So, er, is this a line?

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Period was due yesterday. Just done a cheap test and this appeared.

I know, I know. But I’m old! He isn’t!
I’m writing a script at the moment so I don’t fuck up what I’m trying to say
‘So, I’m not sure how this happened, but I’m pregnant... I’m pretty scared. I’m not expecting you to say anything right now as I know this I’d a huge shock-for both of us. Take as much time as you need to process this. I still don’t know how I feel about it’

OH MY GOD SERIOUSLY forget about Bob. He'll live. Right now you need to think about YOU. And whether you want to become a mother again, and what you need right now.

I think you probably know that given the circumstances you describe and the fact you can't even be sure it's Bob's, the odds of this ending in happily ever after are slim and the best case scenario is an amicable co-parenting relationship. The worst case scenario is no financial or practical help whatsoever and an awful lot of aggro and stress. And there is the impact on your existing DC to factor in.

What do YOU need right now? Someone to talk this over with? Time to think and consider your options? Leave Bob out of this until you know what you want and what to do.

And I'm sorry, but I don't think you can leave out the fact that this may not be Bob's, if and when you speak to him.

I’m pretty sure it is bobs... i can’t bring myself to drop 2 bombs on him at once. My head is pounding with all this

I would echo what everyone else is saying and take some time for yourself to wrap your head around it first.

"Pretty sure" isn't good enough in this scenario. You can't actively lead him to believe it's his baby when you know very well there's a real chance it may not be. Not unless you want him to actively hate you. If you decide to go ahead with the pregnancy you will need a prenatal or postnatal paternity test.

I know you're really stressed and overwhelmed right now OP, and I think that's exactly why you should get some support from a non-Bob person before you even think of talking to him. Can you call a family member or friend?

I agree with what everybody else here is saying, you shouldn't be worried about either man but rather worried about you. You need to decide if you want to keep them pregnancy and then have to be honest with both men and tell them there is a chance they could be a father. Sperm can live for 9 days inside a uterus and only closer to ovulation does the uterus itself encourage them to carry on to the egg. While it may be more likely that the bloke you expect is the father, it does not make it certain by a long shot. It literally could be either man that has sired the embryo.

Some proof that semen can live so long in the uterus. In reality, it could be longer than they believe as the sample size was so small.

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I feel like running away and hiding. I can’t deal with this. I just can’t

There's no rush to deal with it today or tomorrow, just breathe and take your time to get over the shock.

Please call someone who can come and be with you. Fuck coronavirus, this is an emergency. At the very least, call someone who can talk to you supportively and won't judge you.

I’ve told my friend. She was really good I knew she would be. I’ve got the DC tonight and don’t really feel like company. Me and my friend had actually planned to catch up tonight for a wine. Guess not!

He’s sent me a message saying he’s home. I think I’m going to be sick. I’m so scared to tell him

I would block him for a bit. You need space to think.

I'm concerned because I get the vibe that you really like Bob and are hoping somewhere that he steps up and wants to get serious with you. And I'm really sorry, but if that is your hope, I think it's very unlikely to happen. Also, he knows the two of you are casual, so he's quite likely to ask how sure you can be that he's actually the father.

I really don't see any good coming of you speaking to Bob right now. Try and put him to one side.

Stay calm xx talk it through with a friend - then talk to him - much better to be honest now than later .

Those lines are very faint. In my experience at a day late they should be stronger. It may be a chemical pregnancy. But it may not. You've got to what's right for you first and foremost.

Bob is probably the nicest man I’ve ever known. We get on extremely well and have such a nice time together, no matter what we’re doing. Do I think we’ll end up married? No I don’t. He knows I like him, and he likes me too. We’re just going with the flow at the moment which works(worked) for both of us

@angel0071987 I did a frer and it’s very positive

Part of me is thinking my decision will be based on his reaction. If he freaks out and wants nothing to do with me or the baby(feels so odd saying that) then I’m basically on my own. And that scares me a lot

Sorry, OP, but I think that's a really short-sighted attitude. IMO you need to make the decision based on whether you want a baby or not.

You're not in a committed relationship with Bob so I think it's very foolish to make a decision based on his staying involved and/or based on what he says while you're pregnant about how involved he plans to be.

Also, I think it would be unfair on Bob to conceal the fact you're not 100% sure it's his baby - to act like the two of you are in this together when he might have nothing to do with this is really unfair on him.

If you decide you are going ahead with this pregnancy, you will also need to contact your one night stand and inform him he's the potential father, and the three of you will need to determine whether you will test for paternity prenatally or not.

I think you should take time for yourself, have a think and make your own decision about the pregnancy.
If you decide to continue then tell him and also let him know that there's a chance he may not be the father.
At that point he can consider what involvement he wants apart from any financial support.
If you decide on a termination then really does he need to know at all, considering that this doesn't seem to be a long term relationship for either of you?

I think there's a lot of drama here too. You need to take the drama out of this situation and really think about whether you want to have another child.

Some people on here seem very sure that they know what Bob wants/thinks/feels without knowing him...!

OP you know Bob best, so do what feels right in your gut - none of us on this thread know your relationship with him or what he wants. I thought the script you wrote below sounds very reasonable and a good starting point. Totally understand that feeling of needing to get something off your chest.

It might be best to figure out how likely it is that it's the other guy's first though. What days did you sleep with Bob and what days with the other guy?

Take your time before telling him. Are you ready for the baby phase all over again? Toddlers?

Forget Bob do what's best for you, what's the worst case you tell him he freaks out - if anything his reaction will say a lot about this man you like regardless of what decision you make- 26 is old enough to know it takes two to tango.