Pregnant 2 months after abortion

[Rose925]

I find myself in a predicament again !!
I had a termination which I heavily regret but I had my reasons . I’ve met a lovely guy very soon after even though I wasn’t looking for anything, but we ended up together and I’ve never been happier . I found out I was pregnant yesterday , I automatically felt guilt because of the termination I had and that it should be that baby , he’s being very supportive whatever I choose to do .
Abortion really isn’t in my path this time but at the same time I’m super scared about being pregnant so soon and the big changes that will happen , but the fact I’m with such a supportive man really helps .
Has anyone else been in this situation ? I really feel like I should be happy about it but I find myself freaking out and thinking about terminating but it’s just fear talking x

@Mummmaa thank you for being so kind . I honestly never expected such nasty rude comments if , if I did I definitely wouldn’t of wrote on here !
Exactly, I was on a waiting list for a reinsertation of the copper coil ( my only option on LTC) . My last one failed on me as it was coming up to its end of life .
That’s why I’m in this situation . People in here think I’m actively choosing to be putting myself through such turmoil and hell . This isn’t easy and I just hope to god they are never put in such a horrible situation. Xx

OP, if you don’t have access to functioning contraception, and are not in a stable committed relationship, then I wonder if the best thing would be to refrain from PIV sex?

Have you had a negative pregnancy test since the abortion? Pregnancy hormones can take a while to drop. It took several weeks after my surgical miscarriage for pregnancy tests to become negative

You keep saying about the coil and you can't use other forms but I'm assuming he still could have used a condom. You have been irresponsible.

OP, I would be more concerned about having a baby with a man you have only been in a relationship for a very short amount of time. Four weeks at least, eight weeks at best.

You have no idea of the suitability of him being a father, what he will be like with your child, what he will be like with your child if you split up. He has only seen the best side of you whilst dating - and you him. You have no idea how he will cope with financal pressures, pressure from being a new father. He might not like the normal pregnant you, he might not like being tied down so quickly. He might no like giving you a large portion of his to support his child.

8 weeks in OP maybe less.

Its not that your pregnant again that's concerns me its the fact you are willing to have this man in your life forever now and in your Childs when you really dont know what he is actually like

Children bring so much pressure and can really test the strongest of marriages.

For me personally I would abort - again until you know that this man will make an excellent father because you will be signing this child up to man you barely know for the rest of its life

These things happen OP, it wasn't/isn't an idea situation buts it's where you are, so just look forward now.

If you are ready and happy to be a parent then go for it, but be prepared to do it alone if your friend leaves. It really is such hard work, it will test your resilience and patience the most anything else in the world will

Be sure you are ready for this alone if needed.

OP you said you were "careful" - what do you mean?

Use condoms

Really though, if you're waiting to find suitable contraception, and you don't want to get pregnant, just don't have sex until you're protected!

OP first things first - I would try and speak to a GP because if there is a chance it’s the same pregnancy you’ll need to know especially if it’s 2 different guys and you’ve had a failed termination. So before you make any decisions I would be checking for sure it’s a new pregnancy.
In regards to the comments about contraception, I agree and I don’t. It sounds like you’ve been irresponsible with it but in all honestly I can’t say hand on heart I have always been as careful and I should have been and I think people are judging you rather harshly. You know you need to sort contraception and I don’t think you need the passive aggressive comments.

[quote Mummmaa]@Rose925 just wanted to say im here to support. I cant belive all the coments about contraception. Contraception is not as easy to get as some may think! Some girls find it hard to find contraception that works for them and agrees with their body and due to the pandemic doctors appointments to get contraception sorted is difficult! The doctors are not always understanding/easy to talk to, the doctor i saw at my 6 week check after having my little boy prescribed me the depo to inject myself at home and i wasant confident enough to speak up and say im not comftable with doing that![/quote]
Condoms are hormone free and easy to get hold of! It sounds like OP intentionally got pregnant with a man who she barely knows. She lives in fantasy land like a teenager.

@Rose925
Gosh what nasty vile replies you had on here ! I hope your ok and they didn’t upset you ? I know this threads old now but I was looking on mumsnet for abortion support and was reading this . No wonder women get depressed and suffer with so many problems when other women can be so judgmental and cruel ! Very sad .