ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 6

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Cant survive 5 minutes without this thread

Forgot to say you rock Getting - coasteering is scary.

Oh, Happy. What has he done/not done? How old are your dc's? Mine are aged 9 - 23 so if it's horrible teenage stuff they're going through then I can absolutely guarantee you I've been there. Mine have been there and done it all but they're fine now and really appreciate everything I did for them.

Good God! Reading my post with "children aged 9 - 23" makes me sound like Old Mother Hubbard.

Just off to google coasteering.

Ah, so coasteering has absolutely nothing to do with designing and making coasters, has it?

Hi LC I'm afraid I can't talk about it here but its just all bl awful and I feel sick!

LC when I've got c**burys in the house I make choc chip cookies or melt it for DC to dip strawbs etc in.

Oh Happy.......I'm so sorry it's so hard. I hope you've got a good solicitor who will try and get BE to give you the house and piss off empty handed. That's the very least he can do. He's left you in such a difficult place and seems to be totally useless.

Does he talk to you about what help he might offer you practically ?

I really feel for you. You've got it so hard.

cow is having a bit of a coughing fit outside,bit of grass stuck .
Happy i had a bit of a weep last nite big hugs ,just sort of overwhelming this opt out H bollocks innit.Its not so much the pain or what they have done its more the stuff they havent done if that makes sense.
A friend of H texted me out of the blue tonite to ask how were things goin.Obviously this is to test the waters for H.I called back but no answer "quelle surprise"Nearly texted "Tell the bastard he s getting a divorce "But the keys on my mobile get stuck and i couldnt be arsed!Ooooh cow stampede LOL they were all up at my fence just outside the window but have all bolted away,only youngsters but still a bit twitchy.Think i will take wee dog a walk tomorrow and go and sit at my tree everyone welcome CAT me if you can make it

OMG Getting.......that looks so wonderful but so tyering,.....how do you spell that ?????GGRRR.

I'd love to do that one day.

Oh Patience, wish I could be there

Pink, XH does not help at all. After a number of times where XH was extremely unhelpful re DS1 and in denial of the issue I don't discuss it any more with him. Better for me as XH has been angry and nasty to me about it and it's nice not to have to have that any more but sad that I can't share the DS stuff with him any more - kids badly need 2 parents working together rather than one off shagging.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=3dbkUpRRLHk&feature=relatedold TAXI episode love the theme tune 1978 part one but you just click on 2 and 3

Getting did you run/swim/jump around the Cornish coast with the tide in ,thats awesome babe ,thats an all over workout ,was the coach a bloke ?

Oh Patience....I love that that cow having a coughing fit thing........soooo random...as my DC would say. I wish I was there too.

Makes me think of Father Ted, shall we have a spontanious trip up to Patience for a spot of country living ? Say yes, say yes !!!

Happy....I don't know what to say...you are the better person/parent by a million miles but I know you know that allready and it's a fat lot of use anyway.

I strongly believe in Karma, have done for years. What comes around goes around.

I don't think your H is happy, I think he's screwed up and misserable and directionless

and probably erectionless too, I bet they rarely shag. I don't think he's comfy in his own skin and eventually he'll be eaten up with guilt and no OW will want him.

you're an attractive confident woman and fantastic mother and XH is so inferior to you in every way.

Preparing myself for utter lies and nonsense tomorrow,emotional blackmail etc,as if this wasnt tough enough for his family without him messing it all up again.I cant really go far cause he might bring kids back at anytime after lunch.But i had a calmer day today ,not had a fag for about 2 days .People coming to view the house at same time as H picks up kids so I think thats a good thing.

Now Patience, put all thoughts of H out of your head. It's bedtime and he shouldn't occupy this space. I know you don't need beauty sleep as you are already beautiful but he will give you a nightmare if you don't rid your mind of him NOW!

LC

Thanks LC just think he will be back at the guilty /victim part of his cycle tomorrow ,will go and tell my tree all about it !!!!

mmm... what do we all think armbow is doing now?
a)tucked up in bed
b)tucked up in someone else's bed
C)rolling around in the back of a taxi
I think we should judge the honesty of her answer by the time she posts the reply. If it's after midday I'm going for b) .

hello

option a !!!!!

had a nice time, but somewhat ruined by the fact that i was told that h was out in town too tonight we live in a very small place and i was unable to relax for fear of bumping into him, ffs.

and bloody hell i cannot go back to the dating scene it was horrific - women with hardly any clothes on trying to get off with sleazy men - we sat in a corner most the night horrified (feels old saying this but it was never like that when i was younger) the dating scene now scares the pants off me.

but from what i hear h is out quite alot now living the high life.... twunt. surely the appeal of such shallow pleasures will not sustain him for long????? how can he be so short-sighted, again i fall back to age old mantra of actions not words.

happy - sounds like you need a big hug (())
best of luck for tomorrow patience

waves at party,lc,mumfun and all dumplings.

beebs where are you - i really need help with my wardrobe quick sharp because i also realised tonight how out of touch i am there too.

Well done last night AB. One step at a time and all that. Will you see him again?

Good luck with XH visit Patience.

On top of all my DC worries I remembered vital food items not added to my internet shop so am awake amending order.

This too shall pass.

Waves to all xx

ideas and more ideas for Patience and the commune factory

armbow - glad you had a night out with the girls, and yes I found it all very scary and different the first time I went on a girly night after H left.

I was very silly and went home with a guy I barely knew, luckily I was totally pissed, fell asleep, he was a gentleman and nothing happened.

That was 6 months ago and I am now seeing a lovely man, we have fun together, he is very caring and looks after me. So different to H, with whom I always came bottom of the heap. It's nice to be appreciated and treated as if I am important for once.

Good luck to you and everyone else on eventually finding a good man, if you want one of course. x

morning - no hangover - RESULT

I did not meet anyone happy - far form it really my friends and i looked on as we watched something like a zombie movie as young people roamed around outside drunk, fighting and being sick.

i don't think i am ever going to meet someone by going out in town tbh - our town is very small and everyone knows everyone. i have to come up with a better plan.

party - i hope i find what you have one day it sounds lovely.

i am off to the style and beauty thread because i realised last night that i have turned mumsy.

Ah! Style and Beauty is a good place

Waves to Party

armbow - the dress code is certainly eye-popping.

I don't know your age but I'm 45, told I look younger, luckily all the stress I've been through led me to loose a lot of weight and as a result had to renew my wardrobe

A couple of new outfits made me feel great, H was happy to foot the bill as I am on a low income, the least he could do.

Great confidence boost, you don't have to dress like you are 18, there are fab clothes out there.

I agree out in town maybe not the place, unless you are looking for a quick s*.

armbow i am currently lying in my bed wondering whether to reheat a chinese take away that i got last night. or will i die of food poisoning.

what do you need girlfriend?

i am off this afternoon to a babyshower. i did not realise i am american but apparently we all are now. i have to pay £20 for afternoon tea in a posh hotel and give my friend a present for a baby that is not even born yet.