The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Next Stop Sobriety!

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Hello, welcome to thread number six!!

I'm Mouse and, thanks to these threads, I quit the booze on August 2nd 2010.

This truly is a fantastic source of support for anyone who wants it! Full of real, honest, everyday people who are all at different stages of quitting the booze, cutting down or being long term sober.

There are no judgmental 'know-it-alls' here, whatever your circumstances, you will be supported all the way.

Come and meet the rest of The Brave Babes........

And, as before, here are the previous five threads for those who would like to see how this all began.

JWN's original thread (the reason we are all here)

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

Thread five

trinity here sorry

Hi Trinity, I'd just posted on here wondering how you are doing. I have seen some of your other posts on mn so I know that you have had lots going on. Please keep coming back here whenever you need support with your drinking. Look after yourself, and don't beat yourself up.

It was lovely hearing you making good progress over the recent weeks, cutting down on your drinking, sounding much more upbeat, taking your tablets regularly and getting on top of stuff in the house. Tough year for you, I know. x

hi trinity - i echo what venus said!, its been a bloody tough year for you and the girls, i wish you all the very best for teh next one!, if we can help in any way, that just great, we'll be happy to do so!

i am off to bed now, im so cold!!, its like late autumn here and my feet are freezing!

I wish we could have an MN meet up at my house

without you lot I wouldn't have made it through this year

Aww Trin, what a lovely thing to say, and who knows what will happen, you may yet meet us all

What do you have planned for the weekend? My PILs are coming to stay next week so we have to do lots of things around the house so that PIL are not horrified at the state of things.

finishing off cleaning ut the car (yes, it is that filthy)

walking the dog in the sunshine with the girls

I want to bake cheese scones but its been years so may nt be brave enough

trinity - you would have made it you know, you are far stronger than you give yourself credit for!, i can see a woman, still grieving, but who is slowly emerging from the very depths of it!, i dont believe that anyone 'gets over'a death, i think we eventually find a way to live with a peace in our heart, where someone can be remembered with love and affection, laughter at their daft antics (i bet neil did some of those! ) and a regain a joy of living - i do hope i havent upset you, i would never purposly do so, i would just love to see you take a few baby steps towards a happy life!, you deserve it, your girls deserve it, and im pretty sure neil would want you all too!.

on a lighter note, i havent made scones for years, they were always rubbish, my sil makes the most wonderful, light, fluffy ones that i gave up - im going to give it go today, you have inspired me!

where is everybody? - having a super sober day i hope!!

Hi, checking in quickly from m25 services via phone! We have been v disorganised and despite plans to set off v early we're not even 50 miles from home...

Anyway, no drinking last night, so day 9 for me!

Wasindie, if you're out there hope you are ok, thinking of you x

hi wasnindie!! nice to see you about!, sorry you had such a crappy friday - hope the weekend is going a bit better!

Hello to those who are around. I had a lovely lazy morning then lots of fresh air this afternoon.

Just looking for something to keep me busy on a quiet Saturday evening as I am feeling a bit bored. I suspect an early night is on the cards.

Hi wasindie, that does sound like one crap day.

Venus and JWN, hope you are still around

Things not great here. On hols near see with in laws. DD very upset (poo again) has spent an hour crying and whimpering and asking to go home. Putting her in car just to get to back from shops caused her such pain she was screaming and crying. She fell asleep in car, so I am now sat in car with her feeling totally shite.

And some woman in the shops told me DD needs a brother or sister which pissed me off.

And there are 4 bottles of wine inside the house. And right now i just want to cry. Seeing my DD so upset just kills me.

msgee - i really feel for you and your poor little love! - drinking the wine is not going to make the situation any better though! (btw, just ignore the woman in teh shop, silly old bag!)(her, not you! )

please ignore me if im being totally wrong here, but have you given her a laxative?, would it help?, that stuff which softens stools - my sil does give it to her 4yo, she has occasional problems like your dds and it helps no end.

anyway, have a good cry, a bloody good rant on here but do try not to open the wine!, easier said than done i know, my mil could have miflaw back on the bottle in about 20 minuites!

Thanks JWN, yes we dish out laxative when it gets bad (dd had some yesterday) but as problem is psychological it had minimum impact. She physically stops herself going, which makes it worse. She is chock full of beans, water and dried fruit and could have gone but I think she's stopped herself so many times it's now probably physically difficult too. Docs on Tuesday methinks.

Lovely DH has come out with a book, diet coke and choc so feeling more composed.

You're right. Drinking will not help. I'll no doubt be up with DD half the night and it won't help if I'm drunk.

Deep breaths. Thank you x

Hey Msgee, don't know if you're still in the car (reminds me of when my parents used to go to the pub and leave us outside in the car with lemonade and crisps) but just to let you know that I'm around and sending you good thoughts.

It can be terribly tempting when you know there is booze available but deciding not to have that first drink is the thing to do. My PILS are coming to stay next week. It is the first time they have ever stayed with us (usually stay with SIL) so that will be interesting.

MsGee, have you considered a cranial osteopath? My youngest was similarly distraught when he was younger and on a friends advice we took him to one. A couple of visits later and we found things really improved. It is totally non-invasive and therefore cannot do any harm. It may help her and you. x

Big wave to everyone else, haven't posted for a while but still hanging in there on day 20.

Good for you pav. Really nice to hear how you are doing.

Hello everyone - lots of new faces since I last posted .
Welcome all ,and thinking of anyone who who used to post ,picked up ,and can't quite pluck up courage to post again .
I know the worst times for me are when I feel no good ,bad mother ,failure - you just think ,well what does it matter if I make it worse by drinking ..
I'm still managing not to drink - have been away from internet but have held this thread in my mind .
Such powerful internet fairies ,thank you all so much .
Have to dash now - but b4 I do MsGEE ( expect it's gone a bit far for this but ) I've heard that blowing bubbles while sitting on loo helps .
Something about uses same muscles .

Hi all, DD now in bed and I'm havin a non alcoholic beer. DD woke up v upset and it took till half an hour ago to calm her. We think that there is a tear or physical damage of some sort because we've never seen it so bad and she screamed every time she moved. I'll look into cranial osteopathy though.

On the plus side PIL scarpered v quickly so we have an evening alone. Silver lining and all that.

I poured DH some wine and just thought about glugging the lot but figured it's not going to improve anything.

Thank you all for being there. Shuffle hugs all round. Sorry I can't reply to you individually but it's so hard to do properly on a phone!! x

hi all!! my dh is taking me out for 'a drink', this is the first time we have been out just to the pub - i think i will be fine though, got a really busy day tomorrow looking after 3 nephews under 10 , i simply cannot do it hungover, and my sil would also be very displeased with me!

so, really well done to ginger and pav!! lovely to see you again!!

wasindie! just for tonight!!!, you know you can do it!!!

back later!