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Kanga Mamas/ No NCT/ new thread

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Valdeeves · 17/03/2014 04:59

New thread - happy Monday!

Just incase you are wondering this is a thread for premmie mums who feel like they have missed out on the NCT classes experience and would like to chat.

I have missed out twice as has had two premies!
One of which seems to be wide awake at 4am - I have just fallen over a toy trying to get to her and am now cuddling her praying she'll drop off fast!
How's everyone?

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MultipleMama · 17/06/2014 22:58

That's brill news!! So glad you managed to get it sorted! :)

Halo was in hospital last night due to troubled breathing. Turns out his asthma had flared up so they gave him a steriod injection and a high dose of 02.

Halo is a reliever for his asthma but we had more sucess with his nebulizer than the stupid inhaler however they know realise that his asthma is getting worse and isn't stable enough to just rely on the inhaler, so they've got him a preventer and switched his reliever for a LABA (combination) inhaler. He still to have his morning nebulizer but his lung doctor thinks this combination of treatments will make difference and hopefully stabilize him.

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Valdeeves · 18/06/2014 20:23

How's his breathing today?

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Valdeeves · 18/06/2014 20:24

Everyone ok?

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MultipleMama · 18/06/2014 22:19

Still having a little trouble but a lot better than before. He hates the face mask (for spacer) though. Screams murder! Haha.

How's your LO? The Chickenpox gone? x

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Valdeeves · 23/06/2014 21:30

All gone and just got back from a few days away - what's happening your end?

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MultipleMama · 23/06/2014 21:51

Everything has been pretty calm. Enjoyed a lovely night away with DH on saturday at the theatre (Phantom of the Opera was amazing!) I hated being away from Halo though and I called to check on him and surprisingly he was well behaved for BiL :)

Glad to hear your LO's are doing better. Hope you had a few lovely days away. Xx

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Valdeeves · 24/06/2014 21:58

I love Phantom - am a real musical fan - my career is linked to the theatre though so it's not surprising!
DD is waiting for hearing test - still no real speech and nearly two.

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MultipleMama · 24/06/2014 22:21

I love the Phantom too, and I'm a Cats fan too but DH thinks it's too creepy and hates when we're in "the mood" and I spoil it by singing RumTumTugger! Grin... I wanted K's middle name to be Mistoffelees but DH veto'd it :(

Hopefully, she's just a late bloomer and there's nothing serious halting her development, but fingers crossed, you get some answers xxx

MultipleMama · 26/06/2014 19:28

So... #7 is in the oven...

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Valdeeves · 27/06/2014 17:54

Congrats!!! So I'm guessing no more harsh hockey assessments for a loooong time!

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MultipleMama · 27/06/2014 18:02

Yep, no more ice skating for a looong time either! :( Found out Wednesday quite a shock, and no idea what my dates are, DH hasn't taken it well, and hasn't spoken to me since Wednesday except when he drops his guard dealing with the DC and when he remembers he clams back up, so yeah. Not a happy start. Mixed feelings on both sides, I had just got my head around not having anymore, and DH had made his thoughts perfectly clear, it's not the right time at all. We're keeping the baby but it's so hard to attach myself to the thought at the minute. DH wants space and he doesn't want me talking about it until he's ready. I have scan booked for 18th Jul which DH knows about but... it's an utter mess.

Bankholidaybaby · 27/06/2014 20:18

Congratulations. If you're definitely going ahead with the pregnancy, it's a waste of his energy being cross about it, and it will be sad for the baby if there's any resentment after s/he is born. Have you thought about counselling to help you both to articulate and overcome your feelings?

MultipleMama · 27/06/2014 21:29

I won't say he's cross more upset and shocked. Once he's had time to himself he'll talk to me about he's feeling. I think he's scared. When we decided to not have anymore his main reason was because he said he was scared of having to go through another pregnancy in case it turned out like the last one as there's more a risk happening again, he said he was scared he wouldn't be able to cope again. I'll give him some time while I use this time to sort myself out.

MultipleMama · 02/07/2014 04:31

Hey ladies :)

So exhausted. Been unable to sleep all night only thing I've had is a cat-nap!

DH has come round to the idea and has even bought baby it's first rattle and given them a nickname; bumble.

Still bloody clueless on dates.

How is everyone?

Bankholidaybaby · 02/07/2014 21:48

Hello, my husband has been away for nearly two weeks, which has been tough.

We have an appointment with an ophthalmologist for my son on Friday as the health visitor thinks there's a squint. I'm so short sighted, she says he should have been checked over by now anyway.

Mmama do you have a scan lined up? I'm so pleased your husband is planning for the baby's arrival with the rattle!

MultipleMama · 02/07/2014 22:36

That must be tough! I hated when I was away from DH when Halo was in NICU in Berlin.

I see a Ophthalmologist for my eyes every 3 months. I have exstensive scarring on my eyes with no known reason how I got them, and recently became short-sighted (short and near in my left eye weirdly), although a relatively low prescription and I have an astigmatism. None of my family have eye problems so although I do think he should have been tested I don't think it's because you're short-sighted.

I hope it all goes well for him! :)

Scan is booked for July 18th when I think I'll be 8 weeks so we'll be able to see if there is a heartbeat. DH is nervous and scared about another pregnancy that could go wrong but he's happy at the prospect of one last child. And if this pregnancy goes smoothly and no complications then we'll be having a freebirth as DH and myself cannot stomach another clinical birth unless we have to. A-Team's birth is still raw xx

Bankholidaybaby · 03/07/2014 00:11

The HV said if a parent had glasses before they were 7, the baby should have his eyes checked by an ophthalmologist. I am very short sighted and have astigmatism. I'm going to the same department myself next month as I'm having problems.

I had a 6 week scan. It was lovely to see my baby's heart flashing at us.

I have had the opposite reaction to you about birth location - I would always want a hospital setting now in case anything went wrong. My labour was very fast, so I might not have that option unless I camp out in the hospital car park from 30 weeks or something, but it's what I'd prefer. I think if I was pregnant again I'd have to prepare for a home birth just in case.

MultipleMama · 03/07/2014 00:40

I never knew that about glasses before 7. Well I hope both your appointments go well for the both of you.

I've had to call and rearrange mine til mid-september because I need to an angiography preformed and they won't do it if I'm less than 3mo pregnant.

See, I'd rather be home. To be able to be in my own bed, relaxed and in a calm situation. I find hospitals very stressful.

Mama1980 · 03/07/2014 11:11

Wow Mmama congratulations am thrilled for you and glad your dh is coming round to the idea. Here's hoping for a smooth pregnancy for you ThanksThanksThanks

I hope you don't mind a little rant there is nowhere else I could share, and I know you ladies understand. My sister in law is in labour- all morning I've been receiving a happy updates, everyone sharing news and progress and I'm thrilled and so happy for them. But I've also just sat down and had a good cry, I've given birth twice and my children's entries into the world haven't been greeted with so much as a congratulations, only fear, terror and are they still alive? I missed the first two weeks of ds2 s life unconscious in icu. No newborn cuddles for me, no happiness for my family just total terror. And it's not fair.
Don't get me wrong I know how lucky we are, we literally cheated death but it's not fair. And they and to perform a hysterectomy to save my life so no more babies.
Looking at my darling boys I am so happy but just sometimes it hurts. I want to give them the world but my crappy body meant they and to suffer and fight in a way I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.
I know I'm lucky and I'll be fine but just right now, I wish it could been so different.

MultipleMama · 03/07/2014 13:26

It hurts, doesn't it? All you wanted was at least one positive person who when they saw you smiled and told you congratulations instead of looking at you with pity. I felt screaming "they're not dead so don't look at me like they are." The only siblings/in law I have are male and are either seperated or gay so I'm saved from having to watch family members to the song and dance routine. You're well within your right to feel hurt and upset when your own was taken from you and then have to watch someone, you do love and someone you are truely happy for, be swarmed with congratulations and happy chatter.

Feel free to rant here :) x

MultipleMama · 05/07/2014 18:52

Happy 30th birthday, to my beautiful soulmate and the father of our spirited children. I love you xx Flowers

I have a doctors appointment on Tuesday because even though I was left to sleep, I got an hour's sleep tops (broken in to parts). I'm exhausted but going into town tonight for DH's birthday while my BiL babysits. Just waiting for DH to find his shoes...

MultipleMama · 15/07/2014 12:54

Hey, ladies.

How is everyone? :)

MultipleMama · 21/07/2014 14:19

14

MultipleMama · 21/07/2014 14:20

14 weeks PG, today! ;)

Mama1980 · 22/07/2014 08:17

Smile Thanks Congratulations again mmama. Wow 14 weeks how are you feeling? (Other than the obligatory exhausted Wink) how's halo and everyone doing?

Thanks for your earlier reply, yep it hurts some days are harder than others. I confess to feeling the odd pang when my sil is complaining about lack of sleep with a newborn, etc etc. but my new niece is gorgeous and healthy.

Alex is now walking everywhere at a hundred miles a hour. We went to a music festival this weekend it tipped it down, mine would be the children soaked to the skin covered in mud having the best time ever Smile even my youngest at 7 months decided mud was the way to go. It makes it all worth it to see them together like that.

How is everybody else?