brave battling babes get even better without the booze!

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10 weeks ago i started a thread asking for help - i was in a very desperate place, totally dependent on alchohol, unhappy, lonely and floundering around trying to make sense of it all. i was in danger of losing everything i hold dear.

in those few short weeks, i have got my life back and picked up a few computer friends along the way - we help each other, support each other, and laugh and cry together - if you would like to join us, please feel free - no judging, preaching, sermonising or moralising - we are simply ordinary people with a bloody awful illness!

Midlander here

But now I live in the middle of europe instead.

Half way through Day 3 of no drinking. . didn't sleep great last night but found it very hard to get out of the bed this morning. Didn't wake up properly till near half eight and have to be in work for 9 (20 mins walk).
Computer at home playing up so only really got to skim through postings a little while ago. Sorry to hear that last night was not a great night:(

Hi desire, well it wasn't a great night but there's no point dwelling!

How are you doing? As I have just started again I had my usual dreadful night's sleep last night, really sweaty, very light and not restful sleep. And then exhausted this morning. BUT I was not hungover or still drunk - result!

How long does it take to feel physically better, days or weeks?

I think I've felt grotty for so long I've deemed it as 'normal'.

How long's a piece of string?

That said, you should typically feel noticeably physically better within the first week.

Hardest part for me is accepting I have a problem with alcohol although knowing full well that I do IFYSWIM. Had convinced myself that drinking in my friend's house didn't mean I had a problem, just that as we are both single parents it was our totally justified way of unwinding...but gradually one to two nights per week has turned into 6 nights a week.

Bonjour Jem! Ca va?

Ooooooo - get the fancy posh French bloke!

Oui.

desire - I know exactly what you are saying about knowing you have a problem but finding it difficult to accept it. It's a bugger! But you are doing great - 3 days in. I bet you will be feeling loads better by the end of the week.

Christi

Just noticed you are in Edinburgh.

I did a lot of drinking in Edinburgh - I did grad work and some teachnig at the uni.

Mind you, I did a lot of drinking in a lot of places.

I went back for a wedding in early sobriety and found AA there to be strong and welcoming. Don't know if that's useful to know.

Was getting ready to go out last week and complained about my stomach being completely round, bit like the Michelin Man:) Only after reading one of the posts today did it dawn on me that my stomach is the way it is because of my drinking :(

Thanks MIFLAW will bear that in mind

Still no news on THAT job.

Really really really need to find a job.

If you just focus on not drinking desire everything else will fall into place. I lose weight when I stop drinking but a lot of that is the fact that I also stop eating huge amounts of crap. Some on here have lost weight, some haven't. The most important thing is staying away from booze one day at a time.

Hi christi, glad to see you about! I am so sorry that I do not have any great advice re job x

I can't believe how many posts on this thread, haven't been able to keep up - what is the thing about emailing mouse, please to explain?

I feel so stuck no idea what to do. Stuck, useless, broke... Knees so sore can't even exercise which is my failsafe healthy way to feel better. Very blue.

Christi

Sorry no news about your job. Rubbish!!!

I have lost a pound!! I'm amazed given the size of the curry we had last night!!

I'm sure by the end of the day, I'll have found it again!

It is so rubbish

Well done for losing weight.

I think i have but haven't weighed myself for a while, clothes seem a bit looser though.

What happens when you just completely run out of money - where will we live? what'll we do? I can't bear the stress. I have fallen so far and I keep trying to get back up again but just get knocked back and knocked back and I just wnat things to be simple and good. I feel that nothing is safe and that I am under attack

I am going to therapist tomorrow. I really need it. But I am desperately down. Crying.

Christi

I have done a list of posters. To help everyone keep up with those who have contributed to the last 3 threads.

If you want it, let me know at [email protected]

I too want to Shred but can't - TMI ALERT MIFLAW, LOOK AWAY NOW - sore boobs!! Hormental-a-tastic here today. I may duct tape the buggers down and try tomorrow when I have the place to myself for a while.

Sorry you feel blue today.

Christi that is shit that you still haven't heard about the job. So rude! Maybe it means something even better is around the corner.
Can you swim? Or are your knees too sore even for that? I seem to remember someone talking about a triathlon, was that you?

I am annoying myself by dwelling on the ob/gyn's comment about my weight.

Ah christi, I didn't want to ignore your post. You sound so down my lovely. I am sorry I do not have any practical advice - is there anything the CAB can do to help? Do you have creditors that you could try to contact? (Sorry I am a bit rubbish at this.)

(I know that this is the last thing you want to hear when you are feeling so crap but please don't drink tonight. I swear it won't make things better x)

Sorry Christi, cross posted with you, didn't see that you were so down. I really sympathise :( Wish I could help.

Sorry about your sore boobs mouse!

Sorry, X posted.

Much better than bear hugs! Can you try to find something just to keep you going until the ideal jobs come up for you both?

It is rude. I have searched and searched though and I can't find anything else online. And i've just looked for DH as well and there is zip, nada, rien.

I went swimming yesterday but knees were killing afterwards. I spectacularly whacked my head against the wall of the pool doing backstroke and I was concentrating and not looking properly. How silly!

I have missed ob/gyn's comment, did he/ she say something awful

Mouse have you got a proper sports bra?