4 year old starting reception…sending 4 days before CSA

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my 4 yo starts school in september, cant quite believe it and i havent taken to it ‘well’ and ive been extremely sad which is something i never expexted. I have always ‘gone against the grain’ and never been that traditional, i would of liked to home school but my 4 yo is asking/ wants to go to school and is excited ti go.. so ive had to push my feelings aside and she has a place in september.
after weeks and months of thinking, feeling sad, thinking how things will work i still cant shift my feelings of sadness and dislike of the school system at such a young age..
i am set on sending her 4 days not 5 untill she reaches the compulsory school age of 5 - the term after they turn 5 so works on january for us. I dont feel missing a day a week wil have an effect at this early reception stage and i feel it will create a fair balance of home, school, family and outside school learning , yet obviously when you tell people your plans your met with opinions on both ends. Just looking to see anyone else has done part time before CSA and if it was due to having similar reasons to mine.

Complete and utter nonsense. Not widespread in scotland and many councils do not finish at lunchtime on a friday.

A degree doesn't mean you'll be good at homeschooling. You might be and if that's what you choose more power to you

my thoughts. One day wont make a diffrence.

Only "this" because it's what you wanted to hear.
Don't create a post on a forum asking for people's experiences when you will only pick out the ones you agree with.

That's easy for you to say, but it might make a difference to your daughter.

What if that one day is P.E day, or the day they get to use the big playground, the day they have a special visitor, or a class party?

I was going to say this too, never came across this.

if you’ve signed your child up for school then follow the rules and don’t single your child out as different from the beginning.

Of course i want posts i agree with, how ridiculous

@user1485276096 nurseries have to follow EYFS guidance, just like reception do

It might be in your mind as "it's just one day" but she WILL miss out. Not necessarily on anything academic (phonics and maths) but things that carry over from one day to another.
Like making crowns out of cardboard and paint - day one cut them out and paint them, but decorating them has to wait until tomorrow because the paint has to dry. This means your child's crown doesn't get finished.
Learning a song to sing at assembly. She learns it. She enjoys it......but she misses out on it being performed.
Autumn term can have various celebrations (depending on school) - Harvest Festival, Halloween, Christmas - she may miss many of the preparations and celebrations.
It would be a shame for her.

You’re putting your feelings above your child. Why is that? I think it’s important you don’t home school.

I did this with one of my children, Ds2. He has ehlers danlos syndrome type 3 and he struggled with tiredness. We talked about it with the school and discussed what times he would be in. He started off going in 2 mornings a week and we very gradually increased his hours until he was going full time after Easter. There were 2 other children who were at school part time as well. We talked to the school about any activities that he might miss out on well in advance. There were a couple of things he stayed for/came in for but it was a nightmare and he just kept crying because he was tired so we just stuck with his set days in the end. When he was full time in school it was still flexible and the teacher would often call us and ask if we could pick him up because he'd fallen asleep. Ds2 is now 16 and he is getting his GCSE results next week. He has never struggled academically or with friendships. He has autism but he has the most social ability of my 3 autistic children. He has a group of friends that he hangs around with and 2 of them have my phone number and will ring me if he has a meltdown when he is out with them.

It really worked for DS2 but it was something we had talked about at length with the school from about a year in advance, not 2 weeks before. Also we didn't do it with any of our other dc because they didn't need it. We talked about doing it with DS4 as he has global development delay but we weren't sure so the school suggested we start him off with a week of mornings like the rest of the class and keep an eye on him. He absolutely thrived so he went full time when the rest of the class did. He is now about to start mainstream secondary school with all his friends and he is so excited.

Like I said im glad i have better time than using all my brain on mumsnet

It’s not about your application of your brain on a forum, it’s about actually understanding how to teach a child to correctly use language. I don’t ‘relax’ my brain by incorrectly using language, so I’m not quite sure your argument stands up.

As I said, if you want to teach a child at home, then you should make sure you can correctly teach them basic written language. Something to consider.

Also, this doesn’t really make sense. I’m not actually being a twat or saying I don’t agree with your desire to keep your child home (as long as it’s not for selfish reasons), I’m just concerned that your child could potentially be limited in their ‘education’ by something like this.

1 day a week is 20%

This is a significant amount of anything to miss on a regular basis.

I care for a child who never goes to nursery on Friday she always gets upset on Thursday because she's missing pe and library day

I never point out grammatical errors usually, because it’s not relevant to the thread. But on this occasion OP is slating the school system, wanting to impose her “against the grain” philosophy on her child (who is keen to go to school), and saying that she would have preferred to home educate. In this context I think it is relevant to highlight areas in which OP’s ability to home educate may be affected.

I don’t need all my brain power to know it’s “should have”, not “should of”.

So many judgemental people on here, I've just scrolled to be able to comment.
A child does not have to attend school until they reach CSA at 5. We are the only country that inflict school on such young children! I have deferred my son to start reception in 2025 when he could have started this Sept...why? Because I want my child to thrive at school not just survive! They are only little once, we will never get this time back! You do you OP, I doubt very much you will regret it .

That’s totally different to starting him and not letting him actually attend every day with his peers.

She hasn't asked for opinions? Just experiences

@Nousernamesavaliable that's not really true. Almost all countries have a variation of "kindergarten" from the age of 3.

Actually, very, very few posters are saying they think home school or flexischool or delayed starts are a bad thing. If it's in the child's best interest it is absolutely worth it!

But if it's not being done for the child, but for the parent because they feel a bid "sad" the child is growing up, it is selfish and bad parenting. The OP needs to put her child's needs first, not hers.