4 year old starting reception…sending 4 days before CSA

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my 4 yo starts school in september, cant quite believe it and i havent taken to it ‘well’ and ive been extremely sad which is something i never expexted. I have always ‘gone against the grain’ and never been that traditional, i would of liked to home school but my 4 yo is asking/ wants to go to school and is excited ti go.. so ive had to push my feelings aside and she has a place in september.
after weeks and months of thinking, feeling sad, thinking how things will work i still cant shift my feelings of sadness and dislike of the school system at such a young age..
i am set on sending her 4 days not 5 untill she reaches the compulsory school age of 5 - the term after they turn 5 so works on january for us. I dont feel missing a day a week wil have an effect at this early reception stage and i feel it will create a fair balance of home, school, family and outside school learning , yet obviously when you tell people your plans your met with opinions on both ends. Just looking to see anyone else has done part time before CSA and if it was due to having similar reasons to mine.

I got my post deleted for saying there's a difference between your and you're ... so be careful!!

Like I said im glad i have better time than using all my brain on mumsnet
Does this sentence even make any sense?

Very worrying from someone contemplating home schooling their child.

This is such a strange thread.

@user1485276096 I get it. I do.

So do many other countries, although many also don't.

I see people "home school" here with zero education and zero plans.

I would assume that's why we now have flexi school but could be wrong.

I have spoken to many parents here, and work in education and I think the anger at the "system" shines through. A mum said to me she would like a flexi flexi system. "We are off to x event at the museum next week, that's our home day".

You do what is best for you and your family.

There is a great deal of force here about the Friday being compulsory unless on flexi. However, in a school with NO after school care and no breakfast club and NO alternative I have to agree there is zero point in 2.5 hours with travel.

I’ve delayed my child’s start (SEN reasons) so I’m not against doing things differently, but I agree with others that your child is likely to miss out on a lot.

Yep. Mine was deleted for pointing out the literacy issues and saying they’re something to consider for homeschooling. I really don’t agree with the decision. My post was not remotely rude or unkind.

Thankyou, i think the angry comments come from a place of old school mentality and maybe they dont like their own kids? I dont know haha, but its not a crime to want to spend time with the child you decided to have..

If you had any credibility at all, op, you’ve just lost it with “maybe they don’t like their own kids, ha ha”.
Honestly, your posts are downright embarrassing.

the trolls will always.. troll

you’re the one trying to argue with someone on a mumsnet post at 11pm.
honestly, embarrassing.

I don't think I have ever read a thread with such a vile / argumentative op

Considering i have hardly replied to the comments I’m amazed myself.. magic.

If this worries you.. I’m worried

OP, don't you think your child will prick up on your negativity? They will develop an aversion to school that you will have encouraged? It will disrupt their reception year and happiness at a time when she is making friends and establishing her relationship with school and the teachers. She will miss things, and her friends will tell her. As she gets older this attitude that she can always have a day off will be at the back of her mind, so when she wants a day off when she's 8 or 9 will you allow it, just because she feels like it?

I have had a further post deleted at 19.03. for breaking Talk Guidelines.
I have a huge objection to this @mnhq (Not that they will listen in a million years!!)
I was very careful about my wording in that post. I said absolutely nothing objectionable about the OP or anything they have said. I simple said, and I stand by it, that if anyone learns to correctly use punctuation and grammar they don't go out of their way to NOT use it in MN.
Poof goes this one too, I guess 💨🙄

OP, you're getting a pretty hard time on here.

I think that is largely because your initial post was very focused on your feelings and desires with little mention of how this would benefit your daughter.

Speak to the school, they may be open to this and may have had other families do the same. For all your going against the norm, you will not be the only person to raise this.

Given it's only a term, you're only talking about a few days really.

You've been quite reactive with some snide comments about wanting to spend time with your child rather than being someone who can't wait til the end of the holidays. If this is your eldest DC then you may want to hold off making pointed comments about your superior parenting until you have walked a mile in someone else's shoes.

It sounds as though you are in a fortunate position having flexible employment, not everyone is.

It's easy to make spelling and grammar errors in a post and I'm sure even teachers do that from time to time, but they are trained educators with experience of teaching and it is a skilled profession. Children learn in all sorts of environments, but don't let your needs and desires and any lack of insight into potential educational gaps you may have lead to your DC missing out on a rounded education.

You seem to be quite defensive about your decision. Many posters have expressed the opinion that it isn’t a good idea and one or two have supported your decision.

I don’t think you have had suggestions from people who have done or are doing what you’re planning, so the best thing is to develop good relationships with the school, work with them to find the best fit for a day off, or a couple of afternoons off and be confident that you’re doing the right thing for your child.

If she decides that she wants to be attending full time, like her classmates, I hope that you will acknowledge that and allow it to happen.

Do what's best for your child, not you - and that may be attending five days a week. Do you want her ruled out of having a speaking part in the nativity play because she won't be there for all the rehearsals? Stuck with the same reading book because the teacher forgot that hers would need to be changed on Thursday? Not there to get her "star of the week" certificate in assembly? Feeling left out because everyone else learned a new song when they weren't there, or everyone else has a picture on the display.
DD's school was very flexible with afternoons - if children were tired, we could pick them up at lunchtime. Check with the school how things would work if she missed a day a week, and consider the possibility of a couple of afternoons instead, if they say that would work better.

School is only a few hours a day - you have plenty of time to spend with her around that.