AIBU for expecting a surgical abortion?

[Georgeoftheinternet]

Due to this virus I will have to terminate my pregnancy at home. This scares me because I don’t want the whole process and flushing everything down the toilet, plus bleeding for weeks. 3/100 don’t fully terminate.

Apologies if you are struggling to get pregnant. Everyone’s lives are different.

@Georgeoftheinternet when the vacuum part was happening the nurses were pushing down on my stomach they said it was part of the procedure. I’m not entirely sure why

@Roselilly300 sounds unusual. How many weeks were you?

Oh yes and the bleeding you still get that with a surgical. Sorry for the info but I had blood and and huge clots pouring out of me a few Days after the procedure

I have had more surgical than I care to count and have NEVER had a single problem afterwards. Physically, it was a breeze, mentally, not so much. Everyone is different but I'd always go the surgical option. I've also had one 'at home'. Horrendous.

These were for M/C

PS
I had my surgical at 11. My medical at 6/7?
I wouldn’t recommend holding out for surgical on NHS. I was put in a maternity assessment ward ( certainly appeared to be, very odd) As a youngster with cramps from tablets to dilate my cervix. everyone was horrible to me and my abusive partner wouldn’t leave me alone.
I think I passed out, I don’t know. The days after were awful.
I don’t recommend.
Tablets you can hide in youre room pretty much and say you feel sick

@Georgeoftheinternet. The anaesthetist decided on that. I have had lots of previous abdominal surgery so that might have affected their decision. I have a lot of internal adhesions which can make surgical procedures more difficult.

Jesus!! 11weeks and 6/7 weeks!! Just reread my post!

[quote Georgeoftheinternet]@onlie I have got the appointment tomorrow for the chat. I’ll just ask them to send the pills I’m feeling ill and sick of not going to the gym (which was helping My mental health).

It will be 5 weeks on Sunday since I last had sex so I think that means the scan should show a pregnancy,[/quote]
If it's 5 weeks since sex, doesn't that make you 7 weeks pregnant?

I would do a due date calculator online.

Hey with regards to hiding medication, that’s not the issue. I just want to be left alone to willow in pain/free access to the bathroom etc.

@Yesdear2021 agh awful. My sister was having a miscarriage in a corridor at a and e. Awful

@Georgeoftheinternet

I get you are upset you are not getting your own way, but don’t take it out on me

Also just to point out not everyone pays taxes, but all expect the nhs to do everything for them. It’s not a bottomless pit

As I said you have choice

@Pollypockett23 I’m only wanting to know because of the scan. I’ve paid for the scan and I don’t want it to come back inconclusive.

@Chloemol no one is taking anything out on you. Everyone pays taxes. Not everyone pays income tax, but just about everything we buy is taxed.

Pay your landlord rent money - that’s taxed.
Utility companies - pay tax on profit and employees. Also pay NI contributions and employers also pay tax.

Supermarket workers - they get paid by you buying your VAT free food. They spend their money on their car, that’s taxed.

@CJsGoldfish flower for you

What’s a m/c?

I would ring whoever you missed your appointment with- is that your midwife,psychiatrist? Is there any professional managing your care that you could ask to push for your case, This is nosy & you don’t have to answer, are you taking medication for your Bipolar?

[quote Georgeoftheinternet]@Pollypockett23 I’m only wanting to know because of the scan. I’ve paid for the scan and I don’t want it to come back inconclusive.[/quote]
I know but you are also going by how many weeks you are. So isn't it important to know?

5 weeks ago you had sex, which means you're roughly 7 weeks pregnant. Dependent on ovulation etc.

@Thuglife I’ve only missed the consult for the abortion. I’ve been kicked of the treatment plan for mental health as I’ve moved houses/gps.

Why are people concerned if I’m taking medication?

@Pollypockett23 it’s only important for the scan to see if I’m going too early.

The treatment for the termination I’ve been seeking since 17 days post sex.

[quote Georgeoftheinternet]@Thuglife I’ve only missed the consult for the abortion. I’ve been kicked of the treatment plan for mental health as I’ve moved houses/gps.

Why are people concerned if I’m taking medication?[/quote]
It may be because the thread seems a little erratic at times. Especially the twin comment.

I hope you're ok OP and can get the help you need.

Take care

@Pollypockett23 rolls eyes....

See if I wouldn’t had said I was bipolar you wouldn’t have had an issue with the twin part. It actually makes sense if you’ve read all my posts.

I’ll recap - strong pregnancy line immediately with an evening wee sample and 17 days post sex. High hormones. History of twins in family (although my mum maybe bending the truth). Phone magically breaking for first phone consult for abortion pills. Second time I didn’t do it right. Long time without periods. PCOS. I also don’t want to have a single child, I would prefer a sibling, so I’m getting all these “signs”.

With regards to bipolar, there are a lot of types and I won’t discuss what type I have and what symptoms I’ve had.... or indeed what mood I’m in at the moment.

So tell me why keeping twins is anyway linked to bipolar? Had I not said I was bipolar you couldn’t have cared. Sure it’s more work but I also don’t want to have just one child. I’m wanting to terminate as the baby father isn’t around but everything that’s happened.... it feels like it’s a sign.

@Pollypockett23 thread is erratic as I’m on my mobile and I would love to reply to each person but I reply to one and get ten replies in between.

People are being bang out of order, I’m so sorry, you should be getting the help that you need.
But I have to agree... Please get help with your mental health OP it’s really an investment and will be worth it if you choose a good therapist. You have a lot of past trauma you need to come to terms with and learn coping mechanisms for your bipolar.
I personally have borderline personality disorder and this makes me behave erratically sometimes and make poor decisions sometimes, so I completely empathise with you. The only way I manage to stay functional is by learning what triggers my episodes and living as healthily as I possibly can. I can understand for you it’s been incredibly difficult with being furloughed and the stress that has given you and also moving. Make sure you are eating enough also I’m worried that you’ve lost so much weight.
Please take care

[quote Georgeoftheinternet]@Pollypockett23 rolls eyes....

See if I wouldn’t had said I was bipolar you wouldn’t have had an issue with the twin part. It actually makes sense if you’ve read all my posts.

I’ll recap - strong pregnancy line immediately with an evening wee sample and 17 days post sex. High hormones. History of twins in family (although my mum maybe bending the truth). Phone magically breaking for first phone consult for abortion pills. Second time I didn’t do it right. Long time without periods. PCOS. I also don’t want to have a single child, I would prefer a sibling, so I’m getting all these “signs”.

With regards to bipolar, there are a lot of types and I won’t discuss what type I have and what symptoms I’ve had.... or indeed what mood I’m in at the moment.

So tell me why keeping twins is anyway linked to bipolar? Had I not said I was bipolar you couldn’t have cared. Sure it’s more work but I also don’t want to have just one child. I’m wanting to terminate as the baby father isn’t around but everything that’s happened.... it feels like it’s a sign.[/quote]
It wasn't that you think you are having twins. It's that you would abort one baby but wouldn't keep two. It doesn't make sense to me. If you can have cope with having twins, you can cope with one baby?

I didn't read the bi-polar bit until afterwards.

Anyway, I wasn't here for the attack. Sorry to provoke such a reaction.

Like I said, I hope you're ok

You are being very naive here. Private healthcare is no panacea. I know of at least three people who have had long term NHS stays following their private ‘care’. It will have cost the NHS a fortune and there is no rebate. I’ve reviewed many documents from a bodged private operation and frankly, they were awful, I was shocked. If you look for someone to sue following your injury or death, forget it. You can’t sue a private hospital, everyone is self employed.
If you call a Private ward with a medical
emergency they tell you to go to A&E, and that frankly is the least of your worries.
Beware private hospitals. The glossy brochures hide a dark underbelly.

Would*

Didnt realise it was called an MVA but had 1 at 6weeks, absolutely horrific, worst than childbirth, take pills at home or go under.

I had a very prolonged labour with only gas and air but the MVA was worse but again right choice to end.