Daughter had her hair cut at school by another pupil.

[Nicola1983]

Hi there,

Just wanted to get everyones opinion please. On Friday just past i was called over to my daughter class teacher at the end of the school dya to say that another pupil had taken a pair of scissors and cut her hair. I was shocked to say the least but i was told it wasnt all that noticable and that the child in question had had their privillage time taken off them. At this point i may piont out the children in question are 4 and 5 years old.

On further inspection when i got home i could see the extent of the damage and i could have cried. Its awful. My daughter has long hair and right at the back near the crown she now has a clump of hair that is no more that than 1 inch in length. Both she and i are devestated that another child could behave this way to another pupil.

My husband marched up to the school to speek to the headmaster about it and both the class teacher and he headmaster said they would put it in writing to us as to how they are going to deal with this but to be honest im still not happy.

Having spoken to my daughter and other children in the class they were all sitting on the carpet listening to another teacher and the little boy in question ot up, went and got a pair of scissors and just cut off a chunk of my little girls hair - fully intentionally. When i asked what happend to the boy my daughter and her friends told me the teacher told him that that wasnt a very kind thing to do and he was removed from the class to sit int hte quiet room until he could learn how to behave.

My other concearn is that only i was informed about the incident. The parent of the little boy in question were not told about this at all and were allowed to go home and carry on as normal. I have written a letter to his parents telling them what i think about it all and that i will be seeking further action. Had this been an older child within the school, without any question they would have been suspended.

I am now debating weather or not to send my child back to school now. I mean what next - he takes another pair of scissors and stabs her in the eye with them??????

Anyway - any advie or guidlines etc would be much appreciated.

Thanks in advance.

Nicola

colabottles, you are taking the mick, right?
My friend's son had to be taken to hospital to have a head wound stitched in his first week of his small well supervised private school class on account of a proper attack by two other boys.

SiriusStar...

I think the teacher would be very upset, BUT would be expected to deal with it the same way. PLUS charge the school for the hair cut... cos it would require more work to tidy it up! It wouldn't involve the parents (just as when my glasses were broken by a child at work, by work paid for the repairs). It will still grow back (unless it's a wig). Distressing yes, but end of the world? Not really.

I hate it when people talk about very young children behind their backs in the avoid them, aren't they awful sense... someone did that to my DS and he wasn't even doing anything!! And so now whenever he starts being a bit lively I keep him by my side so no-one questions it (even if others are rougher)... The parent's story-telling has worked, he is avoided by certain children....

IF they were all sat down at story time how did the teacher not notice this little boy get up from the carpet and get some scissors. That's what I would be wanting to know.

"Charge the school for the haircut" Rofl! Good luck with that!

Nicola...what this little boy has done to your DD on the way home is quite horrid. If a child did that to my DD I would be having words with the mother there and then.

Posters can only go on the info you provided in the OP.

Do you have other concerns about the teachers attentiveness and your DDs safety in school?

It sounds as if this boy may not be as mature as other four year olds, and unable to sit still during story time. In such cases the teacher may let the boy walk around the class room, as long as he's not disturbing the others, rather than trying to force him to sit still, disrupting story time for everyone. I don't know; I wasn't there, have never met the children or teacher. Just guessing.

nappyaddict he could have been coming back from the toilet, from a message to the office, the teacher could have asked him to get something. There's a hundred reasons why he wasn't sitting on the carpet.

Nicola, You should have given those details in your OP. What you described in your op was something very commmon and far away from the bullying you describe in your longer post.

I think yopu should tell him something when you witness him being violent to your DD on the way to/back from school. If his mum does not say anything to him, you doing it for her should certainly wake her up. The other thing is, if you do not tell him off and his mother does not tell him off, he has absolutely no reason to stop/way to realise what he is doing is wrong.

It's still not making sense. If a boy swung a bag in my dd's face and the mother did nothing I would've had to have said something to him. For it to happen again and again - I don't understand. As soon as he stood in the way a second time I would be protecting my dd and having a conversation with the mother. If he does it as often as you are suggesting then it's because he's allowed to! Both you and his mother are letting him!

I am a bit that you just stand there and let tghios child yank your DDs hair and hit her in the face with his bag day after day
Why don't you just for example hold her hand as you walk past him ?

Agree, I would walk on by if someone did this to my child (as in keep my child moving). I might look at the mother on the way... I'd be wary tho, some people are confrontational and I'd not want to put out the wrong person.

When I said ask the school to pay for the haircut, I was implying the teacher (in a pony tail incident), might be able to claim on the school's/their work insurance... but not likely to happen... fortunately my glasses were repaired.

That makes slightly more sense - but no, not very likely to happen.

no jasper just passively saying to op if she is clearly this upset with these types of incidents that do happen from time to time then being in smaller and hopefully (not in your dc case though...I didnt mean kids are better behaved by the way) better supervised school environment!