ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 6

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Cant survive 5 minutes without this thread

ps Tea ,bake them a big cake and send me a bit ...ahhh a dumpling picnic how fab would that be ,we could tour each county of Britain and sit under 200yr+ trees
Oh had another amazing dream last night ended up driving backwards down the main st very fast and absolutely nothing i could do about it.A granny was in my car [not anyone i knew but may have symbolised one of the ladies that did tai chi the other morning
So a young policeman managed to climb in to the car and put his foot on the brake.Phew!He wasnt disrespectful to me even though i had been speeding backwards for several miles he just asked if i was ok and gave me the car keys.Dont know where granny went but i thanked the cop and then i woke up
Are you goin to buy a Bosch Happy?

Nice one Tea x

Is a Bosch a kind of drill Patience? Do you have one?

Like brownies thanks

Tea.......I heard a woman on the radio the other day.

Went on a blind date,

They met up, then he handed her a £20 note (for a cab) and said "sorry, you're not what I was expecting"

So bring a few fivers for us in case you feel the same !

Isn't that awfull though FFS

I came along at the end of your sexploits and it genuinely took me quite a while to realize that Puppy wasn't a small fluffy canine

Startin 'candles are looking good but its all about how they burn so waiting til the 48hr thing but that is 24hrs ....should i light one ?Did the whole smooth over with a hairdrier bit and everything Tin looks worth at least a fiver ,votive 2 quid

I dream about being able to afford a Bosch drill. Mine is a cheap one from B&Q and not very good. I quite like DIY my H was always rubbish at it, so I ended up learning the hard way. Happy I think you'll be better at drilling then you think There's always the internet for a google if you're not sure. Although maybe if you got a handyman in, you could admire the totty as he worked

Talking of dreams, I never seem to dream, if I had a vivid one like that Patience, I'd be tempted to go on a dream intepretation website to see what it meant. Was the old lady scared?

I'm off to bed I think for my usual dreamless sleep (famous last words).

X posted with lots of you. I'd be devastated if I was given a £20 and told to basically go home again that poor woman Pink.

I was very confused about Puppy for ages too

The candles sound amazing Patience.

Right I must go to bed, my head hurts and I keep yawning. Night ladies x

evening all -
sooo much to read since this morning !!!

tea - i know what you mean about mn being consuming sometimes. hope you keep popping in to say hello

going to try and catch up now.

at all.

ok couldnt wait ,have lit the candle and will see how it burns.Need to do lots of experimenting with the fragrances .
No dont have my own drill gosh i think i will buy a pink one when the divorce goes thru ,just sort of symbolic .What are you making anyway .away to google pink drills.

Evening ladies and thank you for the welcome :)

My mum has taken the DC for the weekend so have decided to sort my life out starting with the house, im going through the entire house and box/bagging up EP stuff and putting away MY memories, i cant look at them without feeling weak and i need to be strong for myself and my DC, friends have told me it's too soon and not to pack it all up because he'll realise in a few months and come crawling back but i need to do this.

I had complete meltdown yesterday, EP had said he would come visit at 10 am pronto and we had something set up so we wouldnt see or speak to each other and he failed to turn up, i called him 3 hours later and it turned out he'd been up till 4am drinking and didnt wake up so we ended up arguing and he got nasty and i just cracked and because he hadnt come DS2 started playing up and i couldnt deal with my emotions and them, it was truly my lowest point :(
I ended up ringing him and telling him he had to come and watch them as i was scaring them and when he arrived he made me a tea and tried to be sympathetic but when he went to hug me (because he said i needed it) and i pulled away, he got angry (cos he was just being friendly) and then started shouting at me again, which i just couldnt handle, so i knew the DC were safe so i bolted to my friends, 5 hours, countless texts and calls telling me id had long enough (after 1 1/2hrs) i came home feeling sooo much better, i had managed to pull myself together and felt better than i have in weeks and still do :)

I called him tonight, told him the DC are with my mum and that i wanted the arguing and blaming to stop and we needed to talk and draw a line under everything and just concerntrate on the DC, so he has agreed to pop round tomorrow....i am hoping we wont argue and that we can come up with a plan regarding DC, someone (sorry cant remember who) said they had ground rules in place and im hoping for some ideas if anyone has any :-)

Starting- thank you for your post and i too am of the same conclusions as you regarding EP i totally agree and know we wont be getting back together but it really doesnt hurt any less knowing that:( i only wish it did but for the moment im taking control of the things i can starting with my house :)

sorry it's such a long post

Patience, my friend has just started making scented candles to sell too. She buys vintage tea cups from charity shops and makes the candles in them. They're lovely. In a shop near me they sell them for £25 each

That's my first shock.

I hail from posh parts

OMG I've just had the best laugh ever when I read Pink's post & then Tea's. I hope to god you didn't think I was some nutter taking advantage of a poor 4 legged puppy pmsl............

I christened puppy as such as he was a dear old friend that I've known for about 12yrs & is extremely trustworthy, loyal & safe. It was a moment in time & helped me to heal.

Tea, my xh had to be the life & soul of every party. It was to cover up his deep insecurity. I like you would be more the boring sensible one but in fact never consider myself as being like that. I am comfortable enough in my own skin & don't need to put on a performance to impress anybody. Furthermore I think your dc's are v lucky to have one stable sensible parent so never know those qualities or label them as boring. Lastly, oh you have to come to meet up........

Patience, well done on the candles. You must be itching to burn one . I thought you only had to leave them harden for 4hrs?? I am fascinated by your dream & will have to pull out my stuff on Freud & dreams & report back......... Me thinks however it could be that you've stopped yourself from falling backwards i.e. xh??

Happy, I think you'd be fantastic with a drill in hand . Go dumpling, go...... I don't actually possess a drill but I have borrowed one from time to time

bloody hell £25 ?????

off to read sov's thread.

DIY now there's a scary thought that hadn't occured to me

Pink - I saw the tea cup idea on the MN candle thread

Hi Sov, welcome, feel free to rant, you will get through it. It's pretty normal to have to horrible incidents in the early days. Soon you will become a serene dumpling, remember the dumpling mantra ..... chin up tits out

Um, can't really explain on here what needed to be drilled. Suffice to say, I borrowed a family member with drilling experience and job was done. Didn't look too difficult, might buy a pink one like Patience.

Yes Sov, DIY. I've started with the bins - it took a few weeks and now they are regularly emptied. Still staring at the lawnmower though.

Tea, that should have read don't ever knock those qualities.

Patience, have fingers x'd that your candle is serenely burning & wafting blissful scents.

Soverign, unfortunately the hurt is unavoidable & there's no way to bypass it except to give yourself time. Sounds like a good idea to pack xp's stuff up & to put boundaries in place re access. Don't rush yourself though, it all takes time.

Oh nice one pink can you find out about the fragrance oils any top tips useful.
Tea no the dream granny wasnt scared thats why i think it was someone that does tai chi,she was just sat there.
Sov boundaries i have are things like he cant shout at me in my own home ,if he starts i ask him to leave.ATM he isnt allowed in my home ,but when things were more amicable ,that was a boundary.It sounds to me like you need to get support with kids that doesnt involve your P at this stage.If you have space from him IME you can regain some calmness in your house and this will have a calming affect on your dcs.Its just getting a bit of a plan together.Breaking the habit of what life was like with ur P in the house,Great you have RL friend ,can she come and sit with you when ur a bit stressed.Also can you get kids outside to run off a bit of energy,also good to get out in the fresh air for a walk yourself when ur head is spinning.Just remember when you are good the kids r good so you are top of the list Sov ,important you get some nourishment cause you have been running on empty x

Pink drill is really shit!Just piss poor version designed by some patronising bastard,LOL!

Just think it doesnt want to be too heavy Happy but lots of power !!!!!!

Ha, I am a veteran in those depts. I don't think xh even knew what days bins were collected so no biggie there. Gardener unfortunately had to be sacked due to xh declaring "I am no longer going to keep you in the lifestyle to which you've become accustomed" Fuckwit!! However, I am now the proud owner of a lawnmower & cut my own grass . Btw I may have had a gardener but I can assure you the lifestyle to which I had become accustomed was bloody HELL.

Pink drill is cheap though,
candle doin ok,so think i chose the right wick .
Other thing in dream was i was driving forwards but car turned around itself ,then started driving backwards but i didnt crash into anything .

Ok Patience, here goes my amature psychology :

Climbing Stairs/ladders, driving cars, riding horses, crossing bridges = Sexual intercourse or desire for same

Falling etc = Desire for protection/satisfaction

I wonder does the fact you didn't crash into anything mean you were not successful in your quest for sex.......pmsl

amateur even

happy, bins i do myself always have but as for drills and stuff that was his department and the garden [shocked] wont be tackiling that for a while am DEFINATELY not ready for that lol

Patience my EP refuses to take the DC out atm he says he cant handle all 4 at once but the not shouting sounds REALLY good, i was also thinking NOT discussing our relationship, talk should be kept to DC, mutual friends, general chit chat that sort of thing
My RL friend is a tad unreliable but she knew how desperate i was yesterday and i have people that will talk on the phone but ultimately im on my own (this is the first time my mum has had DC in 2yrs) nobody feels able to help with caregiving for the DC as they are a handful
I havent been venturing out much with DC but am gonna start when they come home and tonight i have my appetite back and ordered my self a pizza :) am definatley going to start taking care of me...i seem to have forgotten who i am