Brave Battling Babes - Booze No More!!

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Well, thanks to the refreshingly honest and inspirational JesusWhatNext - this is the third thread, for the battle to beat the booze for all of those who are on the path to do so.

Some are sober, some are trying to be and some are still drinking.

I'm Mouse, I'm new to this and I'm scared. So, come and join the journey.

I may need to join you

Good afternoon Babaes! Thought that I would surprise you all by getting on here over the weekend!

I have read the end of the previous thread. I think there was only one new person to greet - luci - nice to meet you! I loved catchng up with you all. wasindie - so good to hear about the twins!!

Hello there frank, I think you commented briefly on thread 2? Nice to see you over here. How are you feeling today? Are you hungover?

I cannot believe how fast this thread is moving! It's fantastic. Thanks to all for the unswerving, non-judgemental support. Well done JWN on 2 months!!!!

And if there's anyone out there worrying about their drinking please come and say hello. This thread is not at all cliquey. All newcomers welcome!!

frank - are you about? I will only be on for about another 10 minutes unfortunately but I am sure that there are others about to chat.

Hello Moomin.

Hello Frank......

Hi mouse - thanks for sorting the new thread and fab new title! How are you doing today? Wll done for leaving that vodka behind. And great that your dh is on board.

*WELL done, obviously!

Hi moomin, hope you're having a good weekend.

Hi frank. I think you posted the links to other alcohol sites. You've obviously been looking around at the topic. Have you been thinking about this for long?

I am trying to avoid my neighbours barbeque this afternoon. Could be recipe for disaster, so I'll maybe just pop in at the end, when people are pissed enough that I won't want to join them.

Right, I have to go now I hope that everyone has a good day. Going to try to get on tomorrow - this thing is moving so fast that I would have to get into work super-early on Monday otherwise!

Will be sending good thoughts to all the computer fairies!!

Hey venus - good to see you! Hope the BBQ is OK. You will be fine!

Hi mousey, I saw your posts from yesterday about your previous relationship and how it left you feeling .

Lots of people on here are having to face emotions and fears that we've been trying to avoid. It's going to be an interesting time ahead.

venus

I know. My demons scare me more than the booze when I'm drinking. The booze exaserbates (SP?) them.

So, no more feeling like a victim of my past!

The future's bright, the future's orange...........juice!

The BBQ plan is a great idea, go at the end!! Will you miss the food?

Sorry it was a fleeting visit Moomin. Have a good day.

Venus I have been thinking about it off and on for years

Frank.

So, why now?

I'm here if you want to talk

Can I join you? this seems to be a very supportive thread.

I have gotten into a bad habit of opening a bottle of wine most nights (and finishing it) - this needs to stop! I lose most of the next morning as I go back to bed when my DS goes for naps!

I was out last night for the first time in ages and got ridiculously drunk, made a complete and utter prat of myself even threw up in the pub, I am so mortified I cannot stop cringing - i hate myself right now

Hello HEB, welcome. Don't hate yourself, you're doing a great thing admitting there's a problem. I used to stop at Tesco express near me where you can park literally by the door, and it's completely glass fronted, leave kids strapped in car, run in, pick up cold Oyster Bay from the fridge, staring out at the car, run to pay, run to car. What a great mother. Go home, open it to help me through kids' tea and bathtime, finish it by dinner. WOnderful.

Are you going to drink today? I haven't drunk for a week now and feel absolutely amazing.

I've done my fair share of throwing up and making a fool of myself too so you are definitely not alone!

Hello Hazel.

Sorry, I'm hardly qualified to give you any advice. I'm still drinking, not as much as I was thanks to this thread and the support of the posters on here, but still more than I would like, or indeed should.

You've done the hardest thing, you've acknowledged that you need to stop or at least change the way you drink.

No not going to drink today - I was supposed to be going out but cancelled babysitter, I really cannot show my face after being such a moron last night, am truly mortified and don't want to get in that state again, I just hope I can be strong and not drink!

I too was a regular at tesco express - putting the wine in the pram basket

So ashamed of myself!

Great that you have not drank for a week, you should feel very proud of yourself - I hope I can post the same this time next week

Hi Hazel, are you planning not to drink, or are you planning to cut down or do you not yet know.

I would have loved to be able to cut down. to drink the odd glass or two, and not to mind. However over the years I have found that I seem unable to do that. I don't seem able to have a glass, put the bottle back in the fridge and leave it at that. Well that's not quite true, I have been able to do that, just to prove to myself that I don't have a problem. But having done that one night, I'm back to my usual the next.

So each day I am getting up, feeling glad that I am not hungover, and plan not to have a drink that day.

Hi mouse, how are you doing today? What are your plans for the evening?

Hello Venus....

Well, tonight I'm going to try and drop 2 or 3 drinks. I have some pomeg/grape/rasp juice chilling with a splash of lemonade, all made up and ready to go.

If I can just pour it, like vodka, I will be more likely to drink it.

DH and I have talked about being dry in the week, a friend of mine is going to so that too so I'll have a buddy, even if DH changes his mind!

That's the next step, drop 1 night at a time.

How are you?

'do' that too...... doh!

For anyone concerned about going to a real life AA meeting, and I know that a few of you have had some reservations, and/or childcare issues:

There is a site called 'Molly's', which is not an official AA site, but does provide a 24 online presence along AA lines. It is on 'Delphi forums' and is free to join, of course. Because many members are from all around the world, you can be sure that you won't be alone, ever.

Otherwise, I would suggest looking at:
Rational recovery
Women for sobriety
Stanton Peele, and his website
LifeRing
Jack Trimpey
and some further reading here;
stinkin-thinkin.com/stinkin-thinkin-essential-reading/

'Molly's' is a good starting point for online help.

@Trinity:
I hope you have been put in touch with 'WAY', which stands for 'Young and Widowed'. It is for people who have been widowed, or widowered under the age of 50. I know that you will find MASSIVE and joyous support there. XXX.

Hi mouse, that sounds like a good idea to have your drink all made up and cold and sparkling, makes it an easier choice.

I am just about to brave the BBQ next door. It has turned chilly, so I won't be tempted to linger with a cold drink (or a cremated sausage).

Have a lovely time Venus.