It's all about him

[BibiBlocksberg]

Can't believe I'm going to even talk about this without namechange but need to know I'm not imagining things. So, dp and I were laughing at the cat who was all snuggled into him this morning and started purring loudly when started to stroke and fuss her. Cue us laughing about how much she's enjoying being fussed.

Dp turns round to me and says 'I haven't been fussed in ages (in little boy voice) meaning sex of course.

We haven't had sex coming on for about a year now which is my fault since I have totally gone off it. Any attempts to talk about it have failed since he refuses to take on board some of the things I don't like/reasons I feel I've gone off the idea completely.

Have talked to gp 4 times now re no libido but other than swapping brands of the pill they don't know what could be causing it so am now stuck for ideas.

Anyway am just absolutely livid since it always seems to be about him him him in the bedroom. That comment earlier just made me so angry. Not 'we haven't done anything for ages, do you feel like it etc, no just He hasn't had it for ages.

All topped off with a wobbling bottom lip face and lots of sighing when i went to make a cup of coffee.

Just so tired of it all being my fault really, thanks for reading this ramble.

Mmh yes I know catherine, I used to think people who said 'too much water under the bridge' weren't prepared to try hard enough but now I know differently!

X Dp while sobbing told me he can't believe he's given the total opposite impression of what he actually wanted. V strange.

Also, his solution to all of our problems is to move to a bigger house, he will start talking and everything else will fall into place. His exact words. Fall into place indeed

Yes of course he is upset - his unthinking life has been challenged. But there we are. You can't and shouldn't live the sort of life he chooses for you both.

Carpe diem and all that!

Am liking your use of x-dp!

AF for a mince pie - the mince pie makes me laugh every time. I feel like a big black blanket is being lifted off of my head already, can't wait for it to be gone altogether!!!

Glad you think it's crocodile tears as that's what they feel like to me. Plus the display didn't last very long and the crying seems to get worse the more sorry he feels for himself.

Thanks for noticing the x there katisha. Thought I may as well carry on calling a spade a spade :)

I think it was sgb who said this man will soon find another woman to hang onto.

She is right.

Bibi Bibi Bibi Bibi

< waves pompons high in the air and exits stage to the left>

A much younger one at that AF since fully grown women will spot the man child a mile off!

Am reminded of a favourite bit of mine from the simpson's : dear baby, welcome to dumpsville, population? YOU

Juvenile but makes me smile anyway.

He he - give me an S, give me an I, give me an N, give me a G, give me an L, give me an E

Just re-read the original post on this thread, and that was all wobbling lip wasn't it. Obviously the crying has worked for quite a while.

Until now!

they thought it was all over...

it is now

I feel a bit mean mocking a fellow human being, but really, he is following a well-worn script.

You don't actually need another cheerleader, Bibi, but I'm here anyway. Excellent work!
Self pity's such an attractive quality, isn't it

I hope he doesn't bother you all night ... (mind you, if he does, that should get rid of any doubts you might have almost had!)

Rofl at clarkson pause. Yes wobbly bottom lip is exactly right! V difficult to explain to a perfect stranger.

Felt like being in bed with a child in the end (as awful as that sounds)

And on that bombshell...... :)

Great, he's up and about again because he can't sleep. Which is of course my fault. Well it is really i suppose but hope this doesn't go on all night as you so rightly said grace!

lovely cheerleasing everyone

Just give him some Calpol, ffs

Calpol, very good idea - if I had any children I'd probably keep some in the cupboard.

Oh, wait......(lightbulb)

Better get to late night chemist then :) :)

Calpol is great for fractious, whiny children

Am just thinking that I am quite nasty really. Slagging him off on the internet

And there's still a part of me that feels responsible for plunging him into a horrible single life featuring a dinghy lonely bedsit :(

Arrrrgggh! Perhaps I'd better have some of that Calpol myself......

< beats Bibi round head with medicine bottle >

Seriously though, even I think we have been a little bit mean this evening. Mocking anyone (even a sad sack like him) is not nice, really (and I am a right old witch..)

Don't beat yourself up though, it was probably just the anti-climax and the come-down of your heightened emotions over the last few weeks.

You will be forgiven a little indiscretion come Judgement Day

None of us know him in RL, and sometimes anonymous posts are just a let-off of steam. Better that than you scream and yell at him, and make things 10 times worse than they need to be.

Get over yourself now, and tomorrow resolve to carry on with your dignified and steely resolve x

am off to bed now, will check in tomoz x

Thanks for the beating AF :)

Sleep well, until tomorrow when steely resolve will return!

^"Am just thinking that I am quite nasty really. Slagging him off on the internet

And there's still a part of me that feels responsible for plunging him into a horrible single life featuring a dinghy lonely bedsit"^

Well, your second sentence explains the first, IYSWIM Bibi. You are a nice person, and your 'nastiness' (which really isn't, by the way) is the armour you're putting around yourself to protect your future from your niceness. Which he will try and manipulate.

And if he does end up in bedsitland, that's his responsibility not yours. He is not your responsibility. You are.

Tired, nauseous and sad sad sad this morning.

It's all a crock of shite isn't it? I mean, empty promises that would turn to dust if I were to believe them?