ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No.8

[teaandcakeplease]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Whether you are a new dumpling or a vet, feel free to join us in our quest for serenity

AmazingOK i know this is Startin's song from Norm.But as an empowerment self appreciation song i think it is a bit of a dumpling anthem and i think we should sing it regularly to ourselves just to remind us how bloody amazing and loved by ourselves we are!!!!!

hiya about to change my name to something i feel i need to embody in order to get me through the final part of detachment.

• it was inspired by patience by the way

I'm amazing how i am coping with all this pain, anybody else think they are......

its armbow here

i found a bit of inner strength today that helped me to stand up to h and ow for the first time really in any of this and it felt really really good, and hopefully my name will help me build on this strength until i have my self esteem back to its normal levels.

actually patience h's defence of ow over the past couple of days has battered my self esteem right to the ground. i feel very inadequate right now

i want someone to fight my corner just like he is fighting hers.

Well i think you are bloody amazing AB just think of all you have done since this all kicked off ,you have handled it all and looked after ur little people that def wins an Amazing Dumpling Award !!!!

Bought a pumpkin 2day x

Missed that post re inspiration ,no bother my fellow warrior ,we have fierce super powers and yet retain our femininity !!!!

If all else fails WQ i find this quite useful a response to my X.....

"Away and get urself tae fuck!!"

Obviously works better with a Glasgow accent but gives you a starting point ,think of it as something to work with .

I dont even have to say it out loud most of the time,but i still think it when he is being a self absorbed cock.

Bought some Galaxy hot chocolate,def recommend it x

WQ loving the new name and you deserve it , its horrible when you see how someone else is now the protected one but you will keep moving forward.

Patience yes I know dc are their own people - sometimes have to remember that after 14 years of parenting them !! Yes I know what I have to do its just the gap between knowing it and doing it sometimes for me.

Thanks for everyones support today it makes all the difference on a low vulnerable day to feel someones looking out for you

Am practising my Glaswegian accent

Nice one Getting I hope you know there is no disrespect meant in my posts ,it is just how i try and deal with the really sore bits myself.I totally get what ur saying and all joking aside i know any turbulence between me and X will just make my kids insecure and worry.They will respect you for how you are dealing with it all Getting and you are another amazing dumpling that drove dcs on holiday and did some mad coastal thing i just remember it was extreme ,think we should all do an extreme dumpling weekend next year,friday to monday.

Yes an extreme dumpling weekend...

No Patience of course I know that , the value of our dumpling support is a combination of there there and well hang on a minute ...

Ooo like the new name AB.

I love the Galaxy Hot Chocolate although I keep it for DD for treats usually

Nice afternoon at woods, I let DS out of the sling and let him walk with reins today. Crikey it was hardwork at times with him wanting to "swim" in the pond and throwing a tantrum as I wouldn't let him, whilst flinging himself backwards. Paddling his wellies and dipping his hands was not satisfactory, he was furious with me, I had to half carry/ drag him past the pond in the end and give up as everyone else wondered what was going on. He's a water baby, he loves water. He must have thought I was just plain mean. But cold, muddy and not safe - end of. And also when I wouldn't let him sit/ lie in the muddy puddle later on in the walk. I wanted him to learn to enjoy nature but maybe as he's so stubborn strong willed, I should wait until he's bigger to try it again with him. Afterwards we went to the local garden centre and had a hot choc funnily enough. Really cheap for drinks I thought. The Garden centre already had their Christmas stuff out. Really nice stuff on show. Very expensive though, it's a nice area where the garden centre is, so I think they cater their Christmas stuff to people with rather different budgets to me but DD loved looking at it all, especially the pretty pottery houses and churches all lit up and the angels for the top of the tree, they were very snazzy. They also had little birds nests, complete with birds and eggs, very cute.

So it was all going great with the long woodland walk then the hot choc and browsing. On the way back home, I pulled into a car park for a playground and let the DCs have fun. DD fell and slipped on the metal climbing frame and hit her mouth cue blood and screaming. She now (despite copious ice application) still has a swollen lip and has woken once tonight already, presumably because of it. Gah! Maybe a long night. Thank goodness the mouths heal fast though!

And I think I'm getting an eye infection, as DS has started to poke my eye and say "eeyyyyeee" and as he has a cold I think he's upset my eye, feeling very sore and itchy. I woke up this morning with it glued together and tonight it's getting worse. Really hope I do not develop conjunctivitis. Washing madly with cool boiled water tonight.

Getting you're amazing! Wise words from Warrior. This is very hard and I will be coming to you for advice when H moves in with OW ((hugs))

crikey tea, sounds like you had a busy and eventful day.

hope you don't get a funny eye, funnily enough i woke in the night with a very very itchy eye, but it seems to have gone now. hope dd's mouth is better in the morning.

Evening all,

Just a quick one, i am reading everything but am not really feeling up to posting atm seemed to have slunk into a depression again [sigh]

Hope everyone has a better day tomorrow or a great one like Tea today :o

Heard something today which i thought was appropriate (possibly not the right wording but you get the drift) and that was god only gives us what he know we can deal with (someone had been asking why god gives us so much pain) so even though we i am not sure i can get through this at times, it's nice to know someone has faith in me and i know this will pass and i will emerge a stronger person for it all

hi sov, sorry to hear you are feeling low. this whole process sucks sometimes doesn't it?
are you sleeping ok? I generally find the less sleep i get the more depressed i feel.

going to buy some galaxy hot choc today on my fellow dumplings recommendations.

Yes Sov that's biblical.

1 Corinthians 10:13 (The Message)

13 No test or temptation that comes your way is beyond the course of what others have had to face. All you need to remember is that God will never let you down; he'll never let you be pushed past your limit; he'll always be there to help you come through it.

The Message translation I've used here is my favourite, much better language than NIV, Good News or other translations.

Of course discussions like this then throw up why is there so much suffering in the world etc. I'm a rubbish theologian but I do know that this book is very good at answering questions like that. Unlike me

Seeing H later. Think I'll take the kids to the park before the weather turns and it rains. Maybe he can pay for us to take them to a soft play later

thank you tea for the recommendation re the message version of the bible.

Sov big hugs to you ,ur amazing doin ur 4 kids everyday ,think we could all do with a dj Happy nite,no excuses I want dancing on the tables ladies Chins up TiTs out ,lots of tunes how about friday ,halloween Happy nite,,anyone else up 4 it,wine and nibbles and we can think of dumpling weekend x

I also would say i am suffering from stress but in a kind of subconcious way,not tears or worry,but bleeding today 10 days early and a clothes size smaller than i should be just cant seem to do the healthy eat regular thing always running after kids and dont get chance to rest so trying to get some early nites in ,love to everyone x

Good plan Patience, can you take a vit supplement to tide you over at this tricky time too? Berocca is a fav of mine but there are others.

If things don't improve you will go to the doctors won't you? As I'm worrying about you x

patience, make sure you look after yourself.do try and eat.

I almost fainted today in sainsburys, i am just so tired all the time.

i am eating and i am sleeping (but i am getting some late nights due to my mind racing) so i think i must be under stress too. sometimes i feel v low and depressed and then a few hours later i can feel quite positive about everything. i don't know if i should see the gp to be honest, or if these erratic emotions are normal.

i just feel so lonely - h and ow seem to have won over all of my friends in rl, i am soooooooo upset and i can't bring myself to contact any of them as i feel that as they are all on her fb now they have already made their choice ifyswim.

i can't stop looking at her fb either, she has no privacy settings and it feels like i am watching a car crash but i can't stop myself. they are all loved up - seriously i think marrage might be on the cards, i am waiting just waiting for him to petition me for divorce.

i feel as though i have hit rock bottom.

Got vits will try and take them regularly ,got good news re LET im in should be safe 4 a bit in cottage but waiting for confirmation.To anyone else lurking needing advice re housing SHELTER have a wonderful legal advice dept x

Insomnia can be a symptom of depression AB. Have you ever bought Rescue Remedy Night I found it helpful as it did definitely seem to switch off the mind from unwanted, repetitive thoughts.