ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 6

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Cant survive 5 minutes without this thread

I thought mine was sexy in a Marlon Brando type of way , obviously I had major issues at the time.........

Mine was more Brad Pitt ,you can see why i put up with alot ...anyway was that Appocalyyse now era or On the Waterfront Startin'
Thanks Tea ,i just think whatever anyones beliefs we were given life as a gift and good if we are survivors not victims and make the best of what we have.

I have a splitting head ache today. Woods were fab we collected twigs, pine cones and leaves to glue onto paper. Any other ideas on what to do with them?

My hubby wasn't really that good looking, he had a kind and gentle way about him when we met. Looked after me etc, 6 ft ish tall and a goatie beard and dark hair. Trying to think of a celeb to compare him too ummm Patrick Dempsey is most like him.

Tea, must have given the wrong impression, mine wasn't good looking either hense my referral to me being delusional

Mine bring most of their leaves, cones etc into teachers for nature table tg

No you didn't give me the wrong impression I wasn't implying that my H was the only un Brad Pitt type, I was just typing in a hurry and not explainging myself well.

I'm feeling very tearful tonight for some reason, no idea why. H is away seeing his mum in Switzerland, the OW has been in Germany for 8 weeks and he's been good with DCs when visiting them, so nothing to complain about really Do not like feeling like this

Btw I have a splitting headache also!

Anyway, made monumental decision & my diamond ring is heading to London to be made bigger. Decided it's been sitting in box long enough & obviously it's never going back on wedding ring finger! Slightly scared of how much it's going to cost so decided better not to ask

Tea, x post. So sorry to hear you're feeling down tonight. ((Hugs)). This too shall pass.......

Put your feet up with a big bar of choc & watch x factor tonight

Tea sorry you are feeling down but it sounds like you gave your dc a nice day.

Patience its bound to be seriously testing of serenity and calm when you still fancy and love someone who isnt coming back. I felt like that for a while but by assiduously avoiding contact with exh those feelings have passed. I also agree about making the best of what we have and trying to focus on what we gained and experienced not what we lost . I am trying to get to a place where I can see the nice things in my marriage , the positives that came out of it but without crossing the line into sorrow that I dont have them anymore . Its taken until now to be able to begin to take that stance.

Sov your posts made uncomfortable reading for me as I too had a lot of emotional stuff which exh tried to help me with what I never saw was so did he. I started pschyotherapy a couple of years ago and it turned my life around hugely but sadly not in time to retain exh love which was a huge source of frustration for me. Now I just think well at least the changes have been made and yes I imagine I will function far better in any future relationships. Also I could never have handled the split and ow factor the way I have without the therapy.

Starting this may sound naive but you are having your ring made bigger ? Why? I remember us talking about this and it was said that we could wear it on the other hand or something? My rings are languishing in a box and I thought about wearing them the other day . Its such a waste as they are stunning and actually I wouldnt have any problem wearing them I just think others would find it odd. Rereading your post perhaps its for your middle finger then and needs to be in proportion !

Well I get dc home tomorrow and I am not getting over excited as I know they will be tired out after exh sage like decision to take them on a 5 day holiday involving 2 whole days driving. He booked this 3 days beforehand and wondered why he couldnt get flights so they drove. Sigh.

I am on my own tonight for the first time in a long time so I think a glass of wine and my skyplus planner beckon

Ooh Teflon are you ok , I hope you are happy with the haircut ?

Just a quickie hair is fab and off out on town... will catch up later love to all x

No chocolate in the house, I don't tend to buy it tbh, not because I do not like it, just because I can eat it in one sitting and could never save it for an emergency, so for my own health I tend to not buy it. IYSWIM here. I do have some homemade brownies but I've already had one today.

Right kids just gone to bed and are already quiet thank the Lord! Need to wash up and clean up the lounge, which currently looks like a bomb site with their toys everywhere.

Still feeling tearful, I'll clean up, make a cuppa and see what's on tv. I confess I do not watch any reality tv at all, including X factor I prefer thrillers, chick flicks or comedy films mainly. I like CSI. I did like Friends but I haven't found another soap to replace that since it stopped many years ago. I hate watching things like Eastenders, something awful always seems to be happening to someone and it depresses me. Cannot watch 24 as I get so stressed about what will happen next etc. Unless I could watch all the episodes back to back and see everything turned out alright in the end. In fact I used to argue with H after watching an episode as I was so het up. LOL Clearly a sensitive soul Anyway as you can see I am probably one of the most boring people on this thread and I never ever watch horror films, no way.

So glad your hair looks fab Armbow, looking forward to hearing later all about your escapades

I was wondering about the ring too Getting, didn't ask though, as I bet it's been on thread before why and I've forgotten

Enjoy your evening Getting of you having Sky and wine. I try to save my pennies by not buying alcohol at the mo, but I lurve it....

Right off to clean up the chaos.

Getting, unfortunately my ring only fits my wedding finger as fingers on right hand slightly bigger! Ring has to go back to where it was made but have decided to hell with it may as well splash out so that at least it won't be left sitting in box. If I were you I'd start to wear your ring, what do you care what other people think. You love it so you should be getting benefit of wearing it.

Teflon, great that hair a success, paint the town red

Tea, sending you virtual ((Hugs)). Don't ever say you're boring, you're a fab dumpling . Tomorrow is a new day & hopefully you'll feel brighter then.

Oooh Tea you need to come over one evening for a glass of wine then. It will be a stipulation of my settlemet that I have a wine budget

Starting, now dont laugh, I thought you meant getting a bigger stone not sizing it !! Dear me gettings losing her marbles

Waves to all.

Teflon so bored with identicalhairstyle of last 26 years

Sorry meant to say Tea what nonsense you arent boring I dont watch much tv either especially not X Factor however I do love a bit of Stritly

Strictly

Oh Getting, pmsl.............

Forgot to update, my Mr Normal has been emailing me & seems quite nice but not sure if he does it for me

The only things I really watch are D Housewives, X factor & B's got Talent. They give me a real good feel factor

Ladies - I'm sorry to hear that so many of you are down at the moment.

I've announced the split on facebook today, and it feels good not to have to watch what I say so that I don't have to explain things.

I think we need to renew our fabulosity! New hairdos are a good thing. I've grown my hair long lately, which H always wanted me to do - mostly because I have shied away from making big changes in the last few months. I'm going to make an appointment for next weekend and have my white hairs covered and some highlights, and possibly a restyle.

Wierdly, H and I are going to get photos done with the kids next week. Our favourite photographer has an offer that runs out at the end of the month and we have decided to get some family pics done. It doesn't feel wierd though, as I don't feel like we'll be pretending, as we were when we had photos done when we were fighting all the time.

I'm sending out positive thoughts to all of you. I am grateful that I haven't really lost the man I loved, I've just lost the love - I still have the friend that so many of you miss. At the moment I don't feel like I have room in my heart for a relationship, but one day perhaps I will find a relationship that will make me a better person instead of feeding the bad parts of both of us!

Who is Mr Normal ? Someone from Match ? You arent selling him Starting !

I also thought you were getting a bigger diamond Startin' just for the bling factor.I still think i will sell mine ,im not a huge jewellery wearer never worn a ring in my life b4 i got engaged .I dont watch telly at all these days Tea ,am glad to switch it off when kids go to bed TBH ,owl was hooting outside for a bit there i will miss all that when we leave.I def need a new haircut ,got an appointment on friday see what happens.Need new clothes too ,just cant handle shopping with 2 kids.Apparantley my sis was v upset for me but didnt know what to say ,so i will keep my heart and mind open to that.Kids had a mad tinsel fest b4 bedtime so room looking a bit sparkly,why keep it for xmas Tea my kids play allsorts when they go pine cone picking ,they make pine cone cakes ,sell them in their shop etc etc.... so glad you found the woods x

Pmsl again Patience, bigger diamonds are not my priority right now . It's a lovely ring & I wouldn't get the money it's worth if I tried to sell it right now so decided to hell with it to splash out & get it sized bigger so that I can wear it again. Xh bought it for me after I had ds & I used to wear it a lot instead of wedding, engagement & eternity rings. He then also bought me a necklace & earrings to match the following xmas so it's a pity not to be able to wear it. Hope that clears up the ring saga .

Patience, glad your sis has compassion for what's going on for you right now. Hopefully in time you might build a closer relationship. It's lovely if you can have family support but I know sometimes they may not be the most helpful

Getting, Mr Normal is indeed from match. I titled him Mr Normal as up to now he's the only seemingly normal person I've come accross on the site! Well actually to rephrase that the other seemingly normal men are all chasing 20yr olds & I've only attracted nutters to date who obviously think as I'm a single mother I'll be grateful for a s**g from anyone who possesses the right equiptment . Mr Normal is prob lovely (45) but I had more in mind a drop dead gorgeous 30 something yr old to get all hot & sweaty with

My xh sang this to me on our wedding day & at a lot of other functions .....................thought this one might me more appropriate

Well f**k me pink! He used to sing and . Says it all really!

hellooooo ladies

had a lovely time out with friends tonight. we laughed so much i cried - i can't remember laughing that hard in ages.

very happy with my hair...highly recommend a restyle to anyone who is up for it.

not read through all of your posts yet, i will catch up tomorrow.

hope everyone is keeping well.

I love Elvis Starting. Your H is a shocker though isn't he? Can't believe some of the songs he sang

So glad you had a good night Armbow, any conquests?