The Brave Babes Carry On The Charabanc Trip - Leaving The Booze Behind!

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Hello and welcome!

This is thread number eight!

The Brave Babes are all at different stages of quitting the booze. Some have stopped, some are thinking about it and some are just cutting down.

They are full of support and wisdom for those of you wishing to climb aboard the Bus or Charabanc!!

The Babes aren't an exclusive club, they never judge and they don't charge for advice either!

So, come meet them. I'm Mouse, by the way, and I've been sober since August 2nd 2010, something I would never have even considered without the support of these threads.

Here are the first seven threads, if you want a bit of history.

JWN's original thread

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

Thread five

Thread six

Thread seven

Blue

Stop. You are over thinking this.

If you want to stop or reduce your drinking, that is your decision.

You are best to 'go it alone' in terms of not involving your DP if he is happy to leave you be, if that makes sense.

If you have relationship/self esteem problems, drinking sure as hell won't help.

BUT, let's do this a bit at a time. Step by step.

First, let's get your drinking under control.

If you are going to stop, then stop.

Trust me when I tell you everything else will fall into place or be easier to manover into place without alcohol having a starring role in your life.

Go back to basics. Keep it simple.

What do you want to do?

mouse, bless his little heart!, hope he has a good night!

blue, ime most men dont like to talk about 'stuff', thing is though, you are unhappy, so what is the alternative to talking?, you carrying on drinking, becoming unwell and even more unhappy?, he is a grown man, it wont kill him to talk to you!, but your continued drinking could certainly end up killing you! - you need to take a deep breath and tell him all that is going on in your head!, he loves you and you may find that he is very worried about you!

Blue

X posted.

Feel free to lurk or post.

There are a few posters who pop in. No worries at all.

Hi [blue] maybe this is a good place to start then - just sharing a bit here, or listening to other people. Just sit and enjoy the company and kindness.
x

blue - try and stick around!, it sounds to me like you are bit fed up with running away!

hello hippy, how you doing?

Not so bad....had a good walk with the dog then just kept busy. Still feeling sorry for myself but at least I am not half cut as well. I should head to bed soon as the days start far too early.
Thanks jesus

im off to bed now too - god knows where dh is, he has gone to his first scuba-diving lesson , he is so late i think he amy have drowned! (proberbly in a pint of lager!) he's an odd one, my old man, but i do love him!

goodnight babes!

see you all tomorrow!

L XXXXXXXXXXXXX

Yes Jesus I am tired of running away, and I want to stop.

It's horrible, I buy drink even when I don't really want to, I just do it out of habit. I do need people to talk to.

I pretend that I can just exist alone, doing what I need to for the kids and staring at the tv with dp. But I do need friends and and people to share things with, it's shit.

I understand mouse, how did you do it?

Thank you all, I hope to join you sober tomorrow.

I am here and just waiting to say something profound ... I don't know what but it will come to me soon.

Blue

I was always a drinker when I was younger (no children/DH etc)

I love vodka. And wine. However, they ain't that good for me.

My DS aka Nemo, has SN and LD. I was in bed after passing out pissed falling asleep one night and he woke.

Apparently, I went to pick him up but DH got to himforst. I lost it. BIG TIME.

Thank God he did get to him forst. I have no recollection of that night at all.

I posted on here, like you are now, and worked out my units after a gentle prod from MIFLAW.

On an average week, 90 units would be the norm.

It crept up slowly after I had Nemo. However, my story is the same as every other alcoholic/problem drinker. I drank to much, too often and until there was none left or I passed out.

One last drink, wanted it to be drink o'clock, I put my life on hold to make room for alcohol.

I had to stop. I tried to cut down and failed.

I HAD to stop.

And I did. One day, one hour and some days, one minute at a time.

Some can do it, some can't. It's really up to you.

What do you want to do?

Ah, there you are MIFLAW.

Good evening.

Welcome Blue. You will find amazing support and help here.
I am a binge drinker. I have no moderation control. I have done things whilst drunk that shame and hoffify me.
Do you binge drink every day? For me weekends are my danger time.
My DP also doesn't like to talk about "stuff."
He wasn't convinced I had a drink problem but unfortunately after my most recent binge he is very worried about my drinking.
Take a seat Blue. Keep posting. Just typing your feelings out to group of people who understand really is so comforting and will give you strength.
Goodnight babes.

Morning well only you guys could understand why I had to put a tin can in the recycling box at 6.30am outside the house just so I could once again admire its relative emptiness.

Less drinking is providing all sorts of unexpected entertainment

Well last night was a lot easier and I spent barely any time thinking about a bottle glass of wine.

Lets hope today is the same because I will not be drinking today.

Have a good day everyone where everything goes right !

Morning.

getting as I was sitting here, I could hear dp putting stuff in our recycling bin. I know that it is full of empties from raspberry juice, elderflower juice, apple and ginger juice etc and I was reminded of how guilty I used to feel before when I was ashamed of what was in the bin (and guilty about all the additional bottles that I'd thrown out in other places so dp wouldn't find the empties).

hello blue and welcome, please post again, whatever stage you are at, whether you are trying to cut down or trying to stop, feeling good or feeling crap. I have found it has helped me just to type on here what is going on for me. And I've often been overwhelmed by the support, understanding and (dare I say) love of others on here.

Well I am feeling completely overwhelmed at the moment. Too much to do and not enough time to do it in. I forgot to cancel the veg box so now I have to find someone to a week's worth of potatoes to. I am tired and busy and last night when I got home at 9pm (after visiting parents, dd1, going to the shops, putting washing on) I really, really wanted to sit back and relax and open a bottle of wine. It was tough, tough, tough. As MIFLAW says, I feel most tempted when I am hungry, angry, lonely or tired, and I so agreed with that yesterday. However dp and i sat and watched a programme we'd missed and I ended up feeling more relaxed anyway, without resorting to a bottle.

Relaxed feeling has gone away now though, and I'm stressing about getting everything done. Have a good day everyone.

morning!!!, venus, i do love you!!! i get really stressed before i go away, dh and i always have what we call the 'holiday row', it usual involves me yelling, getting a cats bum mouth and him stomping about in the garden!

anyway, really busy at work today, my deadlines are looming over me like a big black cloud!, dont know why im surprised, its the same every month!

so, good luck all, have a super ride on the bus and remember

TODAY WE WILL NOT BE DRINKING!!

that includes you BLUE! XXXXXXXXX

see you all at coffee time i hope!!

Good morning lovely Babes,

Welcome to you blue, I hope to see you on the bus today. I am pretty much about Monday - Friday during the day if you want to chat.

Had a good evening, went to a meeting and then relaxed with a book. Would have got to sleep quite early apart from the fact one of my parents' cats decided to sleep with me and the purring was about the level of a roaring train. It was nice to have company though!

Morning JWN, venus, getting and anyone else who's about this morning.

Day 7!

Hello wasindie, no tough love or anything from me. Not sure if you read that I went on a short bender last week and DH now wants a divorce... Have limped to Day 7 today!

Just sending you lots of love x

And now I have cross posted with you wasindie!

Morning lovely babes,

Nice to see you Wasindie. No tough love here but its hard to see you struggle with this and then butt out. Keep posting, you seem to do much better when you post regularly - or do you just disappear when you know you have decided to drink?

Red how are you today? How was evening with DH?

blue, welcome aboard. I used to post a lot but am a bit more of a lurker now and keep checking in. Everyone is very supportive, whatever your goal or whatever stage you are at.

getting i love my recycling box now. although I do want to stop people in the street and point out that whilst its full, its mainly diet coke cans, not wine bottles!

venus hope you get everything done and that its not too stressful. Can you make a cuppa and do a nice to do list? that always calms me

JWN love the expression cats bum face. DH uses it to describe me when I am being like my mum! I am impossible when travelling. DH knows to basically avoid me till half an hour after we reach our destination.

Mouse hope you slept last night, glad the extra feed is helping Nemo.

Probably x posted with lots of people, so general hello. All ok in the Gee camp. DH out last night so I got lots of work done. Just about to do my daily call to solicitors.

Morning MsGee. Nice to see you! Erm, when I got back home last night DH had gone to the pub. So I basically made dinner myself, left his on the side, dyed my hair (still red!) and then went off to my meeting. Not sure if he is still trying to punish me or what but I kept calm, did what I needed to do and did not think, "Sod it! If he's gone drinking so will I..."

Glad you got lots of work done last night.