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brave battling babes get even better without the booze!

994 replies

jesuswhatnext · 08/08/2010 15:27

10 weeks ago i started a thread asking for help - i was in a very desperate place, totally dependent on alchohol, unhappy, lonely and floundering around trying to make sense of it all. i was in danger of losing everything i hold dear.

in those few short weeks, i have got my life back and picked up a few computer friends along the way - we help each other, support each other, and laugh and cry together - if you would like to join us, please feel free - no judging, preaching, sermonising or moralising - we are simply ordinary people with a bloody awful illness!

OP posts:
Toclearmyhead · 09/08/2010 20:04

What's happened tonight? I am going to get my ds now. Hope this bastarding bloody urge has gone because I know I have drink in and I want to have it :(

TrinityRhino · 09/08/2010 20:08

I just dant do it anymore

they had a lovely tes, homemade spag bol, they all ate it all up and baby corn too and then they played nice, hd lollies, just gone to bed and dd2 lay in my arms and sobbed and sobbed,'I miss daddy, I want daddy'

I'm having wine, I'm sorry to everyone who tries to helpme, I'm sorry

Toclearmyhead · 09/08/2010 20:10

:( Trinity

Life is so bloody unfair.

ChristianaTheSeventh · 09/08/2010 20:16

Oh no Trinity that's awful, so hard for all of you, so sorry so sorry

Portofino · 09/08/2010 20:30

Oh Trinity! ((((((hugs)))))). I am having wine too. Having a drama and am tearful - but is nothing to what you are going through!!!

TrinityRhino · 09/08/2010 20:38

I keep silently crying

ChristianaTheSeventh · 09/08/2010 20:44

It must be horrific for you Trinity. I am so sorry I am so sorry. I wish there was something someone could do to help, to make it all better, just instead of all this pain

Toclearmyhead · 09/08/2010 20:47

It must be so hard this time of year as well.

You sound like you've done so well for your dc's today.

Am having a vodka too.

venusandmars · 09/08/2010 20:51

Trinity, I know you must be feeling awful, but is the any way that you can take the wine and pour it away.

You will feel so much better if you stop now. Your dd is crying for her daddy, please at least keep her mummy sober. She needs you. And she needs you sober.

TrinityRhino · 09/08/2010 20:53

2 glasses down

Im trying to stop

venusandmars · 09/08/2010 20:56

Christi, you are NOT a failure. That is what MIFLAW calls stinking thinking.

You are not a failure, but you might be an alcoholic. Your daughter may be diappointed about not getting a garden, but you will face more disappointment if you continue to drink.

If you stop drinking now, then tomorrow you will feel a bit guilty and a bit crap and a bit diappointed in yourself. If you don;t stop now, then tomorrow you will feel really crap. You can still choose now just how bad you want to feel tomorrow.

Go to bed, and sleep. And start again tomorrow.

venusandmars · 09/08/2010 20:57

Trinity, pour it away. Don't torture yourself. make a cup of tea. Eat a magnum. Hell eat four magnums. Just please, put the wine away. You KNOW how crap and sick you will feel.

Toclearmyhead · 09/08/2010 20:57

Am away now, sorry. I'm no use to anyone when I'm like this. On my second :(

Trin - hope you can stop. Can you go to bed? Just go to bed and leave the drink.

Night :(

venusandmars · 09/08/2010 21:00

Clear-head.

You wrote that you "having a vodka"

Are you really having A vodka, or is it more than that. Can you (just for tonight) leave it at one vodka? If you wanted tomorrow you could drink the rest, but maybe tonight, one would be OK.

venusandmars · 09/08/2010 21:05

Clear-head, Trinity, it doesn't matter what number of glasses you are on now.

Honestly, stopping now and having a cup of tea is better than finishing the lot.

Pour it away and cry and weep and wail. However bad you feel now you will feel worse in the morning if you don't stop.

You are worth more than this.

ChristianaTheSeventh · 09/08/2010 21:06

I had three glasses of white wine. Left bottle in fridge Making herb tea with milk thistle in it (natch) and going to go to bed and read my crazy book (Ordinary Thunderstorms, William Boyd)

Go on toclear, Trinity, join me! You can do it! (not in my bed, I mean in stopping drinking! you can do it!)

MissPerrier · 09/08/2010 21:09

Please stop now Toclear and Trinity. xxxHUGSxxx

MissPerrier · 09/08/2010 21:10

WELL DONE Christiana Smile

venusandmars · 09/08/2010 21:12

Thank fuck Christi, I felt like bloody King Canute here, and I was thinking about joining you all.

venusandmars · 09/08/2010 21:13

Christi, I am halfway through Ordinary Thunderstoms. Loving it.

algee · 09/08/2010 21:19

Flipping heck, what's happened...so sorry for all of your troubles and wobbles, but drinking isn't the answer. Think of the hangover, the acting in a way that sober you hates, the impact on relationships, the self hatred...sorry still have dd up so can't post a long and meaningful.

Be back in half an hour

MissPerrier · 09/08/2010 21:20

I feel a bit out of my depth here sometimes. Sad might be quiet for a while.

TrinityRhino · 09/08/2010 21:22

why do you feel out of your depth missP?

algee · 09/08/2010 21:23

none of what i posted was to imply that problems aren't real, just that drinking will only make it worse, whatever it promisrs you

MissPerrier · 09/08/2010 21:27

Hi Trinity I get a bit bit anxious about trying to say helpful things, sometimes the thread moves so fast I can't keep up. But I care very much about you all and am sending positive computer fairy vibes full of love and courage Smile