Medical abortion

[Mummy8908]

Hi All,

I hope you are doing well. This is my first thread on here, so apologies if I make any errors.

I just wanted some support really. I am almost 7 weeks pregnant, despite using contraception. It was completely unplanned and has really concerned me, as I am going through some health issues at the moment.

Due to my health issues, I have decided to have a termination. It really upsets me as I didn't want to go down this route, but Im not well. Luckily, my husband is very supportive and says my health comes first.

I have opted for a medical termination. I've been in and out the hospital a lot the past few weeks and I wanted to do the termination at home. My mum is available to look after me when DH is at work and DS is at school.

I am planning to take the first pill on Tuesday after my appointment and the second lot of pills on Wednesday.

Could anyone advise me who has gone through this? How did you manage pain wise? What pain killers did you take and when?

Please don't tell me horror stories or make me feel guilty. Like I said, it's for medical reasons. I believe women should have the option to terminate if they are not in a position or ready to have a baby. Contraception can fail at any time.

Thank you for all your support. ❤

@AdoremoM @Mummy8908 Hope you both get on ok today 💞

Im day 4 post MA. Just got back from a 45 minute dog walk and bled heavier than any other day, I’d say half a pad. Not loads but I definitely saw a difference the more I moved my body.

I think I read the more you exercise the heavier you can bleed so I’m back home taking it easy now. Also feel slightly crampy after my walk.

Hi all

I'm on my second dose of miso
Passed a huge clot and bleeding only when I seat on a toilet

I was wondering is I could take the second dose of miso Vaginally like I did with the first 4 doses
Because I can barely keep anything down in my stomach and trying to avoid every side effects that comes with drugs.

For pain I would rate it 5/10
Manageable with paracetamol.

Hi All,

So today I took all 4 tablets vaginally. The pain became quite intense but I took cocodamol and it lessened.

Then I inserted the last 2. Like you @AdoremoM I couldn't keep anything down and I actually vomited twice today. So I took miso vaginally as I didn't want to risk vomiting out the tablets.

I've passed some clots, some grayish clot (sorry tmi) and heard a plop in the toilet - I didn't check what it was. Bleeding normally now, and have cramps but not as bad as before.

Feeling drained and honestly weak from it all but grateful I got through it. I hope you are ok @AdoremoM.

@Flowermama12 how are you now? I tried moving today to get things moving and it hS helped. I hope you are ok after your walk?

🌼 ❤

It has helped** sorry for any typos, not feeling myself obviously.

Hi I'm glad you're feeling much better

I passed a huge clot not sure if that's all

Still
Have mild cramps it's 4 hours after the first 4 miso and took the 2 miso extra in my cheek
Stayed for a while and I could t hold it down
Took it out and put the unmelted one in my vagina

Still bleeding
Like pee when I sit on a toilet seat

Anxious and don't know if may have passed out all clot

Cramping is still much felt
And wondering when it will all get better

I'm just going to sleep and hopes to feel better tomorrow

@Mummy8908 Glad everything is going on for you and by the sounds of it is manageable 💞👏🏼
I didn’t notice anything greyish but I think everything was so covered in blood I couldn’t really see anything 🙈, I passed a lot of clots so hoping everything came out🤞🏼 The fact you are passing clots is a really good sign. My bleeding was never really heavy but definitely heavier today with the walk but it’s gone back to light since I lay down. Hopefully when you wake tomorrow the sickness will be gone and you can get something to eat 😊 you have gone through the hardest part, now you can try and relax a little ❤️

The changes out bodies go through in such a short few weeks is crazy. I tried my jeans on today and wouldn’t button, not even close and they fit me a month ago 😢 I’m very bloated. My partner keeps telling me to be kind to myself but it is frustrating. Can’t wait for my body to feel like normal again. I’m sure you’re the same.

Hello - can I join the conversation? It’s been a reassuring read so far, and I hope all of you going through medical abortion right now are okay.

I’ve got my scan and tablet appointment tomorrow, so I could potentially take the pills home on the same day if they deem it safe for me. I’m terrified of the medical option, and wanted the surgical option, but the wait for that is 3 WEEKS. I’m nearly 7 weeks now, so would be 10 by the time I got the procedure done. I’ve really struggled, mentally (only sore boobs, fatigue and nausea physically), being temporarily pregnant - I can’t bear the idea of having to remain this way (or worse) for another 3 weeks.

I’ll be honest, I thought there would be a wait, with the NHS but I wasn’t expecting this. Another 3 weeks of anxiety, not being able to work, or sleep at night, or socialise properly, or focus on anything, really - and not tell people why I’m acting so distant. So I feel like my only option is the tablets - which I was told I can still refuse at the appointment and book in for surgery if I really still can’t fathom the idea.

I think you’re all so brave, and I want to be that way too. But I’m terrified of the long process of the pills. What I might see, how painful it will be, whether it will work. There are so many horror stories online!

I suppose I don’t yet have a question but wanted to join the conversation so I can have some people to talk to who are going through the same thing in the coming days 🙏🏻

Oh - actually, I do have a question about painkillers. I’ve never taken codeine so don’t even know what the brand names are for this? (Eg if Nurofen is a brand name for ibuprofen) Might be a dumb question that google can answer but whilst I’m here might as well ask…

Thank you!

Don't be terrified by the horror stories you read online
The pain with MA is bearable

Took miso yesterday vaginally
Laid down for 2hours and cramps were bearable
Got a little bit intense, went to the toilet and passed my first huge clot
And bleeding became heavy with every pee
The pain became less after the heavy bleeding had passed.

I guess I've been feeling dizzy and really tired maybe because of the codein ( 15mg)
Bleeding has been less just spotting
Little cramp but do not need meds to help with that .

Trust me you'll
Be fine

I might be feeling dizzy not from the bleeding but from the emotional stress I've been through the whole time from finding out of the pregnancy and my health anxiety coupled with the drugs..

Trust me you'll be fine

@kalex89 you will be fine honestly 💞 I know the thought of going through this is terrifying because that was me also six days ago😩 the worst thing I could’ve done was to read other peoples experiences online, because the people that come to write their experiences online usually come to write things are negative.

I was terrified, not sleeping, couldn’t stop crying and just wanted to hide. My anxiety way through the roof but I can honestly say it’s been totally fine and nothing like I read online, so please don’t be scared.
The pain was manageable with just paracetamol and ibuprofen for me. I wouldn’t even say it was really that painful.

you will be ok 💞 just relax and take it step by step. Cramps that you do get are like period cramps and they build up in intensity so you can manage it with a hot water bottle and pain relief ❤️

Thank you - and @AdoremoM ! - for your reassuring words.

I just cried on my boss, and I cried twice on my boyfriend earlier while he was at work. Today has been emotional. I’m drained and haven’t left the bed. I joined two meetings at work with my camera off but couldn’t write anything - so it came to the point where I had to alert my boss to fact that something personal is going on right now, and I need some support with deadlines etc. I have barely eaten or drank (going to fix this in a sec).

I think it’s cos I’d convinced myself it was surgical option only for me - and all my research was based on that.

@Mummy8908 thanks for sharing how it went for you yesterday as I was going to ask - well done it sounds like you managed it really well and you've been a really great help x

@AdoremoM well done, thanks so much for sharing your experience too. I'm so happy your pain was manageable especially with you sharing the difficulties you were having before. you've been a great help x

I had my 4 vaginally yesterday too at around 1pm. I threw up a total of 3 times and couldn't keep any food down. At it's worst, I'd really rate my pain at 9.5/10, and I guess thats when the pregnancy was passing as it went down after that. I hope it doesn't sound scary to anyone if they read this but it really hurt and I was so dehydrated I couldn't cry or anything.

Overall I did feel prepared thanks to this thread, and I still knew everything I was going through was 'normal' so wasn't too scary just uncomfortable. Like Mummy9808 I'm also glad just to be on the other side and finish recovering. All of you ladies have really helped me I'm really glad I found this thread. xX

Hi All,

I hope you are all okay today.

I hope you are recovering after your terminations or feeling OK if you are about to start.

@abitscaredd I'm glad you are on the other side too! How are you feeling now?

I just wanted to ask you all, has your nausea completely subsided after your termination or its there a little?

I'm not vomiting like I was but teeny tiny nausea and I can eat more now. Boob soreness is there but becoming less gradually.

Thank you all for your help and support 🙏 ❤

The sickness pretty much disappeared with the first tablet for me.

Then after the MA was completed, it disappeared completely.

I'm glad you're all feeling a little better after the MA.

I'm currently 2 weeks post MA. I'm still bleeding.
I had light bleeding for the first few days, then it increased for probably about a week, with red blood.
This then changed to brownish blood, with probably the same volume.

I'm now barely bleeding, so no need for me to use pads.

I'm pretty sure I've ovulated already. All my normal signs of ovulation appeared and I've got sore boobs back.

Mood wise, I'm miserable. I'm not sure how much is related to the pregnancy and abortion and how much is due to all the other stress I've been dealing with.
So during pregnancy, my dad was admitted to hospital and he's still not well.
I suffer horrendously with migraines and this was something the pregnancy increased tenfold, which led to more time off work.
I've lost my job, so overall a really rough time for me.

I've been crying a lot, for no reason. But some of that started just after the MA, before I lost my job.

So not sure if it's PND mixed with my life stresses?

Either way, I can access free counselling sessions through MSI, but those are a 3 week wait.

So if you feel like you may need extra mental health support, I would say to book it in asap, so that you get it sooner rather than later.

I think the whole experience throws you in a way that you never imagine. Although I don't regret my decision, I still feel a little sad.
I would rather be open about this so that if you're feeling the same way, even just a little, then you can feel assured that it is normal.

I don't think theres much out there in terms of what goes on afterwards with our bodies and getting back to normal.

@PazzyPaz I 100% agree in terms of when you said it throws you in a way you can't imagine. I imagine it's like carrying till full term and having a baby? Such a personal experience that no one can explain how you'll feel once it's over. I'm really sorry to hear about everything that's happening with you and I feel like anybody would be teary in this situation, but pregnancy etc on top, I think it's completely normal to be emotional right now. Would you say your emotions changed from right after the MA to the two weeks you're at now? Or have you felt a bit down since it happened?

@Mummy8908 my nausea went essentially immediately which I'm so happy about because that was really the worst part about my pregnancy ugh I hated it :( hopefully it'll calm down for you like everything else soon. My boobs are still quite sore, just not as bad as before so slowly they're getting back to normal I think. How is your bleeding?

Yeah my emotions changed quite a bit.
I was really struggling prior to the MA.

I had non stop migraines, so had already spent a week off work.
I was really hating being pregnant, I felt a lot of negativity towards it.
During pregnancy, I was in agony. I'd visited the hospital twice and called an ambulance on another occasion. It was making me really ill.
The abortion was actually less painful than the cramps I had whilst pregnant, which is crazy.
So actually having the MA brought me a great sense of relief and for the first couple of days after, I felt really good mentally.

Then a couple of days later, I started feeling really crappy again mentally.
Not helped by the fact that migraines were still kicking my arse.

I had a Botox appointment for migraines and ended up just bawling my eyes out on the nurse.

I cried the whole way home and I've been like that since.

I lost my job later on in the day after the botox appointment, so that wasn't a contributing factor to my emotions to start. It's just been an addition to my poor mental health. This was day 6 post MA.

I did read that you can get perinatal and postnatal depression either way, so maybe thats part of whats been going on?

I also feel that because my body is still bleeding and I still need to do the pregnancy test next week, it's feeling like an elongated process.

Although I'm confident I passed the pregnancy, it's still looming over me.

And I'm wanting things to go back to normal, but my life has been anything but recently.

Help please !!!

It's day 4 of my MA and still bleeding when I use the toilet

It never comes out when I'm resting

I notice some tiny clot in it
And wondering if this is normal

It usually gushes out when I sit for a long while and then push a little or maybe sit to pee in a toilet ..

I would say it's not as heavy as the first day but was wondering it would reduce as the day goes by .

Anyone experienced this ?

When does the bleeding reduce ?

Hi All, i hope you are well.

@AdoremoM I think it's normal to bleed a few weeks after? As long as its not too heavy , bleeding is expected. I still am, I did my MA on Tuesday. Whenever I go to the toilet and sometimes it's also on my pad.

I'm also cramping a tiny bit but nothing compared to the MA cramps.

I do hope you are ok. It will all settle down soon. Are you still cramping?

How is everyone else doing?

❤😘

@abitscaredd I hope you are well darling. My nausea is gone now, thank God I hated it. Boobs are sore but getting less and less. I'm bleeding bit lightly, not heavily. Still small cramps but nothing severe. How are you doing? @Flowermama12 I hope you are well too 🌹

It's nice to know you're feeling better .

If I may ask
How many days post MA are you ?

How was your bleeding at day 4 post MA
Just curious if it should be heavy
On day 5 or it should significantly reduce.

@AdoremoM I am 3 days post MA. I did mine on Tuesday. I haven't reached day 4 yet. It shouldn't be heavy heavy, light bleeding is ok. Is yours very heavy? Can you see it on your pad?

I see mine on my pad when I push ..
but more when I sit on the toilet ..

I'm really nervous and shaky .
Never doing this Again.

I don't know if my anxiety is making this who process worse for me

Or there is something wrong .

@AdoremoM its normal, don't worry.

The bleeding is likely to increase on days 3-5 due to your uterus shrinking back to size. Clots are normal. You can get them for up to 7 days post MA as that's how long it can be to expel all the tissue.

I'm still bleeding at 2 weeks + 2 post MA.

The bleeding increased a little at day 4 for me and stayed at the same pace for about a week, before calming down .

Also to add, I kept getting the blood coming out when on the toilet mostly, or first thing in the morning, when I do a morning trump.

It's bot pleasant but if you wear a pad overnight, it'll stop the morning leakage.

Thank you for your response.

I'm a little bit relaxed now .

But did you by any means get to change a pad every 3hours ?

Thanks @PazzyPaz that's really helpful regarding the bleeding as I was getting worried.

Has anyone else been experiencing some slight light headedness/not being able to stand for super long eg for cooking or cleaning etc? I'm feeling okay so thought I'd be fine 3 days post but I always have to sit down after a little while. I guess it's from all the bleeding :( thanks as always guys xxx