Medical abortion fear

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I took my first tablet yesterday and due to take my next lot tomorrow. I’m so scared, I’ve read so many posts and terrified myself into their being issues or it not working.
im 5 weeks. I’m a nurse so I feel like I’m very aware of the medical side and what can go wrong :(

@Jackster22 I bet you're relieved x

@brownbeauty80 good luck xx

@Theoriginalinvisiblewoman I feel exactly the same. Did you have hypermesis too? It feels like someone else made the decision for me. Hope these feelings get better. How do you know your ovulating btw? Sorry if it's too personal...I never get it right with cervical mucus or the ovulation sticks...

No, I actually didn’t have any pregnancy symptoms (except for slightly sore boobs), I terminated because I have a few health issues going on. I could have postponed the operations and investigations but then I would have had to have had them all done with a baby in tow, which would have been impossible as I would have no support except for my DH who works long hours 😫😣 I just couldn’t have made it work unfortunately, even though I was desperate too, I had to put my own health first and I wouldn’t have been the Mum I’d have wanted to be in my baby’s first months 😢

I’m sorry you suffered with hyperemesis, that must have been awful for you 🥺 I hope so too, for all of us as it’s hit me harder than I thought it would emotionally 😕

TMI but I had some discharge like I’d never had before 😳 So I did an OPK and it came up as peak ovulation. I’m 3 weeks post termination and I know you can ovulate as soon as 7 days afterwards so I wanted to be aware of my own body to avoid this happening again. I’ve never had ovulation symptoms before but I suspect it’s because we are extra fertile after a termination 😕

So relieved, I thought the bleeding/cramping was never going to end, I have been up and down emotionally but know 100% it was the right decision, hope your test is negative today. Xx

So my first bleeding was late Wednesday and by yesterday, Monday, I was down to just a few odd smears on a towel over the whole day. Nothing overnight or this morning, I think I’ve likely stopped.
I’m a bit worried I haven’t bled enough although I know my periods are usually light and this was maybe 200-300% of that.

To make it worse I’ve taken a test (stupid, I know) and it was as dark as I’ve seen it. I was hoping for slightly lighter really … I did read the leaflet about testing at 3 weeks and I’ve seen plenty of other people’s experiences that it can take a long time but at the same time, I started testing negative almost immediately when I had a 5 week miscarriage and when I had a later one at 11+ weeks the hospital did a blood HCG test and were convinced I had retained product (which the scan said I did) because of my score only 2 weeks after the bleeding had started so I’m a bit confused about how it can all be so different really.

I’m starting to get really worried that it won’t work.. and then 3 weeks to take a test.. another while to go to a scan… then to book on for a surgical 2+ weeks later when I the local clinic doesn’t even do it and I don’t have childcare at all.. I’m just so worried I’m going to be faced with terminating a second trimester pregnancy.

On the upside though I guess, it seems I’ve stopped bleeding and I suppose I can get on with my summer with my kids and just hope for the best.

Good luck to all those taking tests. I’m anxious about mine and I still have over 2 weeks to wait. I’m still very up and down emotionally. Before this happened we really wanted to be TTC in just a few months time if our other plans to be able to provide a security for a family go through in the next few months, and we will be married. It just came at totally the wrong time :( now I have no idea when/if I will feel at peace with this decision enough for it not to impact a future DC. I’m the wrong side of 35 as well which makes me anxious. I’ve also had to mute someone on social media who has just announced they are 3 months pregnant :(

Hope that I am okay to join this thread. Found out I was pregnant at 4 weeks and now 7 weeks and a couple of days. I have been reading this thread for a couple of weeks but just decided to say something now. I have had a telephone consultation with my local hospital for termination of pregnancy and now have to have a scan for pain/cramps and i am assuming to make sure my dates are correct. I feel like everything is just taking so long and the longer it takes the hard it feels to carry out the procedure. The timing is not right for me and my partner and i know it isn’t but i just feel terrible emotionally, mentally and physically as im having all the symptoms of early pregnancy and it is tough!

Oh bless you @klk92930 it’s a long process isn’t it?
I read on here a few people who had it done at 4 and 5 weeks and I just don’t know how they did that? I knew I was pregnant, I could just feel it - got a negative test and then a positive the next day, when I made my first online request .. so it really couldn’t have been any quicker! (I wasn’t actually sure what to do but wanted to start the process in case it took a while). I was still 6 and a half weeks.

I felt like you, I was less comfortable with the idea every day further along I got. Ultimately I am sure I made the right decision though.

@klk92930 sorry your going through this and it’s taking a while whilst your feeling all sorts. I think it’s also depends on where you live, I was lucky In a way as I knew I was pregnant early on, the sore boobs and tiredness and I’m usually every 28-29 days so I tested when I was five days late which was a Saturday and rang on the same day, I 100% knew it what was best for me and family and I got a phone call on the Wednesday and received pills on Thursday; I was so grateful as I would have found it harder and harder the further along I got. Hope your seen soon xx

@Theoriginalinvisiblewoman I felt like that too. Thank you. I felt like I needed to sort out my health issues first because along with the hg they were making me very very sick. My husband works night shifts and the 1 year old has started getting all her teeth now so she keeps me awake. My body didn't feel like it could carry to full term. I felt very weak. I would have neglected the one year old in pregnancy and the baby after. It's strange what life throws at you.

How long will you wait before you try again if you do?

Can I just ask everybody...my test was negative at 4 weeks but I had a prearranged scan.... nurse said it was leftover tissue or just blood...

My only concern is...lots of women test negative at 4 weeks and have no scan..they think it's all complete and like me have no pain...my nurse has panicked me thinking what is it and will I ever get pregnant again...but had I just taken the test at home...I would have just left it and not known...

@Undecided111 can you ring the clinic saying you think you haven't bled enough. Do you still have symptoms?

This is concerning, I am three weeks today and tested negative, I have no scan or anything so I assume that is it so to speak. What will they do about left over tissue ? Hope you get the answers xx

@brownbeauty80 how did your test go? Assuming it was negative?

I took my second pills 10 days ago, and bleeding finished about three days ago. My hormones feel absolutely rock bottom and I feel sad, anxious, tired, depressed - you name it. I have absolutely no interest in having sex with DP and had naively hoped we’d try to get back to normal in that way once my bleeding was over. Wondering whether any of you ladies who are a week or two ‘ahead’ of me have had a period yet or ovulated?

@Jackster22 I said I wanted to pass it naturally. I fear inserting the pills again and remembering I lose my baby. But I have an appointment on Tuesday again and maybe she'll scan again.

@scaredandanxious01 don't worry it's normal to feel like that. I'm at nearly 5 weeks, no period but things started getting better at 4 weeks.

@heartbroken22 - totally understandable , Hopefully appointment on Tuesday will help. @scaredandanxious01 im three and a bit weeks and last few days felt hormonal and down and so moody and could cry at an advert ! I was wondering if I was ready to have a period again as I do feel like this a few days before some months.

I'm sorry for everyone who's going through a difficult time right now :( I thought I'm past it now, started to feel good again emotionally and the bleeding/cramping finally stopped 12 days after I took the second pills. But yesterday, on Day 16, it hit me again....cramping, bleeding, and I felt so irritated/upset/sad all day. Bit better today. It seems to be coming in waves. On Saturday I will take my test (3 weeks after), but I have no doubt that I passed the pregnancy. Good luck everyone 🍀We can get through this!

@Jackster22 just wanted to update. I went for my scan again and the tissue is half what it was last week so she said it was just blood. If it was tissue the thickness would be the same. I'm so glad I don't have to go back.

Everybody else please hang in there it will get better with time. Your hormones are everywhere and it feels awful. Please be kind to yourself x

@heartbroken22 I’m so pleased for you don’t have to go back again, hopefully the blood will pass.

I went and had the mirena coil put back in yesterday and had another pregnancy test which was negative so the extra confirmation was good.

hope everyone is ok 👍🏻 xx

Just to update - I seem to be ovulating which I'm quite surprised at, I thought it'd take a bit longer for things to settle but it's only been just over 2 weeks since my termination. I guess I'll wait and see if I get a period in 2 weeks. It's 5 days to go til I take the special pregnancy test, praying it's negative and I don't need any follow up. I have some cheapie tests still and I've been tempted to take one just to see but know I'd freak out if any sort of line there which isn't even going to reassure me, as they're more sensitive than the special BPAS test anyway.

@scaredandanxious01 You can ovulate as soon as 8 days post termination apparently so you could very well be! I ovulated 3 weeks after mine and am now having my first period (it’s very heavy as expected 😫).

Hi All, I’m really hoping someone can put my mind at ease, I took the 2nd set of tablets at 17:50 this evening and then the third set at 20:50 and I’ve got shivers, temp but no cramping or bleeding, has anyone been through something similar? I feel like this isn’t going to work 😢😢😢 I’m 5 weeks 1 day. X

Hi @Adviseplease30 did you bleed through the night ? I would ring the advice line if you are worried at all - sending hugs xx