Anyone had problems with pre school? I think they are trying to label my son as autistic

[roseability]

I am pretty sure my ds keyworker was suggesting my ds is on the autistic spectrum

We are confident this is not the case, as at home and at family functions he shows no signs

We had a meeting today with the deputy head of the school (who oversees the nursery) as we had some concerns about how this has been handled

Does anyone else have experience of this?

listen dearie, you were brimming with anger long before i said denial. but if it makes you feel better to blame your emotions and your actions on this thread on others then go ahead. it really is no skin of my nose. you are only annoying yourself and avoiding teh real issue here.

supersunnyday sounded nice that is all

it was other posters who got agressive first, I am merely sticking up for myself because some of you are very forceful and tactless

actually it was you that got snappy first when you jumped on coldtits' post.

'dearie'

'brimming with anger'

'avoiding the real issue'

emotive and patronising phrases that stir people regardless and meant to provoke I think

terrible really

really gutted with your assesment of my post.

don't you fucking dare feel sorry for my son

that is unacceptable and if you have any decency you would retract that

He is a much loved little boy for whom I have given up my career and cherish every moment with

I just went in to see him sleep and my heart burst with love

How dare you

I am gutted at what maryz said I really am

Look I fucking grew up with narcissistic parents who had to be right. If you think for a second I would hurt him in any way just to be right

I am so upset by that, I don't know what to say

she is entitled to feel sorry for whoever she likes. you have no say over that. eejit.

Rose really sign off - you are just getting upset.

Tomorrow I think it might be useful to remember pre-school advisory team and/or forepath. Both have the potential to save you a lot of is he/isn't he time. And in the case of pre-school advisory offer help in a more general way even if they decide that no assess,met is needed.

i am not the one swearing at people.

i am a lovely person and a fantastic mum. your opinion on that is neither required nor desired. and no, i wont fuck off.

actually I'm feeling kinda sorry for the poor nursery nurse.Badly done in terms of process but talking to parents about SEN can be a blimmin minefield!

And to clarify pre-school advisory might be called something different in your area but everywhere has them. They go into nurseries (all nurseries Inc,using private ones) in this sort of situation and can advise the nuersery and parents and refer if necessary.

The problem is, afaict, that the nursery haven't done a good job so it's hard to have faith in what one lone nursery worker has said, with apparently no discussion with the SMT(?), based on ds sometimes doesn't follow instruction and likes to play with castles a lot. I can understand Rosebility's reluctance to instigate assessment based on that...or are the nursery supporting the keyworker,given she had forms to hand? IMo, the nursery ought to do their observations (as they ought to do on all children anyway) and ask the EY SENCo to observe so any concerns that arise then have authority, are evidence based & can give Roseability some confidence in what's happening.

er pixie it was said to me first

i was called an eejit also

but you implied i was a hypocrite because i said it and then couldn't take it

no i am not like my four yr old - that is a discredit to him

Rose, get a grip. Go and have a cuppa and do NOT look at this thread anymore. You are losing all perspective.

Sorry. I say this in your best interests.