Brave Battling Babes - Booze No More!!

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Well, thanks to the refreshingly honest and inspirational JesusWhatNext - this is the third thread, for the battle to beat the booze for all of those who are on the path to do so.

Some are sober, some are trying to be and some are still drinking.

I'm Mouse, I'm new to this and I'm scared. So, come and join the journey.

Sometimes if dp left the room (to go to the toilet or answer the phone or something) I'd take a sip (a BIG one) out of his glass.

Now I'm laughing 'cos if he'd done that to me, I am sure I would have noticed. But then I would have used that as an excuse to get in a huff and open 'my own' bottle, and behave in a childish way refusing to let him drink it. All the while pretending to be cross, when actually I was glad.

Wasindie, Toclear, Venus this is turning into a fest.

If we ever got our glasses muddled up, I would always claim the fullest one was mine.

I would have two bottles on the go both opened - one which we were drinking from and the other in a cupboard so it looked as though I was drinking half the amount that i was and i could top myself up while cooking or when i sneaked into the kitchen. Shamefull really - dont think DH even noticed.

Looking, I think that one of things I am most ashamed of, is how much I deceived my loving, trusting dp. Like you, I think he mostly had never noticed and he was quite bewildered sometimes by how I'd 'suddenly' got drunk (err, yes, that would be the 4 G&Ts I'd had before the 2 glasses of wine).

Even now I have not told him the full extent of the drinkiing I did or the risks I took.

hi all, just been reading the latest posts - ohh my word! - i used to have a bottle open 'for cooking with', as well as the one on the dining room table , got bloody annoyed with waiters who didnt measure out 'my fair share', would take a huge glup from dhs glass if he went to the loo, in fact, if you did it, so did i!, how come i waited so long before i realised i had a problem?, what a waste of time, money, emotions etc.

we have been to a bbq this afternoon with some friends we do not see terribly often, i just said i was driving, so no problem with having a drink, i was just observing the wife - she has 2 young dcs, nice home, etc etc. was saying how she loved to get the boys to bed, have a 'few' glasses of wine - i was screaming inside 'be careful, it may backfire on you'! - she sounded just like us i hope to god i was not watching a problem beginning!

btw - did i mention it is TEN weeks since i had a drink!

everyone sounds really positive again!

this thread has been a saviour for me and i thank every single one of you for the help, support and non judgy advice you have given me over the last 10 weeks, you have all become very important to me, sounds odd i know, invisible computer fairies, but i just think we have found a group of people who simply understand the desperation this illness gives us.

Oh yes, Jesus, this is the best group of people ever. ALL of them us , even me.

venus - what have you done to the broad beans? - i am making some red onion marmalade tomorrow and poss some tomato chutney if i get the time.

JWN - Congratulations on reaching the 10 week milestone! I remember how down and remorseful I felt you sounded in your first post and look how you have turned that around - and as well as that, how others here have been inspired and ecouraged to hopefully do likewise. Thanks everyone else too and here's to us all hopefully getting through the rest of the evening sober - not long to go now..

Pea, broad bean and manchago cheese salad (Marcus Wareing recipe) and broad bean and mint pate (my Mum's recipe)

I've drunk a bottle and a bit with my best mate.

I choose to

It's nice

I'm sorry

Hi Trinity, don't be sorry, you said it was nice. Where's the problem with that?

The problem would be if you drank more than you wanted to, and if having had a drink last night, you thought bugger it I might as well just get smashed today as well.

Out of the last 17 days, you had drink on only 2 of them, so no reason why you can't continue on and have nothing to drink today. If you want to, of course. You have sounded much more energetic, motivated, focussed, in control recently, and if an anonymous woman on a computer senses that, then it must have been much more evident at home.

Have a lovely Sunday.

Morning all :)

Trinity - you don't have to say sorry to us. Someone else who knows what they're talking about will be here with wise words but you said you chose to drink - that's very different from having/needing to. Also, if I remember from your first posts on here that is a hell of a lot less than you used to drink every night. I guess the danger is if you chose to drink again tonight it could start becoming less of a choice IYKWIM? Sorry if I'm speaking out of turn, that's just how I imagine it would be for me.

bugger - just read venus' post and she's said what I wanted to but much better!

Ignore my last post and listen to venus :o

Good morning early birds. Thank you for being there last night, I'm new to sharing and felt a bit weird afterwards, in a good way.
Morning Trinity no wise words, just glad you posted, your my inspiration for a bit of a declutter campaign next week

Morning everyone.

Well, I'm feeling good. Lovely sunny day here. There is still an open bottle of white in the fridge because I didn't have any yesterday - no desire. Am so happy about that, the desire has simply gone. Thinking about freezing it in portions before it goes off so I can use it for cooking!

Glad you are all well. Hope you're OK Trinity I drank half a bottle on Friday night and decided not to feel guilty about it.

MissP decluttering is addictive. Must get back into it. Had a couple of weeks early in the year when we just transformed the flat. And I feel it coming along again.

Probably will hear about job tomorrow. Eeeeek.

Christi Good-luck for tomorrow will keep nearly everything crossed for you!

morning all

thanks for your kind words

daaaay 1

Good luck everyone

morning lovlies!!! that includes you trinity!!!, who knows, maybe you can be a social drinker, you will know yourself if you start bingeing again!

oh decluttering - i have done quite a bit in the last few weeks, i still have to tackle the pantry! , it makes me feel faint just thinking about it!

broad bean and mint pate sounds really good venus, have you got time to list the recipie?

quite busy here today, loads to do in the garden if the the bloody rain holds off.and on top of it all -

I WILL NOT BE DRINKING!!

hi trinity - nice to see you!!

MORNING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

mouse Will call tomorrow morning. Recruitment guy says now they are thinking whether I would be right person to be the next leader of the team or something? Because the guy who I'm joining presumably wants to move up to another role in the future? Gawd knows.

I have am middle of a mini-row with DH. He sometimes doesn't respond when I say something. And DD1 too. I'm getting so bored of it. DH says, 'well I did hear you, I was standing right next to you, so of course I did!' I replied, 'Couldn't you have acknowledged me in some way?'... anyway, he's been sent to Coventry and I'm not acknowledging anything he says which is driving him mad! Childish I know, but he really needs to learn what it feels like when you don't even get a grunt in return!

Hope you get good news tommorrow and if not you have done really well to get this far, which will serve you well next time. Sounds exactly like my DH - only he interrupts with "right" - as in stop now! - halfway through what I am saying while looking disinterested. Infuriating.

Christie - at your DH! Is he related to mine? And DD? I find myself asking them both 'so what did I just say?'

Pha!!!

Re the job.......what an odd thing to say. It's like they keep changing the reason for the delay.

I'm going back to point 1 of my original I'm afraid sweetie.

Will keep everything crossed. Not around much tomorrow as PIL are here, it's MIL birthday. Please post so I can catch up once they're gone.

Good luck with it!!!! xx