to explain your circumstances and your choices to us

I think you are misreading some responses on this thread. I do not judge you. I judge the men that use your services. The OP, the way I read it, was asking what were people's perceptions about the men who use these services.

I now understand your bias and your remark to me that any one of our husbands could be with a prostitute instead of being at work, the pub etc

I still don't agree with it though, and I am still offended by it.

It might be best, on this fast-moving thread, for individuals to make it clear who they are responding to

it's getting confusing, otherwise

Well I'm responding to OleDragon. I couldn't help noticing this little gem:

"They have had to provide for their child as a single parent, making sure that their child has its every need and the only way she can make ends meet, without claiming benefits from your hard working husbands wages is to work in the world of Prostitution?"

Do you assume the female posters on here don't work then? Many of us do, you know, but we tend to use our brains to earn our "hard earned wages".

LollypopLady, my post was not directed at you, it was infact directed at the PollyParker lady.

AF the orignal poster on here also asks for the persceptions about the women who offer these services. She asks for opinions on the ladies who work as prostitutes and are not trafficked (which is a terrible thing and nobody could on this thread could ever question that).

I know I don't have to explain my circumstances to anyone, like my job I chose to do it and by me posting about what I do, it explains the reasoning in my posts.

I have not pointed the finger at your husband or any specific person who has posted on this thread's husband. I hope that you are all right in saying that your husbands would never do such a thing, but believe me when I say that each and every day my phone does not stop ringing. I turn it on of a morning and I have texts saying that I have missed calls. When I am with a client, I never answer my phone and I have many missed calls. And for those I do book, 4 men a day, 3 days a week, I am always fully booked a large percentage of them are other womens husbands. Women who think that their husbands are somewhere else. I have to be honest, I do not offer full sex, but am in touch with a large number of women who do, and they receive the same, calls and bookings from married men. A lot of men come to me, as far as they are concerned, they are not cheating on the said wife.

I am not trying to offend you or anyone else. I am not the sort of person who intentionally goes out of my way to offend anyone. I am just saying it how it is in response to a thread someone has posted on here.

Journalist. Deffo.

I don't mean to be bossy btw

Wellll, maybe I do

in my world, TOD, that is not "how it is"

you are very, very biased by dint of the fact you work in the industry

making assumptions about other women's lives is offensive

I made none about yours for example

I don't really understand your post, lou4

are you saying the OP is trolling ? And you have followed her/him from another forum ?

and what is your interest here ?

Not at all Wwifn... I am sure a lot of you do work, as I said in another post of mine, I worked 3 jobs when I had my son, including cleaning tables, working in an accounts office and also on an iceream van. I worked these jobs all in the same period of time, just different days.

Are you saying I don't have to use my brain for my believe me, sometimes very hard earned wages?

I could give any counsellor a run for their money. I have a VCT Diploma in Anatomy and Physiology. I have 3 A levels and 9 O Levels.

How much more patronising can you be?

As for the reporter post, who was that directed at?

Hmmm I'm with you AF, if the OP is a troll Here and at the other forum, why have YOU followed?

You have lost me AF, whose life have I made any assumptions on?

No person on this thread that is for sure.

WWIFN I don't think that's very fair tbh, she earns her money I don't think its nice to tarnish her as thick because you don't agree with her job. Sex sells and it pays well, if one chooses to earn a living this way then no one has a right to judge.

I'm lurking and reading with interest. Finding The Ole Dragons posts fascinating and now Lou4fun. Dragon welcome to mumsnet

TOD , very interesting contributions.

Thank you LoopyLou. You come across a fair person.

Don't Judge, lest you be Judged.

TOD, at the risk of repeating myself, you are assuming that the husbands of the women on this thread are visiting prostitutes and we are too thick/deluded to realise it

that's quite an assumption

Thank you Teaandcakeplease

isthisanEA would you tell me what you find interesting in my posts please?

My interest is prostitution. the thread is about prostitution. Is there a follow law I have infringed upon that is only know to you.

The op makes many references to the posts here on punternet. I am a mother and the bottom line is im here because | want to be.

Read into that what you will but being confrontational with me you score nuls points

Well to be fair I didn't have a clue my H was having an affair for a long time. TOD posts all seemed fair and polite to me, although yes I suppose she is generalising and assuming in places

I'm not trying to confront you, nor am I trying to score points.

Loopylou the last part of my post was not directed at you. it is a saying about people who offer judgment. I know you was not trying to confront me. I was genuine when I said thank you. what you said was kind, not point scoring.

I have been at work and not been logged on. I now am going to have a look at the replies. Looks like most agree with me.