The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Next Stop Sobriety!

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Hello, welcome to thread number six!!

I'm Mouse and, thanks to these threads, I quit the booze on August 2nd 2010.

This truly is a fantastic source of support for anyone who wants it! Full of real, honest, everyday people who are all at different stages of quitting the booze, cutting down or being long term sober.

There are no judgmental 'know-it-alls' here, whatever your circumstances, you will be supported all the way.

Come and meet the rest of The Brave Babes........

And, as before, here are the previous five threads for those who would like to see how this all began.

JWN's original thread (the reason we are all here)

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

Thread five

Wasindie, why would we write you off? We are all in the same boat really. I am just like you. I have an alcohol problem. the only difference is that today I have not had a drink. Join me in that tomorrow?

Sleep well.

wasindie - get to bed!!! no way will we write you off, we care!!! we are in this together!!

im off myself now!! see you in the morning!

Wasindie I don't want to delay you getting some sleep but wanted to add that no-one is writing you off. I'll try to get online in the morning but remember that we are all battling the same thing here. xx

Hi everyone and thanks so much for the warm welcome.

Well - I felt fab when I woke up this morning and am so happy I didn't have a drink last night. So I will not be having a drink tonight either so I can feel as good tomorrow!!

Jesus, I am in South Australia, so am in the same state as Coober Pedy but it's about a 10 hour drive from me. Oh and I agree - new opals certainly never hurt a girl, except perhaps her wallet.

Hope you are all sleeping well - I'm off to grab some lunch.

Sordid, well done on not having a drink! You quickly get used to waking up feeling ok!

I lived in Adelaide during my teenage years, although that was nearly 20 years ago! I still have chicken salt in the cupboard though and hunt out tim tams when I can! And when I left I bought myself an opal ring although someone told me that was bad luck but can't remember why?

It's still early here so am sure others will be around soon.

Wasindie, I hope you got some sleep. Mouse and JWN will no doubt dispense wise words so I'll leavethe tough love to them. Do you think that you could talk to DP? I know it's always our own decision to drink but if DH gave me permission to, I'd find it v hard. Anyway you know what you have to do, dust yourself off, today is day 1. Make today's decision not to drink be the
defining one, not last nights choice. < shuffle hug>

Morning Wasindie - another new day today...don't beat yourself up about yesterday, we've all been there, done that, got the hangover! I am starting, (after more than a week, with only a small slip up) to finally get some uninterrupted sleep, which is helping. Still feel really hard done by though - which is stupid. Back to work next Wednesday, which will help I think, to take my mind off things. I've had too much time to think about stuff, and the weather's been lousy, so have got bored, and naturally, after a boring day, a drink is so tempting...so need to get back in the old routine. Anyway, I'm rambling...off to make another cuppa - have a good day one and all!

Morning everyone

Wasindie go easy on yourself, don't beat yourself up. You are going through a HUGE life change at the moment, perhaps the biggest. Add to that running on too little sleep, trying to work, support your partner and I expect not really get any time to yourself - I am impressed that you are tackling your drinking issues at all.

It seems like you need a strategy in place for the next time someone comes round with a bottle of wine. Perhaps you also need a different way to "escape" and relax. I haven't really found a way yet, but I'm working on it!

I have to run, I hope you're not feeling too bad today. One day at a time, remember, just start again today.

Good morning fairies,

Hope that everyone is feeling OK today. Although maybe wasindie has a bit of a sore head! We will never write you off lovely. As so many posted last night, we are just the same as you. I am just the same as you and that first drink is never far away. You know the drill (as JWN said), today's a new day, pick yourself up, choose not to drink just for today.

JWN glad you had such a fab day!
prime well done on the booze-free shop!

mouse, venus, MsGee, saffy, maddogs, sordid, forthe and all the rest of the babes: good morning to you all! Here to another sober day! (Sorry for missing anyone out!)

desire - I forgot you! Sorry and an extra special good morning to you!

morning all!!

right, im about to kick some arse so unless you are wasindie, look away now!

right my lady!, i said it to silver the other day - you know you have a problem, deal with it!, stop fucking about, you have the best reasons in teh world to give up and you are letting them down - i dont want your daughters to ever look at you in the way mine has looked at me, with pure hatred and loathing, i never want them to say to you 'dont come near me, you make me sick', yes, she said that me, it was like a knife through my heart, i knew it wasnt a teenage tantrum, it was because i was revolting old lush! your babies need never see that side of you, for gods sake dont let them!
you have to be honest with your dp now! TELL HER what is going on in inside your head, she deserves the truth - she needs you to be the responsible person we all know you can be, you are in intelligent, warm, caring person, please dont let the booze take it all away from you!

end of telling off! i know it sounds silly, but i have grown so very fond of everyone on here, i just want desperatly to help us all stay sober!

JWN - channelling MIFLAW this morning?!

sordid - the size of australia dosent really compute in my brain iyswim?, if i drive for 10 hours here i will drive off some cliff in scotland!

you soon get used to feeling great every morning - i dont know how i functioned when i was drinking, i felt so bloody rough most days!

nice to see saffysmum today, hope everything is going ok?

morning moomin!

Morning JWN! I know what you mean about the size of Australia, I visited when I was 19. We went on a 24 hour coach journey and when we looked at the map we had covered a tiny part of the east coast! Found it hard getting my head round it...

Morning everyone . . Good morning Red:)
Do you prefer to be called Moonin as I seem to be the only one who calls you Red???

JWN - thank you for your post to Wasindie. It hit the spot for me too.

this morning I am grateful for THREE WEEKS sober.

Good morning again desire! Call me either - I get both and I like them both! (I would go for Red as it's easier to type, ha ha!)

Morning maddogs, 3 weeks - bloody fantastic! Well done!

Congratulation on three weeks maddogs :)

Morning all.

wasindie just to add to the other posts....

I think MIFLAW has previously posted asking how seriously you are taking this. Previously when I knew I was drinking too much and needed/wanted to do something about it, I didn't tell my dp. There were a few reasons for this:

1. I was ashamed and didn't want him to know that I was an alcoholic.
2. I didn't want him to know how much I had lied to him in the past and I was worried that if he did know it would jeapordise his trust for me.
3. I thought that I could control it, and manage to get back on track on my own without any help or support from anyone.
4. I am not sure that I was 100% serious about wanting to do something about my drinking, and I was worried that if he knew then a) I couldn't just 'fail' and go back to drinking, and b) if I did then he might tell me off for drinking and then we would argue and c) if I did drink I would be letting him down as well as myself and doubling my crap guilty feelings.

This time I have told him (although he does not know how much I lied in the past and I would be horrified if he found some of my confessions on here) and he has been great. He recognises that sometimes he drinks too much (although he is not an alcoholic and can just stop at one) and together we have been enjoying a much healthier way of life that doesn't focus around social drinking.

Just wondering whether you recognise any of those excuses for not teling your dp about the extent of your problem?

Anyway wasindie have a good day, let us know how you're doing and give those lovely girls a big hug x

Are people actually working today?!

Hello all.

JWN and venus - great posts for Wasindie so no need for me to go over old ground. And IIRC, Wasindie read my post to another poster who had slipped a few days ago.

Red - weather report please......

desire - nice to see you! Hope you are ok.

maddogs - congratulations on 3 weeks! Well done!!

JWN - how was DDs date with Cap'in JS??

Wasindie - hello lovely. I hope that you can be kind to yourself today. No or feeling or ok? We are all here for you, all on the same bus, travelling to the same destination!

Saffysmum - hello

Sorrid - well done on waking up NOT hungover! Long may it continue!!

MsGee - morning!

Hello to anyone else that I haven't mentioned!

Packing here, ready for a trip up north tomorrow!