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Another DickFace to Add to The Pile

883 replies

PfftTheMagicDragon · 26/09/2010 13:08

....Of men that you thought wouldnever betray you but then did it anyway!

My DH has always been loyal. To a fault. Never cheated. Was cheated on in the past by girlfriends, worshipped the ground I walked on. Good sex life, with dry patches, we had started about a year ago to spice things up, toys, bondage.

Turns out, he's been internet flirting/sexting/fucking her on MSN!!

Delightful Hmm

It started 6 days ago. I have seen his phone. And the e-mails and a picture that they exchanged.

And now I am just like all the others. I did ask him how it felt - To be just like all the other cheating dickwads that I read about on here. If it was worth it, if he was thinking about what every other weekend would feel like when he was telling her how much he likes her wet pussy.

Super. Confused

I'm angry, can't you tell?

OP posts:
Footlong · 26/09/2010 23:30

AF - Well if it didnt make you feel better, then it either makes you feel worse, or makes no difference. So basically you will go fuck someone to feel worse, or feel nothing...

Nah.... thats not warped.Hmm

AnyFucker · 26/09/2010 23:31

footlong, you think OP did wrong to point out the reality of the situation to her fuckhead partner ?

even though the silly twat is currently living in cloud-cuckoo land regarding the dick-led activities he has been indulging in lately ?

you think she should just sit tight and let him work it out for himself ?

I don't think so

Doha · 26/09/2010 23:34

AF speaks with wisdom as per usual. Smile

AnyFucker · 26/09/2010 23:37

eventually I would fuck someone else, yes

perhaps not the next day Grin

what am I ? a nun ?

if you break your vows mate...don't expect me to keep my own

footlong...if you were to ever cheat on your wife...what would your expectations be ? That she stay faithful to you ????

AnyFucker · 26/09/2010 23:38

these fuckheads don't have golden dicks (as much as they seem to think they do....)

Footlong · 26/09/2010 23:42

footlong, you think OP did wrong to point out the reality of the situation to her fuckhead partner ?

Because it might not be the reality. That is not for her to decide alone. And if it is the relaity that she wants, she made a mistake in her approach.

I am not sure how much cleare I can make it. It aint rocket science. Do not use children as a weapon. She bought up the possibility of anoter man raising his kids.. to hurt him. Because she had been hurt. She used the kids as a weapon.

Af - Oh right now.. you would eventually fuck someone else.. well thats no different to 99.9% of people... so your point .. well it doesnt have one.

perfumedlife · 26/09/2010 23:49

Pfft, I am so sorry this is happening to you.

Footlong, it isn't a scenario the op set out to achieve, he errant partner has created the situation whereby she would end up with another partner who saw more of his kids than he. Merely by living with her. She is pointing out to him what is a very real risk of happening, thanks to him.

I don't think for a minute that is using the kids, that is pointing out an unpaletable truth, and it needed pointing out to him.

gingerwig · 26/09/2010 23:49

OP' pointed out the reality of the situation '

Who says that is the reality?

Maybe the father would be awarded residency. Maybe shared .

OP is understandibly angry and upset but she is using the kids and her version of how little the husband might get to see them as a weapon against him.

That's not fair on the kids or the husband

AnyFucker · 26/09/2010 23:49

of course my point has a point

because when this particular half-wit was messing around with other women, it wouldn't have occurred to him that he was risking a full-time relationship with his children would it ????

I do believe that the OP holds the cards here...and so it should be

but any reasonable person knows that unless there is abuse involved, a non-live-in partner can expect a cetain amount of contact with the children (and OP sounds more than reasonable to me, in the circs)

OP didn't threaten she would with-hold contact...so I think you do not have a point here, actually

and you didn't answer my question

BitOfFun · 26/09/2010 23:50

Sorry you are going through this, Pfft Sad

Footlong- you have made your point. I think that banging on about it and getting into a row with another poster is in danger of hijacking the OP's thread and creating a diversion which is distracting from the support she has asked for by posting in Relationships (not AIBU). Perhaps you should withdraw now that you have expressed your opinion and allow Pfft some space to process things rather than drawing her into a debate.

AnyFucker · 26/09/2010 23:52

BOF, good point

< withdraws >

Footlong · 26/09/2010 23:52

and it needed pointing out to him.

Really? Why? What was the point? It was to hurt him. I understand why she wanted to hurt him, it was a heated situation, I am simply saying it is a misdtake she should try to avoid in the future.

And you are all making the assumption that he will get less time with the kids than her. That is far from guranateed, and none of us (or even the OP) know for sure how it would pan out.

dignified · 26/09/2010 23:53

She bought up the possibility of anoter man raising his kids.. to hurt him. Because she had been hurt. She used the kids as a weapon.

I think she just stated a fact.

perfumedlife · 26/09/2010 23:55

I think she means though, if they split up, inevetibly the dh would see less of his kids, as they would, at best, spend half the time with him, half with her. Divorced parents tend not to live together. She is entitled to point any amount of future scenarios to him.

Am afraid he had it coming. That is not the same as threatening to withold contact.

AnyFucker · 26/09/2010 23:57

of course he had it coming

what did he think would happen ???????

Footlong · 26/09/2010 23:58

I think she just stated a fact.

The 2 are not mutually exclusive.

perfumedlife - I am not going to presume to know what she meant, I am just stating what the husband could have heard.

AnyFucker · 26/09/2010 23:58

oops, I was supposed to have withdrawn

curse that watched threads

papaelsie · 27/09/2010 00:07

C'mon Footlong, step away now

gingerwig · 27/09/2010 00:09

don't be bullied Footlong Smile
SOme of us are enjoying your contributions

papaelsie · 27/09/2010 00:12

GW - don't get me wrong - I think it's a good arguement - just think it might be better elsewhere. There's a deeply hurt woman at the root of this who prob doesn't wanna debate all of this! FL has made the case, but I think the OP may be a bit tender still. :)

BitOfFun · 27/09/2010 00:15

Oh well, as long as you are being entertained while Pfft has had her heart ripped out and now watches her thread for support implode into somebody else's ego-trip Hmm

I am tempted to ask what you have construed as bullying in my post which has respectfully suggested that this might not be the time or place for this debate, but I don't wish to further distract from he focus of this thread which has been so shamefully derailed.

AnyFucker · 27/09/2010 00:18

GW...enjoying the contributions ??

yes, am sure the Op is having a right fucking good laugh about it too

compassion ? do you have any ?

I am not proud of contributing to the derailment of this thread, but at least I was supporting the OP's point of view, and her right to feel the way she was feeling

papaelsie · 27/09/2010 00:20

Funny withdrawal AF

AnyFucker · 27/09/2010 00:22

I know papa, I am getting withdrawal symptoms from my withdrawal Smile

< goes cold turkey >

Footlong · 27/09/2010 00:37

Seen as papaelsie has asked so nicely (and acknowledged I was not involved in a monologue. I will stop mentioning this. Well unless someone else attacks my views.. then I reserve the right to defend it.

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