The Braves Babes Battle Bus - NOT stopping at the pub!!

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Hello

I'm Mouse. I've been sober for over a month now, thanks to the support of posters on this and previous threads.

No matter where you are up to with your sobriety, you'll find someone here who has been in your shoes!

Come and meet the other Brave Babes........

And here are the other threads for those who want to read them.

JWN's original thread (and the reason we are all here!)

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

Thread five

Thread six

Morning All!

Wasindie - I am about ready for Autumn and can't think of a nicer way for it to start than you and DT1 declaring it. Have a productive day. I have moved computer to another room in the hope that it makes me super efficient...

Mouse - hope DD day 1 goes well as does your MOT. Glad you slept well - makes a huge difference doesn't it.

JWN - hope all goes well and you get the contract. I am sure that you will be amazing. Are you wearing some lucky shoes?

Starting - I am SE / East and weather same here, lovely isn't it!

Venus - hope you find a way through with your friend, I like the virtual evening - great idea! Its hard when you have friendships that are very drinking focused, I don't have any answers but just wanted to recognise how difficult it can be.

SAF - well done on getting through day 1 - yah!!

Am feeling bright and breezy here. All going ok so far apart from DD screaming when I left her at nursery. I stood in the reception area listening and thought that it wasn't very helpful so just drove home . All go with the house sale / purchase, we have a potential move date and I am now arguing negotiating the packing with DH. He is very stressed at work and this is a particularly bad week for him but if I don't nag remind him of his promises re packing, it will be left to me. I worry that it will jinx things if I pack before we exchange - am i being silly? I just think it would be awful to have stuff packed and then it fall through... ??

Right, have lovely days brave babes. xx

JWN - we x posted but I like that you pre-empted the shoe Q!

Wasindie - great idea but sadly I moved with laptop - will try that tmrw

DH has a plan to save money (which I am sure he will use to buy an enormous tv, he is already making noises re tv to room size ratio) is to rent a van and him and one of my friends DH do the move. To say I am sceptical is an understatement. His folks were going to help us but I have said that I don't want them ruining helping with the move.

I have a sense of doom about the move - not once we get there - just the process. I don't trust our buyers but not sure why.

Morning all! Weather is pretty grim in Yorkshire this morning but there are hints it may improve...

Went to my AA meeting last night (the one where I was totally pissed at last week) and it was all fine. In fact it was lovely. I was almost treated like a soldier returning from the front! Lots of hugs and 'well done for getting back'. Made me feel great.

JWN - good contract vibes to you
mouse - hope medium-mouse's big day goes well for everyone!
wasindie - well done for day 3 (day 4 here!)

Everyone else - Had to read quickly so I am sorry I cannot reply individually. But hello - and today, we will NOT be drinking!

Hello MsGee!

Thanks for the well wishes for DD and my MOT........ I may have to have a full service!

Bit of mid morning smut for you all!!

Good luck with the MOT (see, I read so quickly that part of your day passed me by!)

And thanks for the smutty start to the day

Mouse!! Morning smut!!

Just to put you at ease when I had to go to hospital after 'non healing' after DD, they brought a chaperone in whilst they examined me. Who screamed at the sight of it. Just think - it HAS to be better than that!!

Red - yah, lovely to see you!! Glad the meeting went well.

Right ... I AM going to work ... honest!

Red - that was Yay! as in nice to see you - I haven't gone all posh!

Moomin, glad to hear that the meeting went well. The good thing is that you are back there and sober. The great temptation is to fall off the wagon, and then to stay fallen, all the time beating ourselves up for being so weak and awful and not deserving to be amongst the company of other alcoholics, and since I'm so awful and lacking in willpower I might as well have another drink, in fact I'm not sure if I can help myself...... oh yes. been there.

So if there is anyone out there lurking and reading thinking that they can't come back on here and post because they gone back to drinking, then please understand, we have all been there. I think every single person on here has made themselves a promise to not have a drink, and then has broken that promise. Sometimes the very same day that we made the promise, sometimes after a couple of days, or a few weeks or even a few months. But we are all back here, posting or lurking. Just because you've gone back to drinking doesn't mean you have to stay that way. Today can be the day when you say, (just for today) I WILL NOT BE DRINKING

Thanks venus It was weird, if it had been any other 'meeting' or event or whatever on earth that I had been drunk at I would have probably never gone again - or would have had to get drunk to face it! - but although I was a little bit nervous it was not that gut-wrenching feeling. After a few minutes of hugs and 'good to see you' it was over and onto the next thing. It made me very happy!

Wise words venus. I haven't had a drink since Sunday. DP offered me a beer last night (he had one) and I refused. I did wobble over that decision but the horror of Sunday was still too vivid in my mind.
I feel loads better today. Slept really well actually (although I did take a Nytol) and am worried that (as has happened before) I'll start thinking "oh I'm ok. Everyone gets pissed now and again" and I'll start bingeing again at the weekend.
I'm not going to think about the weekend today and today I'm not drinking.
Morning to everyone.

Morning everyone!

Having some up-and-down times here. On the up-side my doctor has signed me 30% off work (so I only work 70% and can leave early every day). I feel a bit guilty about leaving my colleagues in the lurch, but it's such a relief. Everything has been getting so on top of me, so I'm hoping I'll be able to be a much nicer mummy for dd if I'm less exhausted.

On the down-side, a friend has post-natal depression/psychosis and has been in hospital for a week. She's completely unable to look after her 4.5 month old. I feel so sad for her and fairly useless apart from offering to look after her children whenever they need. She's past the point of even being able to talk to her coherently. :(

I've started to lose count of what day I am on of not drinking - 33 or 34 I think. Certainly longer than it's been without a drink for many years.

On a drinking note, a friend just came back from Portugal laden with bottles of port. Apparently some of them will kept to mature for 20 years . I couldn't help thinking "20 YEARS?? They wouldn't last 20 DAYS in my house!!" Madness!

"I feel very flat and worried."

Like I said - like a cat shitting in your garden.

If you had drunk with her, she would have drunk shed-loads. You did not want to drink with her. So she went home and drank shed-loads. Her drinking comes first.

So she is no worse off either way. But YOU are better off.

I'd call that a reason to be cheerful.

Hi everyone

I am feeling very guilty, I feel that I am taking from you all and not giving back at all. Shame because although I am really pleased that not drinking (especially that open wine!) has been so much easier than I had feared I would not be giving it a go without you guys I think.

Mrs McGee - just an aside - a couple of months ago (before our sale fell through) I got quotes for moving, and then just for the heck of it got a quote for packing. No way did I think I would pay out for that but, our moving quote (same town) was about £1500 and the packing added only £450. I don't know if like me you have just assumed it is far too much without asking so I thought I would say.

Right - today I WILL do some work! Maybe I need a different sort of support group? Is there one for those of us addicted to procrastinating?!!!!

starting

We are here to help you until you are in a position to PAY IT FORWARD.

And, like me and so many before me, you will.

You will read your early posts as I often do and think, gawd, who is that person? Your experiences and thoughts will help the next new Brave Babe, and the next, and the next.....

Just by being honest and posting, we all help each other.

Take you time, you'll get there. x

"I am feeling very guilty, I feel that I am taking from you all and not giving back at all."

You are giving back plenty - every time I read how hard it is for you or someone else, every time I see how the tiniest of worries get magnified a hundredfold, every time someone shares about a broken relationship or a complex tissue of lies, I think, "thank fuck that's all over for me!" and I feel even better about my continued sobriety.

You are going through all this so I don't have to and I am very grateful.

However, if you feel up to it, I would love for you to stay on this side of the fence and let someone else do all the hard work.

starting - I feel kind of the same about being here but feeling like I am not giving back to others. I just don't seem to have the amazing words of wisdom that some others have. However, I go through phases of being able to share much more and I hope I am supporting the thread just by being on it and sharing my experiences, as you are doing.

This thread has given me SO MUCH, I also don't think I would have been able to get so far without it.

starting - please don't think that. You are giving plenty to every person that reads your posts. The range of what everyone's going through varies hugely. And we all need to hear about where each other is! You're doing really well x

I joined the Brave Babes pretty early on starting but here I am on Day 4 - again! The way my drinking has been over the past few months reminds people of where they do not want to go back to. And hearing how well those further down the line are doing is a big boost!