The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Next Stop Sobriety!

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Hello, welcome to thread number six!!

I'm Mouse and, thanks to these threads, I quit the booze on August 2nd 2010.

This truly is a fantastic source of support for anyone who wants it! Full of real, honest, everyday people who are all at different stages of quitting the booze, cutting down or being long term sober.

There are no judgmental 'know-it-alls' here, whatever your circumstances, you will be supported all the way.

Come and meet the rest of The Brave Babes........

And, as before, here are the previous five threads for those who would like to see how this all began.

JWN's original thread (the reason we are all here)

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

Thread five

btw, met dds latest this afternoon - a bit of a beefcake!! , plainly works out, and has a lovely deep well spoken voice! - i can see the attraction! (looking forward to dhs reaction!! )

JWN, I went to the pub a few weeks ago and actually enjoyed not drinking. It felt bizzarrely more easy than being at home. Enjoy your evening.

Msgee, well done on not joining in with the wine drinking - you really will feel much more able to cope than if you had a hangover. one glass always seems tempting. but for me it was never the first glass that was the problem, it was all the subsequent ones.

Hope everyone else is having a good Saturday evening.

really quick one!, back from the pub, didnt drink, didnt mind, but did find the pissed people a bit boring!, i must have been a pain in the neck as a drunk!!

see you in the morning!!

hi everyone, can i join you?

I come from a long line of heavy drinkers and do not want to end up the same way.

I have been following your thread and it is so inspiring so I am going to join in,

Just been at a wedding reception and had a bottle of nasty cheap white and that is it for me.

I am running a half marathon in october and I would much rather be sober and fiT. So I will be using you for inspiration and my drinking stops now.

Hello there, Feed!! Have you read the whole of the threads? Jwn is the expert. She will be around soon, talking about dishy young blokes dressed as pirates driving 4x4s, but otherwise well.

Mrs McGee. Have been thinking about you at the ils. Don't have any advice re pooing. So pleased dh is on your side with the diet cokes and love.

morning everyone!! a big welcome to feed!, i dont know about being an expert, i am 3 months sober though and enjoying every minute! - a day at a time!, i have to say, i couldnt run a half marathon, pissed or sober!

forthe - do keep up!! the pirate rides a motorbike, the 4x4 guy is a different one! (i cant keep up atm, and im her mother, what hope do you have! )

Hello feedtheyak, nice to see you. Sunday morning was often a time when I made resolutions about drinking. Are you thinking of cutting down or do you think that will be too difficult?

As you will see from other threads we have no particular doctrine or angle here, but many of us have have found that trying to cut down to a reasonable level has been tough (and that is why most of us are on a thread like this - if we could just drink sensibly then we would).

On my part, trying to drink at sensible levels either resulted in me having one glass, then another then another until the end of the bottle, then waking up thinking 'oh shit, I did it again', or I would not drink for several days, thereby 'proving' to myself that I didn't have a drink problem, and consequently then bingeing as a reward.

So at the moment, taking each day as it come, I am deciding not to drink. I have had some ferocious wobbles when I crave a drink and get really pissed off, but so far, with the help of others on here, I am getting on great. In fact so great that I have no desire whatsoever to run anywhere

Hi everyone thanks for the welcome.

Think I just want to stop completely. I don't drink anywhere near as much as I used to but I always drink too much when I start.

We don't have alcohol in the house but if I go on a night out I never stop at a sensible level.

hi all, really quick one, my dns have drained my very soul!! - it has poured down, so took them to see marmarduke at the cinema - what a load of bloody rubbish, they loved it though cos the dog farts alot!

nice to see you wasindie! well done prime!! i think a week deserves a big !!

how are you doing yak!!?, have you got through the first day? - hope to chat with you more tomorrow!

see you all in the morning!

goodnight

L xxxxxxxxxxxx

Morning everyone, hope the weather is better where you are...lousy here in Norfolk.

Anyway, went to a friend's party last night, and took some chilled bottles of Becks Alcohol Free and it was fine. Only a couple of friends noticed that I wasn't drinking the real thing, and I told them that I had given up "but why Saffy, you don't drink much anyway", was their response. Felt a bit annoyed that I had to justify it - but was fine really.

Have a good day ya' all! X Oh, and hi to all the newbies - haven't had a proper chance to catch up yet.

morning all - wasindie, i KNOW that you can do this!, dont project, dont over think it, just DO IT!!!, alcohol only has power over you if you let it - you wouldnt let anyone or anything else treat you like a fucking fool, why should this barstard be allowed to? get a grip girl!!!

hi saffy! well done you - i find real friends are very supportive and dont mention the becks bottle after the first couple of times!

have to go and get dd [sigh] back later!

Morning everyone :) Have just spent my first weekend in years without touching a drop of alcohol:):):)

feels great doesn't it desire

Quick hello from the car. I have survived weekend with in laws without drinking!!!

DD improved sat night but am still worried about her. In laws fairly horrid. DH very down about their behaviour. Anyway, this is just a quick update, will post properly tonight.

Brilllllliant. Well done. You survived. (Mrs Gee).

Hi wasindie. Go on. Smash through that limit. No more mental barriers - it's only a thought in your head, it isn't real.

a huge hi and well done to the babes that have got through the weekend!!, coping with awful inlaws is bloody difficult! my witch-in-law is a nightmare!, i do find now though that i actually cope with her better now im sober, i get to take the moral high-ground while she gets pissed and nasty!, works a treat! and i get to be a sanctimonious judgy old cow at the same time!! terffic fun!!

hope everyone else is doing ok?

Hope the quiet day on here is because everyone is having a good bank holiday - no such luck here, but the sun is shining and it is shaping up to be a wonderful evening.

Hi everyone,

Sounds like a lot of good weekends and new people (hello!).

Wasindie, hope you are ok tonight. 4th day is just a number, perhaps think of it as a second day 3? Don't focus on the day, just take it hour by hour, or minute by minute.

Thanks to everyone for the support over the weekend, particularly on Saturday night. I've just had some really good advice from a friend of a friend whose DD went through the same thing, so can now go to the doctor armed with more facts about possible medical solutions.

I am amazed that I got through the weekend in some ways but in others the whole pile of crap just made me more determined to stay sober. Last night DD ended up in our bed and DH was in a bunkbed and I am so glad I was sober. I hate thinking of all the times we have co-slept when I have been drunk.

In laws were horrid. DD was pretty tantrummy because she was in pain, in a new place, tired and mainly because she is two! MIL was horrified and said that DH never ever had a tantrum as a child(and proudly said that it was because he was scared of her). She said that DD behaviour had made her suicidal this weekend (in all seriousness). She also said that DD behaviour was because of the way i was 'training' her. Like a dog. Which puts more credence to mine and DH theory that he was raised by the family dog. Anyway, I could fill pages with rants on them but I won't ... I wish we could never see them again (as does DH) but they are so manipulative and toxic that we can't see any way out working.

Anyway, JWN, you are so right. Dealing with them sober was actually easier, I just rose above it and was more able to protect my lovely daughter from their sniping and total inability to look after a child. Again, I hate to think what slipped past me in the past.

Sorry I haven't responded individually to all the lovely support. This thread kept me going this weekend, not only were you all there when I wanted to get plastered on saturday but I read most of thread two over the weekend to keep me focused. JWN, Mouse, RedMoomin (MoominMags?), Wasindie, Trinity (sorry for anyone missed)you are all incredible. I feel like I know you all a bit more after reading that thread and am even more in awe of you all. Ive also done lots of thinking but I have prattled on long enough so will leave my thoughts / questions for another day!

venus, just reading posts properly, sorry you are having a bad weekend. Are you ok?