Exhusband and new baby

[patiencerunout]

My ex-husband [we aren't divorced] has fallen for the oldest trick in the book and is now a father-to-be - not entirely from choice and not entirely willingly. She told him she had a special machine that stopped her becoming oregnant...words fail me. How do I deal with this gracefully? We did not have children as he categorically didn't want any; he's middle-aged and is desperate with anxiety about the future as he barely knew the girl when she announced her pregnancy. He is doing all the right things; what can I do to support him? His happiness is of paramount importance to me and watching him deal with a situation he did not choose is very difficult. Help.

When it's all boiled down though, a good solicitor is a gal's best friend.

patiencerunout - Good to see you smiling despite all this! Real men can be weak and vulnerable, too. But I think your ex has pushed you one step too far with all this.

I'm with math on this!

I think you should leave this poor woman the hell alone. You sound like an utter misogynist, believing all the crap your 'poor ex husband' tells you (wtf kind of idiot believes something about a contraceptive machine?- probably he is just making that up too, unless he is really learning disabled in some serious way) and putting blame on a woman who no doubt is going through a very difficult time with all the stigma of being a single mother and having such an idiotic man trying to weasel his way out of responsibility, and an interfering ex-wife trying to insinuate herself into her life. Ugh, I pity her, really, but you aren't in any way going to be helpful with your attitude and if the child is a girl, I fear for her having someone around who would be so hateful about an unplanned pregnancy.