ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No.7

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Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Whether you are a new dumpling or a vet, feel free to join us in our quest for serenity. ...........

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Starting hats off to you for not succumbing to the lure of trackie bottoms and crocs even with 3 young dc - I bet you dont even own a pair of crocs.

If I wore heels on my date he would get a crick in his neck . Btw where are you hiding AB hope you are ok

Well I am much cheerier now after a bit on MN and seeing my friend. I told her about the meet up and she was shocked , this seems to be the reaction I've had from the couple of people I've told . Its funny though once I explain about the thread and dumpling support etc they're almost angling for an invite .

It was a bit sad today as we were talking about her marriage to a lovely DH but sadly she loves him like a brother but nothing more and it causes them so much heartache. Its been the same for years and they are now going for counselling but I dont hold out much hope for it changing. She just cant face the thought of them splitting up they have 3 youngish dc . I told her to come on MN as I had seen similar stories on MN and if nothing else it helps to feel you arent the only one. Has anyone seen any books recommended etc for this situation as I would love to help.

Starting you are absolutely right I wouldnt want my life with him back or to have his life either. Just having a wobble this morning.

Waves to all back later

Just the pathways /habit thing getting ,glad ur feeling better ,i can now see my carpets in 2 rooms so will hoover b4 its too late x

Lol Getting I do indeed possess a bright orange pair of crocs but you are right about the trackie . Glad you are feeling better after visit from friend & NM. I hope counselling will help your friend to refind the love with her h. A v good book is Getting the Love you Want by Harville Hendrix.

Similiar dress I wore with knee length black leggings & high heel black shoes for first date dress. Am waiting for nails to dry atm....

Which one exactly they are so short

Also feel anxious about name of dress company has connotations for me....

Are you going for dinner somewhere ? Does he book somewhere and just whisk you?

I have a depressing image of meeting party man at Leicester Square station then endless wandering and "I dont mind here" . Getting wants decisiveness and then remembers where alpha males get you

Patience do I remember your date involves walking the dog , in which case a Starting shoe may present difficulties !

Thought Jack Russell would act as chaparone Getting and also give me an excuse to wear trainers LOL!
LOve that dress Startin' do you wear your leggings to ur ankle or half way up ur shin i have no idea but wore them short 20yrs ago ,but think i need fake tan if want to show any leg ,organised childcare from 10 til 5.30 pm

Getting, sorry I've just clicked why the name might trigger you slightly . I always wear leggings to knee or three quater length under those dresses. My days of short dresser or skirts are over , so no need to be worried about my modesty! He made a few possible location suggestions & then I said which I preferred

Patience unless you are wearing boots I would never wear leggings to ankle, three quater length or just below knee far more flattering, on my body anyway

Ok, I'm suitably late now so I'm off & will report back later unless of course I decide to break the three date rule in which case it'll be tomorrow .

Tea, am still thinking of you & hope you'll update soon with good news about DN.

Just seen my first spider since I moved in here last November (I think). Squashed it with a book, so I thought, moved book and it stood up and crawled to the wall as if nothing had happened. Cue excessive squashing after Damn things.

Sorry Patience

Nephew seems to be faring better today but I'm not getting over excited, as he seems to have good days and bad days. Yesterday was nil by mouth all day and just a drip. Today he seems a bit better, we shall see.

ok just wased my hair and deep conditioning treatment goin to do more shiny ,filed nails hands abd toes lots of moisturising ,want to relax and have a fun day tomorrow ,send me positive vibes ladies v v nervous x
Best wishes re DN Tea ,dont worry re spider sometimes you are just in the wrong place at the wrong time x

Patience it will be just fine tomorrow. Whether you like him or not it will be good experience .

Thanks Happy x

Wonder how Starting is getting on

Wonder how Starting is getting on

Was she goin out for a meal ?

Don't know, need blow by blow account

Ok sent STBXH a text last nite saying i was goin to see sol next week and start divorce on grounds of 12 mth seperation was that fine with him?{trying to stay amicable for dcs ATM and encourage access pattern hence text rather than lawyers letter on doorstep}anyway he didnt reply ,then spoke to him briefly today re visit tomorrow and after phonecall sent him similar text re Sol.He has just replied "I"
Is this the shortest text ever to finalise a marriage break up ?
Feeling a lot more relaxed about bloke 2 morrow and will see what happens ...only drama so far is i have lost my hair wax for smoothing down my hair and a little frizz protection,dont think it warrants getting kids out of bed to go to 24hr ASDA but having to tidy surfaces and everything now,this dating malarky is quite hard work !

I was just popping in to see how Startings evening went too.

Can you find the wax tomorrow Patience and it'll still work ok? I bet you'll look lovely. You inspired me to paint my nails tonight after an earlier post. Agree with Happys post about good experience. YOu're braver than me, I cannot face any man yet for fun or not. Makes me skin crawl still the thought of any man flirting with me, let alone kissing me.

Sorry typos Very tired.

No sign of her yet tea ,
Yep will try and find it tomorrow ,sure it will be cool ,just going to enjoy a nice day and see what happens x

Startings back

Tea that is great news about your nephew, I know it's been up & down but every good day prob makes him a little stronger. Will keep praying & hope you will be posting with further good news tomorrow.

Patience, I feel v excited for you too about tomorrow & really hope you have a great time. Can't wait for update

Happy, thank you for keeping an eye out for me . Hope you had a nice nite .

Well analysis of date . Had a fab night. Indeed we did go for a meal & he was again really great company which is v surprising as I was so not expecting to click with first person I went on a date with . He asked me tonight would I ever think of settling down again & I in true dumpling style replied firmly in the negative . After meal he asked me did I need to go home or would I like to go for a drink somewhere. He listed out a few places & then said v nervously or we could go back to his place. I immediately said his place sounded lovely . Sat on his balcony overlooking sea. To be continued...........

P.S. I firmly stayed within the boundaries of 3 date rule & he's v v keen to meet me again asap

Was pondering to myself during drive home & came to conclusion I could really grow to love the single life

That sounded like a lovely evening and he sounds like a gent

Do you think you'll make him wait for the third date to set boundaries? Great you were so honest about not settling down. You seem to be handling things in such a down to earth and sensible fashion. I'm not sure how I'd behave if I did want to date again but I do know it would never be as well as you.

Typical that I went to bed far too late and now the DCs woke at 6am Sitting here with a very large mug of coffee. Looking forward to hearing about Patience day. I can live vicariously through you ladies whilst I stay away from the dating scene

Ooh Starting balcony overlooking sea . Sounds like you had a wonderful evening all round and well deserved it is to !

As we speak Patience is on her date , obviously very confident of having lots to say with dc babysat from 10 - 5.30 . Look forward to a full update later.

How are you Tea guessing from Beach Boys you are in a good mood !

I am still feeling full of fabulousity and energy so hoping to get lots done today - not sure what though

Have a good day lovely dumplings see you later

ps wheres AB gone..hope you are ok