Kanga Mamas/ No NCT/ new thread

[Valdeeves]

New thread - happy Monday!

Just incase you are wondering this is a thread for premmie mums who feel like they have missed out on the NCT classes experience and would like to chat.

I have missed out twice as has had two premies!
One of which seems to be wide awake at 4am - I have just fallen over a toy trying to get to her and am now cuddling her praying she'll drop off fast!
How's everyone?

Hi , just read through seems everyone has had a sleep deprived week, the little one has a terrible immune system, shes been so unwell and wakeing all through the night ,
Ive never heard that word "babymoon" before but i think you defenatly miss out on important bonding with a prem baby its taken me until now to really feel love how i think it should be, with my first who was full term the moment she was handed to me i felt overwhellming love , so it defenatly makes a differance only looking throgh an incubater ,
How old were your babys when you got your first cuddle?

Hope your LO feels better soon! Halo is still dealing with a chest infection that refuses to go which keeps triggering his asthma. Nightmare!

I held Artie as soon as she was born for a few minutes, and then I held her later that day.

I held Halo for the first time when he was around 9/10 days old, and then had to wait around 5 weeks to hold him again due to his health. There was a time when he could only be touched when necessary because the slightest touch gave what was described as a "mini heart attack".

After 5ish hours. I can't even recall seeing DS after he was born. I just recall him being whisked off by the NICU team. Really sad i don't have that memory.

The only thing I remember is the consultant holding Halo up and saying, "he's alive" and then a nurse saying, "he's gotta now!" Before rushing out the room with them. I made DH go with them.

We've agreed that if there's no complications than #7 (TTC in Aug :) ) will be an unassisted homebirth - well, I say unassisted but my brother, who's a midewife in russia, will be present.

7 children!!!! Wow. Go you. I think i can only go through this one more time

No. 7 on way congratulations . Im done at 2 .
They also swiped lo away before i could see her than put me on a ward i couldnt walk because of the spinal and was begging for someone to take me to her it was 10 hours before i set eyes on her and 48 before i could hold her only for 5 mins though,

I'm done at 2 - both preemies as well, getting earlier so pretty much advised not to have another. Pregnancies tough for me anyway so that's fine - I'm blessed with these two!
I got to have my first within the first ten mins but they did have to work on him - his agpar score wasn't good. He had a lot of problems are we are rhesus incompatible.
My second I held briefly - she looked terrible and was clearly suffering. They took her away and I didn't see her until the next day. I held her after 48 hours - like you Fraggle, I wasn't mobile after the birth so it was hard going.

I remember being really shocked by how wired up she was. Luckily she improved very quickly - I found the combo of the incubator and a gazillion nurses helping me to breast feed pretty stressful (although they meant well.) We bonded on the first night she came home

Valdeeves im glad you bonded with your lo as soon as she was home how long did they keep her for, i found it quite difficult juggling my time between my 2 girls backwards and forwards to the hospital it was only 6 weeks for us but it felt like so much longer (i am aware im one of the lucky ones)

Halo was 1lb 9oz and you're right about the wires. They just seems to be everywhere. I am glad you got that bonding time with her! Halo's team was great but I felt more truely involved and more able to bond in Germany - outstanding care.

Artie spent around 9 weeks in SCBU I think and Halo was in a total of 20 weeks.

Unable to sleep and Dieter is cranky tonight so we're watching Toy Story in German snuggled in blankets haha.

Went to Sunday dinner at the In Laws today. We decided to walk instead of taking the car. We took both double strollers and a boba in case A got tired of walking. It took us 1 and a half hours to get there and 1 hour and 45 mins to get home.

My legs are starting to ache!

I bet they are!!! Did you sleep well? Mine was only in for 16 days - we were very lucky and steroids before she was born. Her birth weight was good for her gestation which sped things up.
Went out to a farm park yesterday - feel knackered today - sitting playing trains with both - need breakfast and a lazy day - but that's no going to happen!!

You and your DH sound like a really good team. I can't believe you're not constantly exhausted with so many LO's.
I'm like you Val, wishing for a quiet day but it hasn't been so far!!! X

I managed about 5 hours sleep in total which is good for me! DH is working an extra shift so to entertain the DC on a boring Sunday I've shoved them in the backyard with papers, paint and toys. I should have thought the paint through... the poor dog...

I'd like to think we're a good team. I think it helps that we have the same ideals and ways of parenting even though we vary and argue on certain things! :) I am constantly in a state of some exhaustion - DH calls me a swam, calm on top, but crazy paddling underneath - which is probably true haha.

I'd love a quiet day too! Cannot wait for DH to come home, he's taking 4 of the DC out swimming with the BiL so I'm praying in all the Gods that exist that Halo calms the hell down - this dude will not stop screaming!

Fingers crossed for you MMama. DH has just taken DS out to collect another toy! A Jumperoo, it's looks fun though. DS is fed up of being on the floor but can't sit up.
I've crawled into bed for a quick snooze. Mmmmm clean, crisp sheets x

The jumperoo is good. K loved it as a baby :) Enjoy your nap! :)

I want a nap - the jumperoo is awesome - two children have been through mine and we sold it as they are so popular.
Do not know what is wrong with me today - seriously exhausted - cannot face the hectic week of children's classes, pick ups and drop offs and my part time job. The weathers been rainy on and off we haven't been out but honestly I couldn't have faced standing in the cold somewhere. My OH is as grumpy as I am. A long nights sleep is definitely in order. I keep walking past the vast collections of laundry in the house and avoiding. Mamma - you have six children right? Here I am moaning with two!

Every mother is allowed a good moan! . Yup, 6 beautiful but absolutely insane children.

We are thinking of hiring a weekend housekeeper but I think we're going to hold off until the K & A start school in Aug.

My maternity leave is up on 14th April so I'll have try and work in 4 hours of writing/editing 5 days a week. I am looking forward to it actually but not the juggling part!

A nap sounds really lovely right now!

Nearly ready for bed at last am also very tired this weekend, ha the dreaded laundry it never ends and its not so much putting on a wash its the drying , folding , ironing , sorting and putting away that gets me.
Mmama i thought you was a writer from how you write and your choice of words

Hi ladies can I join you?
DS1 is now 4 years old but he was a prem - 35 weeks.

I am now 28 weeks pregnant and this pregnancy is not as smooth as I wanted. Two weeks ago I stayed two days in hospital because I suspected I was leaking. There was also an infection, I was on antibiotics, etc. Things seem to have calmed down a little although I feel by body is not copping and I am not sure how long this baby will stay inside.

Hi liquidambar, welcome and have a cup of tea xxxx
I think I am heading for bed, OH asleep on sofa. Had a glass of wine but sooooo tired xxx

Welcome, Liquidambar. Fingers crossed your baby holds on longer. My LOs managed to hold on just over a week. Have they put you on bed rest?

I love writing, Livenlet, I'm so lucky to be able to do it as a job - even though it's casual work and when I'm requested. I love being editor, and being a dog handler but writing is my true passion.

I need sleep but Halo seems to be having a tough night, he won't latch, he's having Bradys and he won't let anyone but DH hold him and to top it of Halo has a 10am OT appointment and no one to look after the DC, so I have to bring them with me. And I have to use public transport. This should be fun.

Night ladies. x

Good luck Mama - with your plans today? Did you get any sleep last night?
Off Ballet shoe buying/swimming/park playing/Supermarket shopping/ play date/dinner with little friends.
Busy day! Xxx

Morning ladies, welcome liquidambar, hope your little one holds on as long as possible, you must be very anxious.
Mmama also sending you good luck wishes for your journy i dont envy you this morning, its always lovely to have a job that involves something you love to do,
Valdeeves nore do i envy you sounds like a very busy day .
I have a boring morning am waiting for the contracters to come and fix bathroom taps i hate renting i wish i could by a house of my own ..

Welcome Liquid. Good luck with this pregnancy. Sending positive thoughts and wishes.
Can someone reassure me please. Starting weaning DS a wk ago. Most of the food he just pushes out and he only really takes a few swallows. I'm only giving him two spoons full. He's over 5 months actual and i think he's ready. I've never weaned before. When should i start to see some progress? I know every baby is different. Just feel like I'm doing something wrong!