Brave Battling Babes - Booze No More!!

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Well, thanks to the refreshingly honest and inspirational JesusWhatNext - this is the third thread, for the battle to beat the booze for all of those who are on the path to do so.

Some are sober, some are trying to be and some are still drinking.

I'm Mouse, I'm new to this and I'm scared. So, come and join the journey.

Afternoon Babes!!

Welcome looking how lovely to 'meet' you

Wasindie - 'How the hell do you let someone who is feeling post-c-section and huge and una ttractive that you are in awe and total love and respect for her after seeing al that she has gone through?' - Tell her, tell her every day.

algee - hello sweetie. How wonderful to see that you've posted, missed you! Take good care of yourself. Baby steps.

Christie - well doen for stopping at 3 glasses, it would've been 3 bottles for me! Sorry no job news, call them Monday and ask!

MIFLAW - excellent posts as always. You are simply marvellous.

Red - your hair sounds fab! I'm off for a super crop soon (think GI Jane but a nit longer) too but chickened out of red and went for my warm choccy brown instead!!

Trinty - enjoy your swim! Hope you are feeling ok lovely! You are doing so well.

MissP - well done on 3 weeks!!!!

JWN - hello! I managed to stay firmly sat on the wagon last night by re-reading the start of your OT! So, thanks!!

Daaaaaaaay 6!!!!

I WILL NOT BE DRINKING TODAY!!!!!!

venus - how are you wonderful lady?

Hello Ido.

Thanks, it was a major wobble and hit me hard!!

Lovely to hear from you again!!! Sounds like you have uncovered a few 'home truths' about your relationship.

I'm rather hormental at the moment and find I'm much more of a beatch way more fiesty with that and booze combined!

You sound as if you have a plan in place too re the counselling.

Keep posting and let us know how you get on. xx

I really can't type sober! Sorry for all of the errors in my first post!!

Danger, danger, I'm bored.

Have been keeping busy since dp went away mid-week, but now have nothing planned till tomorrow lunchtime. Any ideas what I can do to keep myself and my mind occupied?

Hey Venus what are you having for supper? Could you cook up a storm? Any good DVD's or books around. How about a pampering evening? If it's not too dangerous could you invent a Mocktail and sip it while you pamper? Is exercise something you could do or a gentle walk. Failing that have you got a cure for a stonking headache not induced by alcohol?

How about making one of your lovely soups Venus, and think about how lovely it feels to wake up with a clear head and a smile.

Hello venus

You could spend the next few hours trying to find something decent to watch on tv tonight!

Seriously, what can you do? Sort your knicker drawer? Empty the understairs cupboard? Eek!! Tidy the kitchen drawers?

Draw, read, paint...... sew? Yes, soup? How about soup? All of MissP's suggestions are good.......

MissP

Water, painkillers and something sweet. Is your blood sugar low? Do you need to eat?

How are you other than the headache?

Thanks Miss P, off to do something inventive with broad beans.

Hi Mouse I'm fine. Just having a Diet Coke and ice! I was actually just thinking how I take feeling well and normal for granted. In the past I would have had wine come what may on a Saturday night. Right now I would appreciate just feeling normal. Normal is good! IYSWIM

at venus inventing things to do with a broad bean!!

MissP

I know what you mean..... weekends = booze and shit loads of it!!!

Not anymore!!!

Right, madness here......DD is having a 'Britain's Got Talent' party with her best friends....... it's feeding time at the zoo and bath time so I may pop back later if I get chance!!!! I feel like a whirling dervish!

Hope you are all ok? Hello those who pass by later or who are 'there' but not here.

Wasindie I hope you get to read what I posted to you re your DP........

Hello busy computer fairies! :o

Feel like I'm sitting down with a good book when I manage to get to this thread.

mouse - i may have to do a list too, I find it really hard to keep up. Well done for staying sober last night. When I saw your count it seems we are 'day' buddies. This is my day 6 too and it feels great!

venus - what you said about being a 'functional' alcoholic rings true. This last couple of days I have felt as if am able to give a lot more when I'm doing things.

jesus - 10 weeks! YOu are a star - I've read the threads from start to now since Monday and you seem so happy and now compared to the start :) Thanks for kicking all this off.

wasindie - those early days are such a haze, but don't think about the what-ifs. You are not drinking, even if it's just for today. That is a great step

miflaw - everything you say is a big help. Is that the sort of thing that happens at an AA meeting? Am too frightened to go, buut figure you all seem to be my 'crutch' at the moment.

looking - Nice to 'meet' you! I felt like you when I read this thread - all these people were admitting they have a problem and I did so many of the same things yet never had admitted it to myself. Well done on not drinking this week, this is my day 6 and it's great!

algee - so happy to see you back here

trinity - hope you're knackered and sober now after the swimming

CTS - fingers crossed you'll hear soon.

MissP - :) at your 3 weeks today - what's your drink of choice this evening?

moomin - witwoo at red hair and make up!

(witwoo is my attempt at a wolf whistle!)

venus (again) - hope you got over your wobble.

Hello to anyone I've forgotten

Venus steady on with those Broad beans they can be addictive!
Goood luck Mouse!
Toclear Ive had my Diet Coke (only ever have one which is frankly bizarre considering) Now I'm drinking tea. Well done on your post, I can only handle talking to a few peeps at once, but I'm working on it!

Toclear, evening!!

I know what you mean about the list!! Phew, great post!!

My treat is Diet Coke aswell tonight and yes, let's be day buddies!!

I love waking up without a bear's arse in my mouth and a jack hammer smashing my skull!

I love the mornings....... I never noticed how much before!!

I'm pooped today, did an hour and a half on my crutches with DD in town.

OUCHY!!

May have a nice warm bath later with a nothing and lemonade, in a tall glass and ice! I may even push the boat out and have a straw in it too!!!

Be back tomorrow for Daaaaaayyyyyyyy 7!!!!!

Stay strong all. xx

Tonight I am drinking some fancy detox cordial with sparkling water (that is my 'treat') then will move onto tea and chocolate. A bath is also on the cards for me then I have to choose which book to start next. Simple pleasures that have passed me by for too long as all I have focussed on is drinking.

I think I didn't even really enjoy the drink as I had it, I was always thinking how much I ahd left or if dh's glass was fuller than mine.

Today has been brilliant, I have renamed it Sober Saturday as it's been a revelation not to strt the weekend with a hangover. Even though I didn;t think I had a hangover as I could 'hold my drink'. I thought I was 'functioning' as venus said, but I am much nicer sober than I am the day after the night before!

Took DD and DS out horse riding and then to lunch with DH - in a pub. Lime and Soda and no vino. For years I was always dragging them out for lunch at the weekend - not interested in the food - but an excuse for a large wine - (or two if a drank quickly enough and the food slow enough) Enough anyway to tide me over until i got home and really got down to business. Stopped at park on way home which never would have happened due to late-ish hour. Am finding Saturday easier than Friday. Felt sad yesterday as the realisation that i could never be normal dawned as I saw normal folks heading to pubs on way from work. Today seems a whole lot better- enjoying a soda and lime watching Sat night tv with the family and actually following it - as far as you can. DD is 8 and seen too much alcohol around here - am not mentioning the fact that I am not drinking and hope that she will remember what happens from here on as being normal. Hope you are all having a good day and that your strategies all help you get through the night x

clear-head, so agree with the obsessive watching of how much wine was in dp's glass. Would feel so aggrieved if he had a drop more than I did. Always worse in a restaurant when the wine waiter might fill up the glasses and ALWAYS give the man more than the woman. I would be like this

Thanks venus. I was so ashamed of myself for that - thinking what was wrong with me bothering about things like that. I would snipe at my dh if I felt he had taken any of my share. Now I know what's wrong with me - I have a drink problem! Funny, I wasn't bothered how much cordial he had at all :o

Looking, you are doing such a good thing getting yourself on the right track while your dd is young.

I was astonished a few years ago when we were on holiday and another woamn was a little drunk, and my dd2 said "my Mum's quite boring, she never gets drunk" I think it was just that my tolerance was so high that 'normal' social drinking didn't hit the mark.

Oh and also tha fact that fortunately, dd2 lives in a complete dream world and wouldn't notice an earthquake!

clear-head, I agree. I don't mind how much tea anyone drinks, ever

Toclear, Venus blimy I have just had yet another moment when reading your postswhen I felt like it could be me talking!! I would be horribly obsessed about how much was in DP's glass too. If he drank faster than me I would guzzle my wine to keep up. If he was too slow I would get impatient. Holy Shit why did it take me so long to realise I have a problem

Can't shut me up tonight, chat amongst yourselves while I blither on, When I have those moments of 'that could be me' they are both reassuring yet painful, because they confirm the truth.IYSWIM

Yes MissP - I know just what you mean! At least we're in good company :o. I would never have admitted the glass watching in RL. While I'm admitting - if I poured the wine in the kitchen I would always take a huge gulp sip and refill my glass before going through with the wine. Makes you wonder how we didn't see the signs!

Toclear - deep breath- me too