The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Homebrew In The Shed!

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Hello, I'm Mouse.

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus. You can get on at any point in the journey, there is plenty of room, it's free to ride and there is always someone who will be along to hold your hand over the speedbumps!

So, no matter where you are in your quest to quit the booze, join us for support, advice and a fair few laughs along the way

There is no judging, no cliques, just real poster with real problems being real and honest!

Come and meet the others.....

Here is the previous thread where you can read all of the threads so far, including JWN's original thread and the reason we are all here.

OMG Whichety - that is so not good - bloody glad I'm not in your shoes tonight - but hey at least you didn't have to clean up [puke] cat shit........... and of course tomorrow night will be far worse...god I just feel sick talking about cat shit [ewww icon] xxx

And red - I am so jealous - a new relationship is so exciting - are you still at the butterfly stomach stage - take it slowly and enjoy every minute of it Hon - you deserve it xxx

red I share other people's concerns and advise to make sure you don't get hurt - but am also VERY jealous!

We are back from our fireworks & everyone is now asleep.
I put the elder 2 in a bedroom togeather witha TV on & they passed out quite happily on the floor wrapped in duvets togeather.

Little legs had been very excited at "going to bierworks" - she is 2 - but once we were actually at fireworks she screamed & cried & fell asleep on my shoulder half way through the display That child could fall asleep on a washing line.

I'm going to stay up another hour as the fireworks are still going strong around here.

Being good though.

Aggggh Fucking fireworks

silver!!, you just made me laugh!! , was dh a bit put out that you thought he was capable of such a revolting smell?

Watched fireworks with puppy in arms. No panic and she is allowed to poo in the house tonight (poo)

Ma, the Punch and Judy man in Hi-Di-Hi was Mr. Partridge. It was one of the only programmes we watched and we used to mimic the accents. 'Mr. Partridge has gone on a bender!'. Which is what you have not done. For ages.

Hello,

I'm back from "do", early start, early finish!

I was on the phone for an hour before I had to get ready, so didn't have time for temptation, quick shower, smart/casual stuff on!! and out the door.

On the way there I was having big battle inside my head, I could just have a couple, have done so well,etc, etc. So, I said to Dh "will it matter if I have a couple of sparkly wines tonight (I know, I know!), he said probably not such a good idea, as it might make you want to buy a bottle on the way home.

Major snit isn't in it. I sulked the rest of the way, (how dare he think I can't stop!), and said "well, I won't", and he said "well go ahead then. Aaargh, my choice. So, I didn't. Can't beieve it. End of day 8, bl**dy hell!

believe!

JWN - not at all - just said he hadn't done the deed and to check it wasn't the cat - which i dutifully did - he would admit if it had been him - and yes, sometimes he does stink our small house out - gotta go feel sick just thinking about it ...

Thurso hanging out banners - you are doing great, fantastic, brilliant xxxx

Bless you silver.
I do feel pleased, and although I talked too much, at least I remember what I said, and won't have agonies in the morning!

Downside is that all that sparkly water and coffee probably means I'll be up all night. Dh already gone to land of snork!

Yup, had cr*p nights sleep. I think I saw every hour untl 4am, and then got up at 6.30!!

Good morning:) all brave babes and guys,

I hope this finds you, safe, happy and positive, and, if it doesn't sending you any amount of support to make this day different.

Have a lovely one :)

Thurso has put a big smile on my face. I was thinking about you last night and half composing advice which you clearly didn't need. Your dh sounds lovely and tactful. And gently supportive. Off to do a diabolik floor cleaning.

Morning Hey Thurso what you wrote last night could have been me a couple of months ago!! Well done for not drinking. It feels SO good when you achieve it doesn't it!? Hold on to how good that feels. Today I have not been drinking for 4 Months. I promise you the awful internal debating does get less and less. Your DP sounds lovely, I used to ask my DP questions like that, really I think I was asking myself. Hoping he would say 'go for it' and I would somehow have permission, even though the result would be the same and I would probably blame him. It's a bit of a no win situation for DP.s sometimes

Good morning everyone. How lovely it is to NOT wake up and for the first instant think everything's OK and then it's "oh shit, it was a two-bottler and I did x, y or z crappy thing".

I didn't drink yesterday (day 2) as had no desire to. Went to a friend's and was offered wine but declined. Maybe I didn't do the right thing but have told DD that I'm going to stop drinking. She was delighted and said "now I'll be able to trust you mummy." So if I do start again I'm not only letting myself down but her to. I don't know if it's the Campral that's kicked in already (which I doubt) but having to take those lovely little pills every day is very comforting.

Thurso well done for last night, the sleep thing will get better and then you'll be getting proper sleep not horrible alcoholic out-of-itness. The internal battles about whether or not to "just have a couple" are the hardest part. Right now I know I just can't drink ANYTHING, no matter what. Found a wonderful website last night http.www.spiritualriver.com. Go look. x

Ooops, wrong link, this one betterwww.spiritualriver.com

Thank you so much For the and Miss P

I think I realised last night (maybe because I was sober when I went out), that all the questions were just me absolving responsibility, because if Dh agreed that "the one" wouldn't hurt, I didn't care after that. I really do think that not drinking at all is the only way for me.

forthe obviously the advice that you composed found it's way to me anyway, I think good things have a way of doing that.

Miss P Congratulations, well done and much love. You are a star.

mouse I hope the Ab's have kicked in and that you are feeling better.

Well done dementedma and thurso fantastic to get through a Friday night without the usual prop. (well done to everyoine else too, but I know it was a special task for ma and thurso).

Yesterday we went to watch a local fireworks dispay so off we cycled into the dark, through the puddles (past all the cars queueing for a parking space) and along a muddy track. It peed with rain, so by the time we got home we were soaked through and muddy. But we were laughing and I could notice how good it felt to come home to a warm house and to soft dry clothes. In previous years I'd have used any of that as an excuse for staying in and getting drunk - I'd forgotten how nice simple pleasures are (if you call £ooo's worth of coloured explosives a simple pleasure ).

I am going to a 50th birthday party tonight and I've offered to drive - well at least I'll drive back from the party. It is in Aviemore (way, way up north) and we are staying with friends overnight. I know that it will be good to get home from the party and sit in their kitchen drinking mugs of tea and catching up, rather than being the pisshead looking longingly at a bottle of wine, hoping it will get opened and having a dilemma about whether to accept the proferred whiskey (which I hate) or go without... Not tonight.

Have a great day and evening babes. Wrap up warm and stay dry

I think there is a time delay on my computer!

Thanks dipso and well done for yesterday.
I think your DD words will have a big effect on what you want to do. They're our lives aren't they?

dipso thanks for that link - it all makes such a lot of sense. I post on this thread because my own drinking had become problematic and I was no longer in control of it, but I'm also still caught up in the fact that I lost my marriage, and myself for a while because my ex has a major problem with alcohol and is still in total denial.

I wish I had read something like that 20 years ago!

Happy Saturday everyone

Back to my normal name (until the next festive event).

And well done dipso. Mostly I think you have to do this for you (MIFLAW has a friend who says "the tears of my children never stopped me from having a drink") but I also think for for us mothers, sometimes doing it for our dcs, is a part of doing it for ourselves.

And I liked that link. Thanks.

Wasn't sure I should have told DD and I know we have to do it for ourselves, but knowing how much it means to her is such a huge motivation.

Venus I know about accepting drinks which you hate! On my last visit to ageing parents I snuck a huge glug of sherry straight out of the bottle when dad was out of the room . Witchety I lost my marriage largely through alcohol but I was the drinker and he wasn't. His mum was an alkie too and we were doomed really.

The mood here seems in tune with this lovely autumnal morning :)

morning!!!, what wonderful posts to wake up to!!! MISSP!! 4 MONTHS!!!, thats fantastic!!

thurso - well well well done!!, i can remember the feeling of absolute triumph i had in mt first week of getting off the last train out of london after a drinks do, and being sober!!!, carry on!!, it only gets better!!

venus - its funny you should mention simple pleasures, i was thinking that yesterday, i had got soaked, came in and put my pjs on, had a mug of ovaltine and was watching eastenders, my house was all warm and cosy and i suddenly thought how lucky i was, how happy, comfy and cosy i felt, when i look back, i really had forgotten that feeling, i would have been sat there with a drink, numbing the real sensations!, what a bloody waste of time!, i almost cant believe how much of my life, how many hours, ive wasted being wasted! , its so negative, i feel so much more positive about everything now, our fanancial situation, dd not staying on her course etc, everything is fixable, nothing needs to send me off on a bender!

btw, aviemore sounds lovley, i once went to inverness, the furthest up north i think ive ever been!, i would like to go again in the depths of winter, find a cosy hotel with open fires and big sofas and snuggle up with dh for a few days on our own!, what a lovley thought!!

dipso, my dd has said very much the same sort of thing to me - it does spur me on, i hate the thought that i have been responsible for making her unhappy , its the exact opposite of what you envisage for your child when you first hold them isnt it?, i would kill anyone else who made my dd so unhappy, why couldnt i see what i was doing at the time?, it makes me feel sick to stomach!! - i have found that we are moving forward though, sometimes agonisingly slowley, but we are getting there , it is really no exaggeration to say it makes my heart sing to see the change in my girl!, i realise now that the poor little bugger used to look like she had the weight of the world on her shoulders, her face looks 'sunny' now and to me, gold, (or booze) couldnt buy that from me!

im off for a bit, ive just made myself cry!

Morning and well done to everyone who did well last night and to anyone who wasn't so good don't beat yourself up as todays another day.

I went out and only had a couple of half's which is the least I have had for soooo long. Got a bit family do tonight but as trying to aim for easing off every other day.

:)

JWNand dipso - it's horrible to know that we have done things that are harmful, emotionally or otherwise, to our DC....but if they are now surrounded by love, support, consistency and security, then having got through difficult times can make them so much more resilient for the challenges that life will through at them as they get older.

Not sure if others agree....and I know how hard it is when i'ts your own DC that are involved.