To write letter to request DS has a particular teacher when he starts reception in September

[BingBong36]

I have another son that is in year 1 now and I really disliked his reception teacher for various reasons (so did he). She has a very stern approach, there is a job share and at parents evening they totally spoke over each other etc and I just didn't warm to her. My youngest son is very sensitive summer boy and I really love the other reception teacher and feel he is best in her class.

I am going to write to the school to request this but how do I word it?

Thanks

I can assure you my 3 year old doesn't know how I am feeling as we are too busy playing superheroes and football!!!

Like I said Bing, you have very firm ideas about everything so go ahead and do it. Good luck.

Thanks, in my opinion there is no harm in asking.

Ask away then.

But do you think it's fair if parents who already know the set up get an element of choice whilst other parents do not?

Yes you asked. You argued with the people who said one thing. You sent kisses and thanks to those who said another. Seemed a bit pointless to me!

Yonic: I am sure people did it the year I started but I really don't care, it's just the way it is, I'd hardly feel it as being unfair.

Bitoutofpractice: I asked how I could phrase it I didn't asked whether to do it or not.

Sounds to me like a parent who is only able to see things/people who are cuddly, nice, cosy and make their child smile as valid useful experiences/people for their child, rather than one who recognises that in growing up we all have to encounter different types of people and grow through that experience.
Sounds like the kind of person where if anything isn't quite right, it is always down to someone else and the child never has any responsibility for it.
Sounds like the kind of adult of thinks she and her child are special cases and deserve special treatment and the usual approaches to things don't apply to her family.
Sounds like the kind of person who is pleased when anyone else agrees with her,but even when posting on an open forum which invites discussion,isn't actually open to hear the views of others,even when they are well expressed, reasoned and have many backers - OP has frequently described the views of others as 'ridiculous' despite asking for opinion and seems unable to even begin to recognise the simple points that many have made about it being wrong to accommodate one persons personal preference if it isn't possible to do that for everyone. Hey ho!

When you come on a thread with this kind of question,people WILL comment on every aspect of the issue, not just the bit you asked about - you need to accept that and be able to hear their comments without saying they are all ridiculous if you want to be on a forum like this. Or are we all a bit 'stern' too?

Yeah and most people's response about how to phrase it was: don't!

I'm still interested in hearing if your husband agrees and how you dealt with the stern teacher in front of DS1 when he had her. Oh, and how they were contradicting themselves at parents' evening.

Because the other month, at dd's parents' evening, one teacher said the class was uncontrollable and far too noisy and needed to be told everything 29 times for each individual child, whilst the other had just told us they were all angels descended from on high.

Now, I just saw that as the class behaving quite differently with their teachers. Obviously I should have seen it as them contradicting each other and the first one clearly not "getting" how they needed to be handled.

Also, MN is a bit like real life. Except we can hide threads and use silly names. You tell someone "I'm going to do X" and they say "Great idea" or they say "Oh FGS don't."

That's all.

I would pop in and have a quiet word rather than write a letter. However you have to accept that you might not get your way.
All children are different. My very sensitive, August born DS got on really well with a strict teacher- he felt very safe in knowing exactly were he stood.

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You didn't say the school wouldn't know the child as well as the parent does. You said they would have no knowledge of the child and no knowledge of their needs.

And if you read my post properly you will understand that schools have a little more than paperwork and "regular info" about children before they come in.

You can switch schools as often as you wish. But in certain parts of the country it's a risky strategy because the nearest school with a space may be several miles away and it will be your responsibility to get your child there every day. Therefore not a decision to be taken in a fit of pique.

Some other parents had nothing good to say about this strict teacher but she was one of DS's best teachers.

OP, your refusal to accept how anxiety develops in children is a real concern.

Playing football with your child does not prevent him from picking up the feelings you are so convinced you're hiding from him.

Have you ever wondered why he suffers so badly with separation anxiety?

An unfortunate friend of my DS had a parent who always had problems with teachers. I watched in amazement as they took him away in yr 2 and sent him to a school that was 'wonderful' - that ceased to be wonderful in yr4 and they changed him to the next 'wonderful' school which lasted until yr 6 and then he ended up back in school A with DS again!
You can't help thinking he would have been better if mum had backed off and left him in school A to begin with.

Children are adept at picking up body language and what you don't say.

OP, if I told you now that your first child got the dysfunctional job share with Mrs Stern because all the second time round parents requested Mrs Fluffy that year, you wouldn't be pissed off about the unfairness? Honestly?

There is no back up plan I'm not going to lose sleep over this, it wouldn't be the end of the world if he did end up in the other class.

Yonic people have requested mrs stern, they are two totally different teachers and a lot of people want her. I don't.

And you didn't think that was a bit unethical to lie, and pretend that a child whose name you didn't even know was your son's best friend?

Charming.

I also found out the name of another child, a neighbour who was going into the nice teacher, and I told the head that that boy was my sons best friend and child they please be in the same class.
of course it worked

FFS!

Surb urban seriously unless he is a bloody mind reader how my 3 year old would know I want him to go in mrs x's class I don't know! FFs

I've not even discussed it with him!!

My other son doesn't not suffer from seperatoin anxiety I am not fuelling this it's just the way he is!! FFs

I think SR means the nursery son has separation anxiety.

Yes he does slightly as in he would cry for first few mins of going to nursery. He is a lot more sensitive and could do with a teacher that is not harsh and barely smiles. So shoot me for wanting the best for my son!!!