brave battling babes get even better without the booze!

[jesuswhatnext]

10 weeks ago i started a thread asking for help - i was in a very desperate place, totally dependent on alchohol, unhappy, lonely and floundering around trying to make sense of it all. i was in danger of losing everything i hold dear.

in those few short weeks, i have got my life back and picked up a few computer friends along the way - we help each other, support each other, and laugh and cry together - if you would like to join us, please feel free - no judging, preaching, sermonising or moralising - we are simply ordinary people with a bloody awful illness!

"What happens when you just completely run out of money - where will we live? what'll we do? I can't bear the stress. I have fallen so far and I keep trying to get back up again but just get knocked back and knocked back and I just wnat things to be simple and good. I feel that nothing is safe and that I am under attack"

IF - big if - that ever happens then you will not be without a roof. If you are sober, and therefore a reliable house guest who is not a fucking hazard and a nuisance, then you will be taken in, be it by the state, friends or even a charity. So that's the worst case scenario and, when you think about it, it's not as bad as it could be.

You basically have a choice at the moment - have a shit life and be strong enough to deal with it until it gets better, because you are sober: or drink, throw the towel in, and guarantee that your worst fears come true. The rest is details.

At the moment, you're making the right choice. Hope you can keep doing that.

Like the mouse hug

I am trying to find something but I am in that position where everyone thinks I'm over qualified. And I don't think i can get back into doing my old job because been too far out of it. What to do?

Red you have just made me spit water out everywhere!!

No-one has ever said that before, sorry you ahev sore boobs. You are lovely. xx

Well, sore boobs are a nuisance and I thought they should be recognised as such! x

Christi

I'm talking retail here. Anything. Something. For you both. Shifts, top up with working tax credits, you'll get help with childcare costs etc.

Surely it's better to take a pay cut/carer cut and earn money and actually get out there than not. Wait. And wait and wait.

I know it's not that easy BTW, jobs don't grow on trees. I just mean apply for things that you may not have considered before.

Something less taxing. Less specialised.

Spread your wings for a while. Try something new. Is that an option?

Yes, I have a Shock Absober III!!

Doesn't absorb much though

Sorry, that wasn't very cheering.

I can't prove this to you, but I can promise you that there is a link between your sobriety and your chances of playing this shitty hand to maximum effect.

The more sober you are, the sharper you will be and the more proactive. And that is going to spell job or other opportunity sooner or later.

It's not magic at all but it will feel like it.

In the mean time, try to focus on the here and now and on the definites rather than the what ifs, because that in itself is going to help you.

Life can be shit sometimes, drunk or sober, but you can turn this round.

Sorry you are so down today Christi:(

Bloody hell you lot, I've only been away a few hours...how much will I mis when it's a few days???!! Skimmed through...seems to be cheery stuff. Good-oh. My move will be taking me to north Yorks...looks like I'll be neighbours with lots of you!

algee - good news about North Yorkshire, if you are near enough I can drag you off to my lovely AA meetings !

...not really near to anywhere!

Excuses, excuses ! Once you are in the area I will start working on you. We could meet in York for a coffee? Or Northallerton? Or are you right out in Whitby or something?! It's a big county to be fair! Anyway let's just see x

top edge of hills beginning with howard...

Nope it's too cryptic for me!

...ah ok, paranoia reigns here though! York's about 17 miles or so driuving through Castle Howard way...

Not too far then! Get yourself settled in then I will be over to hassle you. Not sure what I will be hassling you about though!

blagging an N&T no doubt!

This thread is improving my geography as well as sobriety :o

Christi - it is crap about your job but as others have said it would be worse drunk.

Yeah definitely blagging/ demanding N&T!

??????? muller cow???

What's N&T???

nothing and tonic...got my first of the day in front of me!

@ muller cow!

Oh right:)