July Shed II

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Hello and welcome.

Basl how did the "boys" rnjoy the day out today btw

Awww hiya Maxy, wonder what James has so much to talk about eh? I was thinking the other day and forgot to say. Is he good at drawing? Does he get mad when he is not understood and wonder if he could draw what he is trying say. Sorry thats sounds stupid out loud i was just thinking if he is anything like his mum he will get all in tizzy if he can't put his point across. OMG that sounds even worse. I just want you to know maxy i think about James a lot and wish i could offer even a teeny wee bit of advice but i am lost. I seen a wee boy today at the fun fayre we were at and he looked just like james and i heard the parents talking to him really slow and full instructions as if he was really tiny but the boy was at least 3 i would say. The wee boy went on the flying Elephants by himself and just seemed so lovely and his parents were about in tears and i could not work out what the wee boy was saying when he got off at all but his parents were so lovely and he looked so happy. Mmmm i am talking the biggest load of pants tonight but i hope you kinda get what i am trying to say maxy xxxxx

All peacefull now and i still have my nephew. He lost a big tooth last night. He came down stairs while we were cleaning up after midnight at least. Holding the tooth and he looked so adorable. He is 12 but sooooo needs his mum you would not believe. We sat him down and i gave him some calpol as it was sore he said. I could tell he was feeling a bit sad tonight as he was listened to some really heart wreching songs on my pc while the party was still going strong. He told me that he hates his dad being drunk all the time but loves him so much. He also discussed with us how he get frightened when he gets too happy as bad things always happens as it was his birthday when his mum was rushed into hospital and He had his first holiday abroad when his mum died and so on. The wee boy soooo needs counciling and both him and his little brother need a far better up bringing. Even his dads new partner is a heavy drinker too so they see all sorts. My sister would be devistated to hear her boys living like this. I never slept a wink last night and could not stop crying. I love my nephews so much and really want to do the best for them but not interfere but it looks like i am going to have to.

Evening ladies. Have had a very constructive day today. Three rooms stripped and DS1 was weeding the garden . I even managed to go out for a meal with a close friend tonight . Now home drinking wine. What a glorious life I lead.

Maxy . I know how you feel, DS2 was so hard to understand when he wasn't speaking properly, he kept on repeating the same mumbo jumbo and got so frustrated when we didn't understand him. Hop he is in bed now for you.

Basl, your nephew sounds so adorable. Makes me feel that he misses his mam a lot. My friend who I was out with tonight is amrrying a lovely man whos last wife died of cancer when their kids were 7 and 2. The 7 year old is now 19 and she is doing great now. Both of them had to have councilling and it helped them a lot. Such a shame that your nephews dad is drinking a lot though, not much you can really do about that, but what you are doing for that boy is wonderful. Sorry if I'm not making sense, I can never put down in words what I would say in RL.

Sniff Sniff Sniff thankyou for saying that 5in. If his dad had just started drinking i could understand but he was off the rails before.

So glad things are looking up for you stripper lady and glad you had a good night out with your friend just the ticket eh all coming together for you again and quite bloody right!!! I think there should be a love emotion here as i often would like to say that without sound too mushy but yeah i do love my friends on here and always make me feel better xxxx

Aww Basl, you're just so sweet.

I've seen the effects alcohol can have on a family, it's not nice. My aunty is an alcoholic, her youngest daughter went to live with her dad, her son moved out of home at 16 and disowned his mam and her other daughter has suffered greatly because she is the only one who stayed at home. My aunt (who I no longer speak to she is dead to me) had a stroke a few weeks ago due to complications from some drink related thing, and is now living with my poor nana who can't handle it all. Maks me sooooo mad.

I mean, I like to have a bottle glass of wine, but I know where to stop. I just can't understand how people can let it control them, but then I've never been in their shoes.

My friend made me cry tonight as well. I don't see her very often, despite us living quite close. She said that apart from her mam and aunt, I'm the closest she has to family. When I dropped her off I had to pull over and have a little cry in the car. People walking past must have thought I was crazy. My new house is riht aroun the corner from where she has just moved to yesterday as well, so I am going to be able to make more of an effort to see her.

Fate i do believe. You will be able to visit your friend like you say and fancy her living just round the corner!!! Maybe get her to join mums net and we can all be her extended family.

Mmmm well i have to say that is one of the reasons i gave up drinking as it makes me too emotional and then get out of control. Everyone to their own but Ben was telling me all sorts last night about how they dread their dad getting drunk and they often are left in the house on their own while he nips back to a party etc and now his partner has a good drink with him and the kids hate it. The guy is a total Arse, so lazy, selfish, greedy, inconsiderat. He let his son go to school with his partners old trainers on as he said no point buying a new pair as nearly end of term and these are ladies trainers. FFS what is that all about. My sister adored her boys and they where always smart looking because she worked her little butt off for them while dh lay in bed all day. Arggggggggggggggggggg sorry i will shut up.

Tell your friend 5in to join us for our meet up . Oh and it does take you by surprise when someone tells you something nice eh.

Morning. Oh Basl that is so so sad he sounds adorable and no wonder they want to spend so much time at yours You must be like a rock to them, you sure seem it anyway, but I know that is hard too........ does he talk to you their Dad? Or is he too far gone for that?
But what a fantastic Aunt they have eh? And a wonderfully kind influence on them

James finally went to sleep thank goodness. He was in Tesco the other night looking at all the Toy Story 3 stuff and 3 children came over and he was tAlking away to them!! You should have seen their faces.!!! They said "why does he do that?" and then they kept following him and looking for him - his own little freak show I think it's because he looks so "normal" - I hate that word and whatever normal is anyway..gah, whittering, but sure one of you knows what I mean?!

5in sounds like you had a positive nice night - lovely!

I had emergency bra fitting yesterday I only usually go to Bravissimo but not been for......ahem a long time, due to them costing so much. But yesterday we were out and Matthew noticed my bra wire poking up through so into debenhams I go and anyway, I try about 15 on and I am getting hotter and hotter, and the sales assistant is like 19, petite very pretty and no chest whatsoever she was actually very nice and I felt soooooooooooo sorry for her having to help sort me out

When we come back off hols, that IS IT! I am on a weight losing mission..

Morning all my lovelies. We went to neighbours bbq yday afternoon/evening..got a bit tipsy. It was fab so relaxing and lovely boys were entertained non stop by her gorgeous neices and nephews.

Basl very tricky situation isn't it. I think all you can do without interfering is to offer as much support and listening ear as possible for your lovely nephew. Really pulls at my heartstrings tho as same age as my dear Tom. I do think you are going to have to step in and say something tho..what does dh think?

Morning everyone.

Carrie, I forgot to say well done on the weight loss! You've done great. I think I'm going to go to Slimming World when the house move is over. Either that or go back on the hard slog diet.

I've got a bad head today, could have done with staying in bed but we've so much to do. I'm heading off to the house in a bit to swep up all the wallpaper we stripped yesterday, and we are getting a new (2nd hand suite) delivered as well. Not entirely sure why we 're getting it before we have any flooring down, but it'll be somewhere to sit anyway between decorating.

oh maxy you have alot on atm, don't be too hard on yourself. Your holiday will be just what you need

Another busy day then 5in? did you still want that next dungaree set? only asking as im posting tomorrow and rather get it done in one lot during the hols iykwim!

5in i think you would like slimming world it is good if you stick to it but you following that hard core diet you should be able to stick to anything.

Maxy i really don't like when i hear about people looking a james like that but i bet he is not put out by it ?? It would break my heart too but i would be tempted to go telling them to shut it!!! Aaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrggggggggggggg whish i had something constructive to say to you about this without sounding patronizing big loves to you tho.

Nicola glad you had a good night. Just what the doctor ordered eh? A good day and night out to a bbq. You can't beat it

Well the story about my broth in law could go on and on but i think you get the picture. My dh thinks it is a disgrace and one time we stayed in travel in down south after a family birthday party and their dad stayed at the bar all night. My dh knocked on their door to see if they were ok and they were both crying. So the next morning we had a very good talk about it with him and he promised he would never do it again and he was just finding it hard blah de blah.
I have told Ben he can talk to me about anything and it won't go back as he is very defensive of his dad and it is a case of "I can slag him off" "don't you slag him off"

My mum is a huge support for them as is their other gran and my sister so they are not totally neglected just don't get much fun out of life unless we constantly step in. I would have paid thousands of pounds to see his face at the rides today. He was sooo happy and could not believe how much fun he was having. xx

oh basl thats given me a lump in my throat

Tate has started to stutter quite badly atm i keep thinking he will get picked on for it. But his friends have treated him just the same bless him.

well my tommy is getting into the swing of the holidays two girls calling round for him and off to kfc for lunch!! thats my boy

Go Tommy!!! sounds good. He is very handsome nicola the girls will be fighting over him such a cool wee dresser.

Oh Basl I know, as we have discussed, everything is relevant to each of us, but sorry for going on about James really. But it does make you feel really defnesive for him.. I think if he was shy and kept himself to himself it would be different, but he is so eager! Poor boys though it is natural for him to be so defensive, he is his Dad when all is said and done - beut crikey does that man need to sit up and smell the roses!

Can't wait for hols, yes! but have clothes everywhere, am dreading trying to get them all in one case eek! Am trying to be so good too and not take too much. James hardly ever has accidents atm but would be sods law wouldn't it?

Can you also all please send me some good vibes, becasue I am petrified of travelling long distances in the car, especially on the motorway. Am trying my best to not think about it and not mention it to DH AGAIN, but feel sick as a dog about it. If DH said get the train, I'll meet you there, I'd be over the moon Pathetic, I know, am trying to remain realistic about the whole thing!

Well close your eyes Maxy and imagine your destination. How happy you will be when you get there. Breath very slowly and really concentrate on the breathing (google a technique) Take some bach's rescue remedy. Really does work. I am going to get a phone this week and you can text me to distract you and i will send you some songs.

Oh play music in the car and have regular stops to keep calm.

Thank you, I will. What is bach's rescue remedy? i want some! I have never been like this in my life.......only since we had the accident, and i am only very bad in a car when we are altogether as a family unit! Oh I am so pleased you will be getting a phone! Hooray! I need to try and get an in car charger for mine........

sorry missed some posts then, ah Nic that sounds fabby about Tom- bless him. He will have all the girls after him! He is so so different from my nephew it is unreal! (they are the same age - actually nephew is slightly older)

I know what you mean about Tate is it a nervous thing?

I think stuttering can be when they have so much to say in their head but it can't come out quick enough. My Bens brother Adam stutters so badly because he gets very excited when trying to tell you something and can't come out quick enough.
Has Tate just started this nicola?

You get the bach's rescue stuff in boots maxy it is herbal and great for calming you down but i do suggest the breathing thingy.

Tates nursery teacher says its where it is taking on so much information atm. His vocabulary is fantastic and he's learning just too much for his little mind to process. She reminded me to stay calm, not mention it (what im doing anyway..despite terry's dad telling him off would you believe! if he's still doing it come xmas then maybe seek some advice.

Everyone at bbq said yesterday how luka is coming out of himself and becoming more chatty. He was really outgoing even tho lots of strangers. He's normally so introverted. Opposite to Tom and Tate.

Tom's gone off hair all done to perfection in his fred perry top and checked shorts with his vans on he does look v.cool even if i do say so myself!! They grow up so suddenly at this age and im trying to give him a bit of independence.

Maxy the bachs remedies are great they really do work. they sell them in boots i can pick you some up today if you'd like?

basl you took the words right out of my mouth!

i won that nipper liner on ebay but a bit about the postage..£5?

Ah!! Thanks Nic, but we go very early tuesday morning so wouldn't get here now. need to go out today so will look for some! very kind though - are they drops? (so ignorant)

Ah hopefully Tate will grown out of it eh? Can't believe FIL told him off!! poor sod.

Oh Tom souds very cool my sis needs to give my nephew some independence - he is like a 6 year old - no joke! God help him in september!!

yes drops in a little bottle you can drop straight onto your tongue or dilute in water.

oooh your nephew will have a shock, he's off to secondary i take it? does he go anywhere by self? i must admit toms only just started to in last few months. But he's good, he's got his phone and always in a group. we live right in town anyway its only 5min walk to park.

Waiting for boys to 'tidy up' then we off to do some chores and park.

at nipper liner £5.00 postage. I am sure that's mine nicola. I will need to show you my new liners. I will do it shortly.

Maxy yeah it's dropps. My first experience of that was when i was about 16/17 when i had to go to a boyfriends funeral and my mum got me this to keep me calm. I have used it a lot since that i may add at different times.

Oh and Paul Mackenna audio cd's for hypno therapy Heeee Heeee but that would be a bit rude suspect if you zoned out the whole journey with head phones on or maybe sheer bliss.

i normally fall asleep in car! its lovely rest!

well boys won't tidy up coming up with every excuse under the sun lol!

im going off nipper liner now, and i've only just read her feedback slow sending etc.

ooh look forward to pics basl.

yes he is Nic - this is the one that still likes to sleep in his mums bed Go anywhere by hislef - snigger. surprised she doesn't have him on reigns still! thing is, he is a real baby but also very sneeky - think he is going to be a terrible teenager. esp as she thinks he can do no wrong whatsoever! He makes me and my Mum feel a bit funny she is a bit munchausens with him

Ok, drops it is!! Basl - I think DH would be over the moon if I flaked out on the journey - just because i am so nervy! But I am wide awake I can tell you - that's another thing, i ALWAYS used to fall asleep on journeys - all the way, flat out! can't manage it now though