Has anyone asked to be notified in advance or keep child off school during sex ed days?

[dntbrnwsh]

My child is starting Reception at an independent school, although this is more of a question for the future than Reception itself.

I’d prefer to introduce and discuss topics such as sex education, gender identity and related issues at home first, so I’d like to know in advance when they’re going to be covered at school.

Has anyone asked their child’s school to let them know beforehand when these lessons are taking place, so they could choose to keep their child off school that day? If so, how did the school respond? Were they happy to give advance notice, and did it affect your relationship with the school at all?

I’m interested in hearing from parents who’ve actually done this, rather than debating whether it’s the right approach.

I haven't done this to be clear. The school provided a detailed list of everything that they would cover each year, set out how it would be neutrally approached in an age appropriate manner and I was happy.

They also provided the option to opt out if I wished which I believe is pretty standard.

It is a bigger risk in my honest opinion that children who are young for their year group are subjected to content and comments by their peers before they are ready and/or educated about it by their parents or teachers.

Our school sends out a letter outlining what will be covered by sex education in the year.

Why would you do that ? It's important for children tk have Relevant information at the same time as their peers. They literally are talking about relationships at that young age not instructions on fisting

@dntbrnwsh So I did this for my youngest (turned 22 yday!) so was a long time ago. She was very young for her age and every time sex ed was mentioned by the Primary School she always came home and told us she did not want to do it. I went to all the meetings with the school and a majority of parents did not want to have the conversation with their child and were quite happy for the school to teach their child. These parents even in the briefing meetings sniggered at some of the words used by the teacher. Reminded me of being back in Secondary School…..
Anyway so I was given the exact same sex ed pack the teachers would be using and I took it home and told my daughter that I had it and that we could go through it together even then she still didn’t want to know. Think putting hands on ears. So our compromise was that when she wanted to know she would come to me & especially if she hears anything from her friends. So her & a handful of other children who had opted out were doing fun stuff in a separate classroom. Did she feel left out afterwards no as her friends also didn’t want to do the sex ed but their parents said they had to as they didn’t want to have those conversations with them. My daughter was very grateful she didn’t have to and tried consoling her best friend who was sobbing because she didn’t want to go back into the session but the teacher said she had too. It wasn’t until she started Secondary School did she ask me questions & even then she chose to read the literature first. OP I would listen to your child and be guided by what they want. You know them better so do what is right for them. I was never going to subject my child to something she was never ready for & I never cared for anyone else’s opinions either. It’s my job to protect her and I did that by keeping her away from something she was not ready for. To this day she is appreciative that she never had to sit through that at school, she still remembers seeing her classmates at break and at lunch and how distressed they were but because there parents had opted for them to do sex ed at school they couldn’t get out of it even though they found it distressing. I really had an issue with that but I couldn’t do anything as it was not my child. I would have expected the teachers to have made the call about the children that did not want to be in that sex ed class but they just carried on saying your parents want you to learn about sex. So do what is right for your child, listen to them. The schools in my opinion are pushing this far too early, let the children just be children. As long as they know they can come to you with their questions it will be fine.