4 year old starting reception…sending 4 days before CSA

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my 4 yo starts school in september, cant quite believe it and i havent taken to it ‘well’ and ive been extremely sad which is something i never expexted. I have always ‘gone against the grain’ and never been that traditional, i would of liked to home school but my 4 yo is asking/ wants to go to school and is excited ti go.. so ive had to push my feelings aside and she has a place in september.
after weeks and months of thinking, feeling sad, thinking how things will work i still cant shift my feelings of sadness and dislike of the school system at such a young age..
i am set on sending her 4 days not 5 untill she reaches the compulsory school age of 5 - the term after they turn 5 so works on january for us. I dont feel missing a day a week wil have an effect at this early reception stage and i feel it will create a fair balance of home, school, family and outside school learning , yet obviously when you tell people your plans your met with opinions on both ends. Just looking to see anyone else has done part time before CSA and if it was due to having similar reasons to mine.

You're taking a place from someone who will go 5 days.

If you think she's not ready the defer the start. But your child wants to go and you're saying she's fed up of nursery. She might love school. I'd start her off full time and discuss during the settling in if the school think delaying is worthwhile

This statement literally proves you're not doing it because it's best for your child but because it makes you look like you care about her more than all the parents sending their children 5 days a week.

The fact you think she won't notice the others are all there 5 days is also bloody ridiculous. She's 4 nearly 5 not 2, you're completely underestimating how switched on kids can be.

Oh come on, OP! You don't want 'calm and fair' you want people to agree with you!

The more you speak, the more about you it becomes.

Taking a place.. hahaha in that way then no one better ever go on holiday or be off sick or having any long term illness issues

Also, and I don't mean this glibly at all, consider counselling to explore your feelings of sadness. It's usual to feel a bit sad but not to the extent it effects your child.

Stop being so selfish and do what's best for your child, not what you want to do for yourself.

Reception is play based and my young summer born absolutely loved it. Denying the 5th day will not help DC at all they will miss out on key activities and it may well negatively affect friendship opportunities.

Being sick and long term health issues aren't optional

Actually no.. she was just fair.

its acting like im sending her to aliens.yet im keeping her not at school for one day for 4 months!.. big deal

As an aside - I'm also a teacher, although I've stepped out of the profession now.

Secondary, though and let me tell you, kids with airy-fairy parents are a generally a nightmare to teach, particularly in the exam years.

If your child turns out to be bright, I really do hope you leave her in school because it sounds like you're desperate for an excuse to keep her home.

Arguably also just not necessary or particularly effective for DD as it's for such a short time, but it's what YOU want.

Maybe ask yourself why your so triggered a child would go one less day to a strange and an institution than be with their own parents.
maybe this says more about the triggered comments than me

The other thing here is it will damage your relationship with the school.

And you will eventually take your child out of school permanently because of it. Saying it's the schools fault.

All because you can't cope with letting your child develop the independence they clearly want.

I await the thread in a few months time.

You can see it a mile off.

They start back in a few weeks and you haven't even bothered talking to school about this yet, think that says it all really

I have always ‘gone against the grain’

You can do what you want, make sure it's what you think is best for your child not you. I just don't want you to feel now you're set on ut that you can't change your mind just because it is "with the grain"

Maybe ask yourself why some people are grossed out by parents who put their own needs first?

Get a job in the day, it will take your mind off of it

Flip it.. sending a child alone to a place 5 days a week.. good parenting.
wanting to spend ONE day with your child.. bad parenting. The ‘system’ makes people believing shipping a child off everyday is the ‘norm’ doesnt mean it is

Why do you keep calling it an institution, this attitude is probably not helping your thought process?

I am surprised you sent your child to nursery if you are so against these ‘institutions’

I do have a job lol

@user1485276096 are you not around at the weekend, school holidays?

Because it is. A government lead one. Nursery.. there is an element of choice. Smaller classes, more teachers per head. Not 60 kids 2 teachers

OP why are you bothering to send your child to school at all just to muck them about?