Failed abortion at 10 weeks. Very difficult to access abortion post 10 weeks

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Has anybody else experienced a failed medical abortion (the one which you take pills for)?
Mine failed after rather painful contractions and passing of a big clot. I was still feeling very unwell (severe pregnancy sickness and high blood pressure: my reasons for not being able to continue with the pregnancy to begin with) after the pills, went back to the clinic who confirmed I was still pregnant.
Places readily offer the pills 10 weeks and under but after that date is has been so HARD to get help with a surgical abortion. Places wait weeks to get back to you just to say they don't receive funding for surgical abortion (which is required after 10 weeks) or their nearest clinic is in Bolton... I'm from London.
Something very weird is going on here and I am so unwell.... GP's can't do anything as its all dealt with by outside organisations now. I'm now 13 weeks 5 days and, as I say, desperately ill being told my blood pressure is so high I have to go to A&E and living off prochlorperazine to stop the sickness and NOBODY is helping me. I'm doing all of this with a bouncy, autistic 4 year old and I don't know what to do 😪
Anybody else experienced this? Any advice?

Thanks, Mums ❤

so the clinic confirmed you weee pregnant but didn’t offer anything further?

How strange. You’ve contacted BPAS, NUPAS and Marie Stopes?

Has the clinic confirmed that there is still a heartbeat? Because if not the EPU would be able to help you arrange surgical management. If they've not scanned you the walk in EPU at St Thomas's is excellent. I think it would be worth a visit to them regardless as they should be able to signpost you if nothing else.

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Yes, all of the above

so the clinic where you had the failed abortion confirmed you were still pregnant and then….?

Thank you! I'm going to have to try them. I'm at a loss now

and? they all said “nothing we can help with”?

Yes confirmed heartbeat and I've had my 12 week scan with regular NHS midwives and sonographer

And I said I needed to think about what to do next as I was in shock. I called them after a week to which they said it would need to be surgical as I was over ten weeks and they (NUPAS) didn't offer that.

NuPAS don't help past 10 weeks

MSI and BAPAS haven't got back to me

So what did BPAS say?

That’s very strange I used to work in london (not long ago) and there was a central booking number with the aim to complete terminations within a couple of weeks even for surgical. Try this number 0345 300 8090 the recent ‘reviews’ seem to say it’s quick and MSI is well known. I’d be flabbergasted if at that gestation they said there’s nothing they can do.

It's not new, I had a surgical abortion many years ago and had to travel 200 miles away.
Could you get the train? Sorry they're being so useless. You'd think London would have loads of clinics.

Thanks, but I've been waiting on BPAS for more than a week now 😔

You may need to go private if none of the above are helping.

I had a surgical termination of a multiple pregnancy just after 10 weeks several years ago and there were multiple clinics in London that offered it. There are absolutely clinics that do terminations in London much later than this. What exactly are you being told?

I'm so sorry ypu experienced that and any other women are too. This is ridiculous.... it isnt a fun day put we did on purpose huh?
I will travel if needs be it'd just hard with childcare

how did you contact MSI and BAPAS?

did you actually speak to someone?

and you’re saying they said “oh we will give you a buzz back”

and a week later neither have?

I beg your pardon?! I needed the go ahead from my GP regarding surgical procedures due to my chronic illnesses and new ones from being pregnant. To which NUPAS said, get back to us. Which I DID. To which they said they cannot help.
.again, how DARE you. I will be reporting this.
Unacceptable behaviour for munsnet

NUPAS wouldn't touch me without my medical records and KNEW they disnt offerr surgical post 10 weeks but never declared that.

I am being left hanging and nobody is getting back to me so I cobtacted GP to hurry things along who cannot help with it... time is going on and each week is adding the the gestation

go on the website and there’s a link to NUPAS clinics that offer surgical abortions