Daughter had her hair cut at school by another pupil.

[Nicola1983]

Hi there,

Just wanted to get everyones opinion please. On Friday just past i was called over to my daughter class teacher at the end of the school dya to say that another pupil had taken a pair of scissors and cut her hair. I was shocked to say the least but i was told it wasnt all that noticable and that the child in question had had their privillage time taken off them. At this point i may piont out the children in question are 4 and 5 years old.

On further inspection when i got home i could see the extent of the damage and i could have cried. Its awful. My daughter has long hair and right at the back near the crown she now has a clump of hair that is no more that than 1 inch in length. Both she and i are devestated that another child could behave this way to another pupil.

My husband marched up to the school to speek to the headmaster about it and both the class teacher and he headmaster said they would put it in writing to us as to how they are going to deal with this but to be honest im still not happy.

Having spoken to my daughter and other children in the class they were all sitting on the carpet listening to another teacher and the little boy in question ot up, went and got a pair of scissors and just cut off a chunk of my little girls hair - fully intentionally. When i asked what happend to the boy my daughter and her friends told me the teacher told him that that wasnt a very kind thing to do and he was removed from the class to sit int hte quiet room until he could learn how to behave.

My other concearn is that only i was informed about the incident. The parent of the little boy in question were not told about this at all and were allowed to go home and carry on as normal. I have written a letter to his parents telling them what i think about it all and that i will be seeking further action. Had this been an older child within the school, without any question they would have been suspended.

I am now debating weather or not to send my child back to school now. I mean what next - he takes another pair of scissors and stabs her in the eye with them??????

Anyway - any advie or guidlines etc would be much appreciated.

Thanks in advance.

Nicola

one of the first "tips of the day" I read on here read: "those paper scissors are no good for cutting paper, but they do cut hair. You have been warned."

I don't understand. The scissors at school are very very blunt and the OP's DD would have had to stay very still to create that much damage. I just can't believe the element of surprise was a factor here or that a boy was able to cut that much off unless it was some sort of game.

Am not sure what the OP wants the school to do? Nor the boy's parents?

Maybe OP could cut the boy's hair. That might make her feel better.

I think she is more after giving him a public flogging.

I don't think op is being unreasonable at all. I would be devastated if that happened to my dc. Would it be any different if clothes were cut instead, or school bags.

Like I said earlier, hair is about the only thing those scissors will cut.

Gosh, yes, OP. The boy should be taken out at lunchtime and stoned or put in the stocks and pelted with rotten tomatoes every day for a week.

"I mean what next - he takes another pair of scissors and stabs her in the eye with them??????"

FFS get a grip!

Yes alouiseg because they don't grow back.

George cut my hair in reception - I handed him the scissors, and told him where I wanted cut. Of course when my mum told me off, it was all George's fault.

I did come clean to my Mum years later.

"Would it be any different if clothes were cut instead, or school bags."

Well, clothes tend not to grow back

The point is that it doesn't matter how upset you are OP, as long as your little girl isn't. That is all that matters.

Are you being unreasonable to be upset? No, not at all.

Are you/your DH being unreasonable to storm into the headteacher and write to the other child's parents? Yes.

I cut my mum's cleaning lady's daughter's hair. She asked me to. She wanted a fringe. So I gave her one. With the pinking shears.

Mum never forgave me losing her a cleaning lady.

If long hair is cut in short chunks it won't grow back nicely either.

I just knew i was going to get flamed for defending the op.

It's as if standards on here are so low that all sorts of rotten behaviour is acceptable. Another example of things being done to children that we have to accept yet there would be an outcry if it were against an adult.

Some little girls value their hair as much as another child would value a posession. Poor little girl and poor old mum.

And btw i'm not calling for a harsh punishment for the offender but a serious word the little gits parents are in order.

"the little gits "

But the little girl wouldn't have even known it was that bad if mum hadn't pointed it out.

at calling the child who did it a little git. That's far worse coming from an adult than a 4 year old cutting someones hair. Appalling..

this is a 4 or 5 year old child

a CHILD

No it is not acceptable behaviour. But there is punishment and then there's punishment. The boy was removed, made to sit about his actions, therefore he was taught wrong behaviour hopefully not to be repeated.

But the op appears to want more, although they haven't been back to clarify how exactly.

• and think (between sit and about)

Gosh lots of overreacting here!

Firstly, 'little git' really isn't so unbelievably offensive, if the child in question isn't here to read/hear it..

To the OP, it is a shame. But they are just kids. Personally I'm against small children having such easy and un-(closely)- supervised acces to scissors.
I am feeling your daughter's pain however as I set my (long) hair on fire earlier making cottage pie..

Behavioural Therapist??

I rather think thats the parents job.

I'm not offended by the 4 year old being called this . I was shocked that someone a) could possibly believe his behaviour meant he was a little git and b) that the person who said it was spouting on about morals and standards.

It's not a weekend until i get trolled off by mumsnetters.